Tuesday, September 27, 2005 9:14 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Flojo and I were with Dena this morning. She was relaxed and enjoyed our constant jabbering. So if you visit be ready to talk because Dena loves it.

Dena was in her new wheel chair today. I'm not sure if she liked it but she looked good in it. She has gained so much strength in her upper body. She was doing speech therapy when she was in the chair. Soon we will have a device that will have recorded messages on it for Dena. She will be able to press a button to have a message played. Hopefully this will help us to communicate better and know what Dena's needs are.

She continues to roll over on her side. Flojo and I could of sworn we saw movement in her right leg. I really believe she is pushing so hard right now to gain control of her right side. The rolling, leaning and kicking seem to point to her trying to gain control. It will come.

I will be with Dena tomorrow morning as well. I will keep you posted.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Monday, September 26, 2005 9:27 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Today was the team meeting and it went great. We had all the therapists, nurse leader, doctor and others in Dena's room. I sat right next to Dena and we talked to everyone about the current situation and what we should do for the future.

We will be trying to feed her less during the night so she is hungry during the day and wants to eat. We will be testing an anti-depressant to see if it will help her through the day. They will be combining some speech and occupational therapies to help Dena become more independent.

I asked them what we could do better or what we are doing wrong. They said that we are an example to other friends and families in regards to the support we are giving. They want other people to come in and see how we are doing it. This goes out to everyone that has done anything for us. Thanks and great work team! The one thing that is important is that we don't lose focus on Dena. We have to keep visiting, praying, loving and caring. She has come to expect that and we cannot let her down. I know we won't. Thanks everyone we couldn't do it without you.

Dena was very relaxed and attentive during the meeting. It was great to hear of Dena's progress. Physical said that she is gaining strength in her right shoulder and was able to push and pull with it. When Dena is walking on the parallel bars the person in front of her can't keep up. Speech says that she is focusing more but isn't in to eating much. Thus we are changing her feeding times.

All in all Eva and I came away from the meeting feeling good about ourselves and the people that are helping Dena recover.

Thought:
Anybody who said they did it all on their own is a liar. Somewhere at some point someone gave you something that drove on to your destination. Embrace the team and the energy it provides.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Monday, September 26, 2005 9:29 AM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

We were with Dena yesterday. Dena was on the grass with Caden, Rooka and myself. She enjoyed it and was happy to see us.

She continues to gain strength and dexterity in her left hand side. She is now assisting in putting on and taking off her clothes. Dena continues to reach for the cellphone with she is offered it. On Friday with Eva she grabbed a cotton ball and dabbed her face with a facial cleanser.

I am heading down there today to have a team meeting.

Remember if you visit Dena and she is agitated she may need to be changed.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Saturday, September 24, 2005 7:39 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Sorry I have slacked a bit the last few days. It seems if I do anything out of my normal routine and the updates get missed. Our great friend Dave is in town from AK. He is the one that helped get the bathroom remodel started a year ago. And I am still working on it. But he got to use the shower and put up the towel racks and tp holder. So I am getting very close.

Dave and I have been busy doing everything we can around the house. He has been a great friend since 93 and it is wonderful to have him here.

I was with Dena on Friday. She was a bit frustrated with speech therapy. I feel she is realizing her condition more and more and it saddens her. However, that is a good thing in that she is waking up more and more and knows what she has to do. I will be down there with DAve, Caden, Rooka tomorrow. I'm going to try and have Dena on the grass sitting with me tomorrow. I hope she enjoys it.

Dena we got a ton of stuff done around the house, you will be very happy.

Thought:
You can run and hide or you can fight for what you want. Never give up and fight like hell. I say it everday and I mine what I say.

With Love and Prayers for all of you,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Wednesday, September 21, 2005 9:06 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

As I'm sure everyone can see and read there is much heartache in the world today. I realize we are just a small part of it and again I appreciate all the notes, prayers, thoughts and website readings.

Please send your best to George Brehm's passing. Dena, Caden and I were to go to the G/C Family renunion this year but with what happened we were unable. I feel a since of not knowing George that should of happened. I can honestly say we are looking forward to 2006 and the completion of 2005.

I have been with Dena the last two mornings. It has been a bit tough. She is calm except when she needs to be changed. I have the feeling know that she is umcomfortable with being in that condition with people around. So please check to see if she needs to be changed and if so get an aid so Dena can be more at peace with you.

I have a team meeting, that was to be Friday, scheduled for Monday. We will be addressing all of Dena's care etc. We are going to try some different meds to help her out. I will keep you posted.

Thought:
Don't get wrapped up in your own world that miss what is going on around you. You may miss out on a great oppurtunity to help someone.

Since Dena's accident I have had four wallets fall in front of my face. I have returned everyone and I believe have saved them some great time and frustration. I am paying attention, please do the same.

Love,
Dena, Christian and Caden.

Monday, September 19, 2005 8:15 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Just a quick one as I wasn't with Dena today. Eva called me when she was in Dena's room. She said Dena was uncomfortable. So I told her to put the cellphone to Dena's ear. Well, Eva took it away before I finished. So I told Eva to ask Dena if she wanted to talk to me. Dena grabbed the phone and brought it to her ear. She listened to me while I gave her positive energy.

Eva and the nurse were very suprised. I wasn't. I know Dena needs to be challenged every day. We need to treat her as if everything is ok. And let her decide what she can and can't do. She will let us know.

I finally met the 4nonblondes on Saturday. We had lunch with my parents, Eva, Caden, Shane and Anita. It was great! They are incredible. I took them to the mountains for some great views and then we had a beer at Brighton. They enjoyed it. We were going to go out later that night but they called in tired. I couldn't believe 4 party girls from Chicago quitting early on a Saturday night. Just kidding girls, I was in bed by 10pm. We will stay in touch. The one thing I couldn't believe was the similarities between Dena's and DEna's hand writing. It was almost exact. Dena, my girl, will love them.

Thought:
Don't get behind because it takes more energy to catch up. Trust me I'm dealing with it right now.

LOve,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Saturday, September 17, 2005 9:43 AM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I was with Dena Friday Morning. She was relaxed and focused. Her leg hasn't been moving as much. She isn't having fits of frustration as much either. She is constantly practicing rolling over. She reachs for the left side rail as well as the right but she only rolls over to her right.

I feel very soon she will be able to get some words going and continues to gain control of her body.

I'm pretty sure Dena played a joke on me yesterday. For years her and I have joked back at each other about giving each othe a kiss and then you wipe your mouth, "Oh I'm sorry do I have cooties?", "Oh you just wipe my kisses away." etc, etc.

Well yesterday I gave her a kiss and she quickly brought her hand up to wipe her mouth, she was looking right at me. I said, "Oh Dena you don't like my kisses anymore." Her face got this glow and it seemed like her whole face lit up. She was excited that I got her sense of humor. I almost cried and she was laughing inside. I could feel it.

Her improvements are small but they are constant. The therapists, nurses and aids continue to see her recovery rate as remarkable. I don't think any of us are suprised. With all the support, prayers and thoughts how could she not feel us all pulling for her. And how could she not be so motivated.

With Love,

Christian, Dena and Caden.

Wednesday, September 14, 2005 9:54 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,
It was a great morning with Dena. We talked quite a bit and she really enjoyed it. She is a great listener.

Dena and I then worked on her rolling over. When she trys to roll over please check to see if she needs to be changed. She has been doing that to help out. She is amazing.

Next, Julie from speech therapy came into Dena's room and I asked her if she had brought coffee because it looked she had. Alas she had not, but Julie offered to bring some coffee from the therapy office. She said they grind the beans there and that is how Dena likes her coffee, freshly ground. She came back up and Dena proceeded to have about 12 spoonfuls of coffee. She was quick in her response time, managed the liquid gracefully, stayed focused and didn't get agitated. It was awesome. We then worked on her picking out some que cards with pictures on them. Julie would ask her to pick one card and Dena was able to make it happen. At one point Dena grabbed both cards and let out sigh that said, "Huh, I can't believe I grabbed both them."

After all this and some practice rolls and a few more changes Jo stopped in the room. She was there to give Dena a massage. Dena was stoked. She showed off for Jo rolling over and then relaxed. I left her in the great hands of Jo. Thanks Jo!

Thought: When things get a bit scary it's good to talk about them. It is a release. It gets out of you into the open where you can take it head on.


Love,
Dena, Caden, Christian.

Tuesday, September 13, 2005 9:12 PM CDT

Hello Everyone,

I was with Dena this morning along with my mother, Flojo. We had a great conversation and Dena listed intensely. We talked about Caden and others. She was relaxed throughout. If you come to visit Dena she really wants to hear about everything that is going on your life; bad or good. So please share when you are with her.

After our long talk we headed to speech therapy. Dena was not interested in the yogurt today. I don't drink coffee but Dena does and we got her a cup. I think she enjoyed it and it seemed to relax her. She was able to focus on speech and tried to say several words. Dena controlled her frustration. You can see her thinking and working so hard and it inspires me and yet breaks my heart. I wish she was with us every moment but knowing we have this second chance keeps me smiling and moving forward.

Caden continues to take good care of me and we make a great team. I couldn't do it without both sets of parents and of course Anita: Who is Caden's Friday friend.

Tomorrow is not just another day, it will be a great day.

Thought:
I hope you all know how you have a second chance everyday. Don't wait for something unwelcomed to happed for you to take notice. Do it now.

Love,
Christian, Dena and CAden.

Monday, September 12, 2005 8:18 PM CDT

Hello Everyone,

Sorry I didn't write all weekend. Being in San Diego working didn't leave much time.

There are so many Thank You's! to be said.
4nonblondes Thanks a ton I can't wait to meet all of you this week.
Everyone in PC who keeps thinking about us and calling....Thanks.
Everyone that sends me personal emails...Thanks.
Everyone in the Outdoor, ACtion and Snow industrys that keep asking about Dena. Thanks!
Family and Friends Thanks.
Everyone that writes on CaringBridge..Thanks.
Everyone that prays and thinks about us Thanks.
To Bob, Eva, Fritz and Flojo you are a great family. Thanks.

To anyone that thinks they were missed in the above Thanks.

All of you mean so much to us. It makes me feel so lucky to have so many people thinking and caring about us. I give a Thank you as big as the universe and as high as Everest. Thank you!

I was with Dena on Sunday after I flew in on my delayed flight. Eva and Caden were there with Dena. Dena continues to improve, remember it's a slow road but nonetheless at just under 5 months I feel she is ahead of the curve. Consider that some people are in a coma for years. She responds to me and we continue to work on setting up some sort of communication that will allow us to better understand her needs. Remember if you visit and she is really upset check to see if she needs to be changed.

I keep thinking about Dena and what she is going through. I try to do my best for her and let her know that she is improving and should be proud of herself. I wish I could do more on all fronts but I just don't have anymore time. So if I forget something please don't take it personally, I am forgetting quite a bit these days.

Thought:
It never seems like it is the right time to do certain things. Money, time, life changing, energy are all excuses we use not do some things. If you wait long enough time will have passed you by and you will no longer be in charge of you decision making. Time has made the decision for you and time has run out. Don't waste time. Sieze the moment and live in the present.

With BIG THANKS and HUGE LOVE,

Christian, Dena and Caden.

Wednesday, September 7, 2005 9:20 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Please don't forget to check out www.4nonblondes.org and the silent auction. You have to check out the Oprah Day. There is a link on their site on the left for it called "Oprah Raffle". They are going to throw one hell of a party this weekend. The following weekend the 4nonblondes are traveling to Park City where we will have the honor of meeting them.

Anita and myself spent the morning with Dena. She was enjoying and relaxed during our conversation. We all worked with Dena during her speech therapy. It seems to me that she wants to do everything we ask her but she just struggles to make the connections between her brain and her body. In time it will all come to her. She is making progress everyday, it's slow and steady. Her body continues to gain strength. Remember the accident only happened just over 4 months ago.

Eva said that Dena did so well in physical therapy that it was so exciting. She had 3 attempts at walking and the last time she was very smooth. Her movements were much smoother without delays in her steps. Dena was able to roll over on her side with minimal help. She was able to hold her head up when she was on her stomach. Eva was almost in tears. Yeah Dena!!! I love you baby.

This weekend I am heading to San Diego for work. I will be lucky to see my brother and his wife as well. It will be busy and I will miss everyone in Park City, especially Dena and Caden. I will do my best to update the site and stay in touch with Eva and FloJo on Dena.

Thought:
We all have things that are happening in our lives, some good some bad. It's the perspective that we take on it that will lead us forward. We must maintain a positive perspective or we will lose hope and find ourselves somewhere we don't want to be battling to get out of it. Take time to smile and be thankful, there is always something to be giving thanks.

Love,
Dena, Christian and Caden.

Tuesday, September 6, 2005 8:40 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Dena and I finally finished the Lance Armstrong book, the first one. A great read for anyone, I recommend it.

Dena wasn't in any therpapy while I was there. But we worked on a few things together. I helped her roll over on her right side. I really felt that she wanted to not be on her back, before when I would do this she would really scream. Today there wasn't much screaming and she was in control I would grab her left arm and pull it to her right side. She would then grab onto to the bed railing on the right side and hold herself there. When she didn't want to be there any longer she would let go.

I keep trying to give her things that she can control. I know that is what I would want.



Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Monday, September 5, 2005 7:16 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

After a night of uncomfortable dreams of Dena and myself I had a great morning with her.

She quite a bit of ice cream and yesterday she ate a whole yogurt. What was really great today was watching Dena in Physical Therapy. When they had Dena walking you could see the increased strength in her torso, neck and head.
She was moving her left arm as she walked without assistance. She was able to stand for a bit with minimal amount of assistance.

The thing that has really changed is her left arm movement. She moves it to scratch her nose, remove a pillow, take a off a sock or boot. I love seeing this it makes me feel great knowing that she has some control, some independence. It warms my heart.

She still has trouble communicating but we will get there.

Thought:
Be aware of you surroundings, keep your eyes, ears and chin up. At any moment someone or something may enter your life that needs your help. If you are not paying attention you may miss out on doing something great.


Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Sunday, September 4, 2005 3:47 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

It has been a busy weekend. I helped a friend out on Saturday and then went down to be with Dena. Caden and Eva were down there already. Eva is a queen. She called me asking where I was as both Dena and Caden were causing her fits.

I helped give Dena a very long shower last night and she was very relaxed after it. I wish I could read her mind, I do the best that I can to understand her needs. Sometimes it is so tough to know what she is feeling or thinking.

Caden and Dena shared a cup of ice cream yesterday with the help of Eva. She was very up and down yesterday.

Today Caden and I are getting things done around the house that should of been done 4 months ago. He helped me hang doors, organize the shed and garage. We just had lunch and now it is back to work.

I hope everyone keeps sending what they can in whatever means to hurricane victims.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Friday, September 2, 2005 9:04 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I hope everyone is having a great day. I appreciate everyone checking in on us in our little part of the world. We don't have tv and I finally just saw some of the images of what is happening in New Orleans and the other states. Knowing what is happening down there makes it easy for me to stay positive about life and my little world.

I hope you can all find time to donate to help our fellow Americans. I'm going to do that as soon as I finish. A very close friend of ours grew up down there. The Herringtons have lost two houses and a business. I can't imagine how that must feel. I hope you can find time in your prayers and thoughts to send them some positive energy.

Dena had a strong day. She worked hard at everything she did. Anita, Eva, Caden and myself all visited. She had a great reacation to Caden as he did to Mom. She seems a bit more fussy lately, I'm guessing she is freaking out from sitting around. Dena was never very good and sitting around for too long.

Thought: If a million people gave $100 it would raise $100,000,000. That could help many people in New Orleans.

Love,
Christian, Dena and CAden.

Thursday, September 1, 2005 9:20 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I can't believe another week has gone by. I just don't know where the time goes. The busier you are the faster the time goes.

Today Emily, Fritz(my dad) and Eva were visiting Dena. My dad felt he was seeing some great progress today. I haven't been able to talk to Eva or Emily yet. I will be down with Dena tomorrow morning and Caden and Eva will be there in the afternoon.

Caden just crawled into my arms so I am pne hand tpying. I'm so lucky to have him. Everyday I wish I could do more but I do what I can and feel good about it. I don't feel guilty about what I can't do. I take pride in what I have done.

We are just over a week from the fund raiser in Illinois. I won't be able to make it because I have to work in San Diego that weekend. The girls that are putting it on are coming to Park City the following weekend and I can't wait to meet them. We will have some fun when they get here I can promise you that.

Thought:
Most people say if I could do it differently I would. Well, tomorrow is a new day to do it differently. Take tomorrow and do it the way you wish you had.

With Love and Good wishes,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Wednesday, August 31, 2005 10:22 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Busy morning and I only got a bit of time with Dena. I left early so I didn't bother Dena while Jo gave her a massage. Thanks Jo!

Emily says:
Hey folks, friends and family...Emily here live and direct from Park City. I was at the hospital today with Dena and I can tell she is waking up more and more...by reports from the hospital folks and family. She looked me in the eyes so intently for what seemed like two minutes (although who knows). Her eyes were focused and she was present with me. I felt her spiritbeing, I KNOW she is going to move through this. I KNOW that OUR LOVE sends her POWER, really...the more we send, the more she feels it, for true!
Dena endures quite alot each day with her physical and speech therapy. I almost felt as though they were pushing Dena beyond what was comfortable, and I realize that is exactly what it takes in life to move forward...for someone or something to push you to that uncomfortable place. One can choose to be present with the feeling and work through it or run away or shut down. She is pushing herself to become strong again, it certainly ain't the easy path and it seems frustrating to be inside her and not all the connections in the circuits are being made. I am saddened and inspired by this situation, and it all seems so surreal. My beautiful sister friend Dena is between the worlds and it is confusing for her and she is making strides to walk in this world again. Dena was standing today with much assistance AND she was sitting up with assistance and holding her head up and WOW!! Dena seemed more relaxed today, maybe it was the massage.
Eva is amazing and so here for Dena!!! She is personally doing what it takes for Dena, Caden and Christian. Nuff Respect to Christian, a loving, awesome friend, husband for Dena, he is such a great easygoing dad for Caden!! I am grateful for the opportunity to witness the family/friends solidarity!! Much love- Emily

So I will be reading the above with you tomorrow.

Good Night,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Tuesday, August 30, 2005 7:31 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Dena, Caden and I have a guest until Thursday night. Emily, aka Sue, Sis, Dena's great friend from college. It's her first time meeting CAden and they are already fast friends.

Dena had plenty of visitors today. Eva, Barbee, Emily and myself, that I know of. Dena is on a solid sleeping schedule and is resting. She continues to want to work hard. If ever she is screaming it's because she needs to be changed of wants to communicate with you more than she is capable. So please check her diaper and if the stripes are blue ask her to be changed promptly.

Yesterday I was at work. I up to 30 hours a week. I am working full days on Monday and Thursday. I will continue to do this as long as Dena is reponsive to everyone else that is helping her. If she is not I will change my schedule. They worked her really hard in physical therapy yesterday. She wants the work.

I hope you are all having a great week and making a difference.

Thought:
If you are coming to visit you need to stay with us. We need company and love it. Even if we don't know you come and stay with us.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Sunday, August 28, 2005 5:15 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Caden, Rooka, Sun, and I just got back from being with Dena. Jason, SueB, Bryce, Amy, Jeanne and Eva were there as well. We had a big get together out on the patio down there. Dena got to watch Caden play around. Bryce and Caden are a year a part and are destined to be ski buddies. They both come from incredible skiing genes. They are currenlty looking for sponsors, get em while they are cheap!

Dena was all over the map today. She just wants back what she has lost. And if you know Dena it bothers her that she can't communicate or hug people as they come and go.

I'm hoping the gains that happened last week continue into this week. We have a long way to go and we will not travel alone. Thanks to everyone who continues to stay informed and for always reaching out to us. We need and appreciate it more than words can express.

I have been having strange dreams recently. I had one where I was trying to find Dena and I kept missing her. It was really stressful and freakingm me out. I could never catch up to her. Next I had one where I walked into Dena's room and she said, "Hey Baby!" I was floored and said Dena you are talking. These are the only dreams that I have been able to remember lately.

Please remember if you visit Dena and find her irratated that she may need to be changed. Check to see if her diaper is blue, if so ask a nurse to change her.

Thought:
Remember to take time and give hugs and kissed to those that mean the most to you. Don't let them walk out the door with out receiving your love. Don't regret not sharing your heart.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Friday, August 26, 2005 7:19 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

It was a good day with Dena. She is working so hard and I really mean that. She is getting more dexterity in her left hand and arm. Today she was able to grasp anything I gave her. I really believe she likes this, it gives her a feeling of independence.

So during speech/swallow therapy she was eating sorbet and was not enjoying it. We then gave her the straw and she didn't want that either. The therapist then gave Dena the cup. She grasped it and proceeded, with assistance, to drink from the cup. She struggled with her timing and was screaming during it. The scream in my opinion is one of determination and frustration. "I know I can do this, why can't I do this." At one point she brought the cup to her mouth and did a natural sip using her lips and a quick swallow. She even tilted her wrist in the drinking motion. Kirstin, the therapist, and I were brought to tears. She is also working on yes and no signs. She is doing things upon command.

It's amazing!

Tonite I am babysitting both Caden and Chase. Chase is Pamela's son. She is a single mom and she has a date. Wish me luck.

Thought:
It feels good to give back after so much has been given.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Wednesday, August 24, 2005 9:40 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Yesterday I did a bit of a typo. Dena is not talking just yet.

Today was a great day with Dena. After yesterday I felt like Dena was a bit down in the duldrums. So today I kind of laid into her telling her Caden and I needed her home and we all needed her and that she should start working harder.

So we worked on moving a spongee stick, kinda of like a lollipop with a sponge on the end instead of hard candy. She grasped from my fingers numerous times. She worked on releasing it as well. She took my sunglasses off of my head. She held a book. Keep in mind this is all with her left arm and hand. She kinda of got bent when I tried to read to her. So I asked if she could read. I put the Lance ARmstrong book in front of her and I thought DOH! I pulled the Caring Bridge Novels in front of Dena that were made for us by Bonnie, Anita's Mom. She was focusing and being mellow. She was scanning at it as if she was reading. So when you visit hold the Caring Bridge Novels in front of her to read, maybe read it with her. She basically blew away the Occupational Therapist and brought him to tears.

She slept last night as well, 8 hours. She slept with a special hat on that was made from Reika beads and infused with positive thoughts by some great friends. I told Bob and Eva to put it on again.

Thank you all so much. We are so lucky to have all of you out there with us eveyday.

Thought:
Charge!

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Wednesday, August 24, 2005 9:31 AM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I just got off the phone with Bob and Eva and Dena was fairly frustrated throughout the day. But she did eat 1/2 cup of chocolate ice cream. This is pretty big!

When I was with her today we groomed her and I had her holding a small stick with sponge on the end of it. I feel that if she has something in her hand that she can control she will feel more in control. I'm going to keep doing that. Interesting thing happened when we were leaving the therapy area, she reached down to her shirt to cover part of her stomache that was exposed. It seemed like a natural action and we helped her with it. More and more of this is happening everyday.

I talked with Mary, the phsycic today and she said Dena is very content and dead set on getting home by Christmas. Please keep sending your positive thoughts and prayers to Dena to help her achieve this. Please focus your energy on Dena. Caden and I are doing great and we have each other. Dena needs the energy not us. But of course we will take any thoughts you give us.

Please don't forget about the benefit coming up on Sept 10th and 11th. If you want to make donations please check out www.4nonblondes.org for info on it.

Thought:
What type of life would you have if you never asked for help from anyone? If you did things always on your own and never with anyone else. I would think it would be pretty lonely and you may want to share your time or energy with anyone else. I am not that type of person and I hope the same of you.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Tuesday, August 23, 2005 10:25 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I just got off the phone with Dena she was faily frustrated throughout the day. But she did eat 1/2 cup of chocolate ice cream. This is pretty big!

When I was with her today we groomed her and I had her holding a small stick with sponge on the end of it. I feel that if she has something in her hand that she can control she will feel more in control. I'm going to keep doing that. Interesting thing happened when we were leaving the therapy area, she reached down to her shirt to cover part of her stomache that was exposed. It seemed like a natural action and we helped her with it. More and more of this is happening everyday.

I talked with Mary, the phsycic today and she said Dena is very content and dead set on getting home by Christmas. Please keep sending your positive thoughts and prayers to Dena to help her achieve this. Please focus your energy on Dena. Caden and I are doing great and we have each other. Dena needs the energy not us. But of course we will take any thoughts you give us.

Please don't forget about the benefit coming up on Sept 10th and 11th. If you want to make donations please check out www.4nonblondes.org for info on it.

Thought:
What type of life would you have if you never asked for help from anyone? If you did things always on your own and never with anyone else. I would think it would be pretty lonely and you may want to share your time or energy with anyone else. I am not that type of person and I hope the same of you.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Monday, August 22, 2005 10:35 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Whew..what a day! One of these days I'm going to write down by the hour what I do, just so I can remember how much I am capable of doing in a day. \

I was with Dena this morning. I help get her dressed for the day and then get her into her sort of a wheel chair. I then brush her teeth, clean her face, clean her nose and give her a neck massage. We then headed down to therapy, normally I wait for them but Dena has a new roomate that watches TV. I'm not sure if you are aware of my disdain for TV, but let's just say I don't care for it.

So we got straight into Occupational Therapy. We worked on Dena pulling herself up from about 45 degree angle from being on her back completely. Then we work on her pulling up from her side at about the same angle. She is pulling and getting stronger at it. Then the therapist works on increasing Dena's range of motion in her arms and fingers. He also gave her a neck massage. She was digging it and her neck looked more centered today then any other day.

Next off we headed to Speech/Swallow Therapy. Dena ate some yogurt and drank some orange soda. She screamed when the subject of the popsicle came up. This is good because she is saying no and being able to gain control of what happens in her life. Dena was working so hard at sipping through a straw. She did it and it was great to see. I guess last week when she did it she smiled after each of the two times. I wish I could of seen that smile. I can't wait to see her smile.

I haven't got any Physical Therapy update as Bob and Eva have not called yet.

Thoughts:
Don't wait for anyone else to help make your dreams come true. You hold the key so open the door.

Love,
Christian, Dena and CAden.

Sunday, August 21, 2005 8:13 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I hope you are enjoying the weekend and looking forward to Monday. I had fun with some great friends. It's amazing how many people I have met just a time or two that are asking about how we are doing. We are so lucky to be in so many people's thoughts and prayers. Thank you all so much. I'm still trying to figure out a way to thank all of you. This will have to do right now. Thanks!

I talked to Bob and Eva and Dena was taking some rest this weekend. Caden was with her most of the weekend. I am excited that we are doing a better job of them seeing each other.

I will be down with Dena tomorrow morning. I will give you good update tomorrow.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Thursday, August 18, 2005 10:22 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

My girl is getting stronger. Today I showered her with kisses and hugs. It felt so good for both of us. I could see it in her face and body. She loved it as much as me. I can't believe we have this second chance. I know it will be a lot of work but we will do it!

Dena's body is getting stronger and more responsive. She is begginning to use her finger in a thumbs up or down manner to answer questions. She is also looking at cards that say yes and no to answer questions. Everyday I ask her questions to allow her to have independence and control.

Bob and Eva just called me and told me that Dena was able to drink out of a straw. It takes weeks for people to learn this and she did it in one day. If you know Dena I'm sure you are not surprised. She also had a great day in physical therapy.

Please keep thinking about Dena and yelling her name. She can feel it!

Life's Lessons:
So tonite Caden had the baby monitor in his hand as I was laying on the floor. I new sooner or later he would drop it on my head. And of course he did. And it hurt! So I did some acting and cried, owww a number of times. He first came up to me and touched me. He was really nervous about hurting me. The whole time he never took his eyes off me with his concerned look. So after I cried for a bit I sat up and reached out for a hug. He knew what it meant because that's what he does when he is hurt. He walked over right away and gave me a hug. It was so great. I feel like I really taught him something tonite.

I am heading to Jackson Hole tonite with my friend Eric. We are going to kayak, mtn bike, eat sushi with Jarret our great friend ,Caden's Godfather and master sushi chef. And yes we are going to tie one on. Call it irresponsible, immature, a good thing, a bad thing whatever, I need it. And I couldn't be with two better guys. I will be back Sunday. I will do my best to update the site because I will be talking to Bob and Eva at least once a day.

Thought:
So if someone goes wrong you can sit around and complain about your misfortune or you can fix it. I'm fixing things and I hope you are too.

LOve,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Tuesday, August 16, 2005 8:40 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

YEAH!!! Dena slept through the night again. She looked great again today. I spiked out her short hair with some gel. I have been putting her in front of the mirror while I brush her teeth and do her hair. I have her help me with her teeth. She seemed a bit surprised by her short hair today.

She did great at speech therapy with strong swallows. SHe is getting more control of her facial movements. You can start to see parts of her personality coming back. She is in there and fighting her way back.

If you visit please sign in and tell us what you noticed.

Thought:
It's not whether you failed or passed during the day, it's whether or not you gave it 100%. And you can look at yourself in the mirror and say, "I gave it all I had today." I know when I look in the mirror I am pretty close on each day. I hope you are too.

Love,
Christian, Dena and CAden.

Monday, August 15, 2005 9:37 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I'm sorry I haven't updated you recently. I guess I must of not hit the button to submit yesterday's entry.

So Dena has been sleeping through most of the night since Friday night. And since that has happened she has been much more active during the day. Starting Saturday she has started making more voluntary movements and following commands. It really feels like the tide has turned. I feel incredible and rejuvenated about it.

Dena has taken sunglasses off of her face when we have put them on her. She did that both Sunday and today while I was with her. Today she took a "real" bite of popsicle. I told her, "Dena you don't want to swallow that all at once it will be cold." She took the bite and swallowed it all at once. It was really amazing to see the change from previous times. And then she screamed as if she got an ice cream headache. The therapists are very excited. They both think it will be a very big week for Dena.

I hope she keeps sleeping, I really feel she is exciting a stage and entering another one. I felt different today. I felt like it was ok to be happy and smile. I don't know, I just feel different. It all feels different.

Thought:
It's the small things that make all the difference. In everything we do from personal to business the small things will make up the great things. Start small and you will end large.

Love,
Christian, Dena and CAden.

Friday, August 12, 2005 8:45 AM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

The first day of Outdoor Retailer has come and gone. Today is the second day. It was fun to be doing one of the things I love but at the same time it was difficult. Many people asked how Dena and I are doing. Yeah it's tough to answer. I love the fact that they care and ask. Some people I could tell, really wanted to ask but held back. That looked so tough for them. Many hugs were given and taken. It truly is an amazing industry, I am so fortunate to be a part of it.

I was able to get to see Dena after the show as well. She was relaxing and so I read to her. I introduced Dena to Dimity, the young lady that is interested in writing an article about all of us for Health Magazine. I will keep you posted on what happens there.

I talked to Eva yesterday and she said that Dena was doing great in all aspects of her therapy. Dena has been getting sun everyday. On Thursday we had Dena in the sun as well. She looked like a beautiful actress that is in hiding. We had her head covered in a sheet to protect the scars. She had sunglasses on and was resting. It was perfect.

Thought:
If you don't know what to say to someone in regards to a major life event don't say anyting. Just look that person in the eye, say there name and touch your heart. It means so much.

Today will be a great day!

LOve,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Wednesday, August 10, 2005 9:50 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

It feels like it's going to be the busiest week on record for me. Outdoor Retailer is this week and I will be there for the whole show. Tomorrow after the show I will be meeting a woman that writes for Health Magazine. They are thinking about doing a story about us and the recovery process. I'm not sure of the story angle but I think it is important to share this experience with anyone that wants to know. The show goes until Sunday afternoon. I have baby sitting all set for Caden but as usual the schedule is tight. Caden is such a great supporter, he helps keep us on time. He always knows what I need just when I need it. He is truly amazing.

Today Dena looked beautiful. She really knows what is going on around her. I walked in on her while she was doing some assisted walking. And she took her hand off the bar to greet me. The therapist was surprised as she doesn't do that for anyone. We did some speech therapy and she is getting her tongue moving more. Speech therapy is very excited about what is happening.

I know it's tough to understand what these little things mean. But we look at it as Dena giving us a little gift each day. And she continues to do that. After I leave there I am refreshed, happy and full of sadness. It's a strange brew of emotions, I don't recommend it.

The industry I work in is amazing. Everyone is concerned and wants to know how we are doing. I look forward to Outdoor Retailer but with some trepidation. It's tough for me not to cry when people ask how Dena is doing. It hurts so much that I can't change everything with a flick of a switch. If you know someone who can do this tell them to call me. :-)

Thought:
Just yesterday I developed some sort of tendinitis(sp). It hurts like hell when I do certain things. What makes me more upset is the fact that I am even thinking about it. That this little pain is even a blip on my radar screen. How can anything that happens to my body compare to what Dena is feeling? I take a perspective on life that it can almost always be worse and nothing brings me into the negative world. Nothing! Don't bring negativity into my world, it is not allowed.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Tuesday, August 9, 2005 6:53 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I got an update from Bob and Eva, Dena's parents, and they have now seen real movement, slight movement, in her right leg. This is great news. I know you have heard it in the past but this is voluntary movement.

Today Dena was a bit tired and slept most of the time while I was there. We didn't do much therapy as she was sleeping.

Today I got a big bill for Dena's care down in South Davis. We are not on insurance anymore because they only give 60 days for this facility. That is normal. I wanted to thank everyone for all the efforts and donations in all forms. They will be needed as we continue down this road.

Thanks,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Monday, August 8, 2005 9:58 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I spent the morning with Dena. I read to her and then we had speech and occupational therapy. Dena has been working on looking at one card that says "yes" in green and a "no" card in red. We are helping Dena to track with her eyes. She is making progress.

Occupational therapy Dena is firing her abs and trying to sit up. Since she does that when people walk in the room we are making that part of her routine. Dena then took a nap and I headed to work.

I want to ask a favor when you visit Dena to read her your postings on this site. I have tried so many times and I just can't seem to do it. It overwhelms me. So, if you have the steady voice please share with Dena all of your postings. Bonnie Curtis, Anita Myer's mother, has been putting the volumes together and we know have four printed volumes in Dena's dresser. Thanks Bonnie!




Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Sunday, August 7, 2005 11:06 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Today Chuck and Megan were with Dena. They haven't seen Dena in three weeks. They have been on wedding whirlwind and using SLC as there driving base. They commented to me on how she has improved so much. I guess when you see Dena almost everyday it's a different improvement. When they came into Dena's room she tried to get up twice. Now keep in mind it's the effort that counts, it's there and you have to pay attention. They felt that Dena could focus for longer periods of time. I have to agree I have been noticing that more and more.

Thought:
I keep trying to think what should be the next step. What should I do.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Saturday, August 6, 2005 5:27 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I spent last night with Dena. I didn't get much sleep, I'm a light sleeper and I was trying to pay attention to Dena. I found she was getting frustrated when she needed a change. So I watched for that throughout today as well. If you are visiting Dena and find she becomes aggitated please check to see if she needs a change. If so please get a nurse asap.

Dena got some good sleep last night and the night before too. When we finally woke up I read Dena the Lance Armstrong story. There are so many things that are relevant to what we are going through right now. The one thing that struck me from the get go is Lance had said that his life was perfect and then he got cancer. I had said the same thing right before this happened. Life was perfect and it will be perfect again.

Great news on Pamela Alford improving so quickly, I am not surprised. She is a strong woman and all the support we are giving her is helping.

Recently I met Laura Ellingson, her father, Paul, was in the same hospital with a brain injury. He recently passed away. I hope you can send some prayers to Laura, Paul and her family right now.

We both said the same thing to Paul and Dena: If you need to move on it's alright. Well Paul made up his mind and moved on and I'm sure is having a great time. Dena made up her mind and continues to fight. She looked amazing today and had some great interaction with Caden.

Thought:
Their is grief when someone we love moves on but there should also be celebration. We have to ask ourselves what would this person want us to do? Everyday I think about Dena would want me to do and I do just that. Everyday I cry with her and everyday I laugh and smile with her.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Wednesday, August 3, 2005 10:42 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I can't tell you how great it was to see Dena without anything around her neck or head. She looked relaxed and comfortable. We are still working on getting her sleep patterns back to normal.

I was only there for speech therapy and she was pretty tired throughout it. I really feel the next couple of weeks we should see some significant improvements. I hope to spend Friday night there so I can see what is going on through the night. I won't be going down tomorrow as my parents will be going in my place.

Please Remember:
Recently a friend of ours, Pamela Alford, was diagnosed with cancer in her leg. It was found to be malign and she had it removed. With that operation there was a significant part of her bone was removed as well. This past week she had a piece of bone put in replace of it from a donor. I need you to take a moment and include Pmela in your prayers. Pamela helped organize the fund raiser in Park City while dealing with being diagnosed. Yes she is very strong and yes she needs your prayers. And she helped organize Caden's Birthday party and visits Dena regularly.

And: As people are reading this I would also like to ask that you pray for a high school friend's son. His name is Luke Pyburn, he is 12 yrs old and went in to have braces put on his teeth last Tuesday. After a routine x-ray, the dentist told his parents that there seemed to be a wisdom tooth that was way out of place, and suggested that they take him to a oral surgeon here in Houston. After further x-rays, they found a tumor on his botton part of his chin that is extended to the top part of his jawbone near his right ear.
They have referred Mike & Julie (parents) to M D Anderson Cancer Center in Houston for further tests and various scans. I ask that whoever reads this lift Luke and his family up in prayer. Thank you.

Thought:
You can't change people. You can motivate people, inspire people, challenge people but you can't change them. They can only change themselves. Don't ever go into a relationship thinking you will change someone you will only be disappointed.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Tuesday, August 2, 2005 8:04 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Today Dena had her trach removed! I am so happy, Eva and Bob called me at work and I had to take a moment to compose myself. Thanks Amy for helping me take that moment you are a great friend and I looked for you as soon as I got off the phone and there you were. Thanks!!!

Occupational Therapy: Dena is gaining strength and making moves to pull her self up.

Speech Therapy: Dena is working on looking at cards that say "yes" and "no". We are hoping this will help us communicate with Dena.

Physical Therapy: Dena did her best walking yet today. She was on the bike for sometime and kicked the ball as well.

She is coming back and I believe the next few weeks will be very exciting. I can't wait to see her tomorrow without the trach.

Please Remember:
Recently a friend of ours, Pamela Alford, was diagnosed with cancer in her leg. It was found to be malign and she had it removed. With that operation there was a significant part of her bone was removed as well. This past week she had a piece of bone put in replace of it from a donor. I need you to take a moment and include Pmela in your prayers. Pamela helped organize the fund raiser in Park City while dealing with being diagnosed. Yes she is very strong and yes she needs your prayers. And she helped organize Caden's Birthday party and visits Dena regularly.

And: As people are reading this I would also like to ask that you pray for a high school friend's son. His name is Luke Pyburn, he is 12 yrs old and went in to have braces put on his teeth last Tuesday. After a routine x-ray, the dentist told his parents that there seemed to be a wisdom tooth that was way out of place, and suggested that they take him to a oral surgeon here in Houston. After further x-rays, they found a tumor on his botton part of his chin that is extended to the top part of his jawbone near his right ear.
They have referred Mike & Julie (parents) to M D Anderson Cancer Center in Houston for further tests and various scans. I ask that whoever reads this lift Luke and his family up in prayer. Thank you.


Thought:
I want you to realize and understand what my world view:
I am not the only one, we are not the only ones, dealing with struggles. Life throws tough things at us. These do not define us, they will not dictate how we live. We will dictate how we live, our thoughts, our actions, our will. That is who we are. Life's events are part of us and we can either jump to the challenge or not. Jump!

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Monday, August 1, 2005 11:05 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Recently a friend of ours, Pamela Alford, was diagnosed with cancer in her leg. It was found to be malign and she had it removed. With that operation there was a significant part of her bone was removed as well. This past week she had a piece of bone put in replace of it from a donor. I need you to take a moment and include Pmela in your prayers. Pamela helped organize the fund raiser in Park City while dealing with being diagnosed. Yes she is very strong and yes she needs your prayers. And she helped organize Caden's Birthday party and visits Dena regularly.

So I hope you can help to start a Pamela Alford prayer chain. She would do the same for you and has done so much for our family.

Last night Dena did not sleep, this would be Sunday night. She was up most of the night. I think she might be cold so we are asking them to add more blankets and keep her warm. The nurse/doctor put her on Riddlin(sp) to keep her up today and she did great in speech therapy, she is working so hard. I promise you, you can see the effort and the struggle she is under to get back to us. So hopefully she will be stimulated through the day so she will sleep tonite. I am on the phone with the hospital right now, I got through. They are checking on seeing if she is cold and turning down the a/c and putting a blanket on her.

She was asleep and now is awake. The nurse felt that the room was comfortable and he put a blanket over her.

Thought:
Sometimes you have to experiment and try different things so you can know what doesn't work. Then you will find what truly works.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Sunday, July 31, 2005 9:35 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Dena didn't sleep last night. Melinda and Erin, Dena's good friends were with her today. Bob and Eva came down this afternoon. Hopefully by the end of the week we will have Dena's sleeping schedule back to normal. I will be meeting with the doctors and nurses tomorrow to discuss what we have done and what will do next.

We hope that she is exiting stage 4 on the Rancho Coma scale. I know she is still working her way back to us. People describe it like this: It's as if the world is two feet in front of you, like your in a tent looking outside, a tunnel of sorts. Hopefully that helps you better understand what I mean when I say, "She is still waking up."

I some of you know how much Dena loves Halloween. Last night was Summerween. We were not invited last year and since then we are friends with the people that put it together. It was a huge party in a lodge on Park City Ski Area, maybe 300-400 people. I knew Dena would have been bummed if I didn't go so I went. I kept thinking that when Dena and I go next year that I am going to make her the Queen of Summerween. It was great to see friends and wear a costume. I love it when you can't recognize someone because their costume is so good. Yeah, I got in very late but I still spent time with Caden, went to lunc with Bob, Eva and Caden. I also got a 20 mile ride done and just had dinner with my parents.

If you have time pray for Dena to sleep through the night and that she doesn't need to worry about anything because it will all be ok.

Thought:
Make it a great day!

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.

Saturday, July 30, 2005 3:03 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

Thursday night Dena did not sleep much so we are tried melatonin(sp) on Friday night. I talked to Melinda, who is in town with Erin, and the nurses said Dena slept last night. I'm not sure of the details, but I am heading down shortly so will give you more info later.

Friday Dena struggled through speech therapy, so we stopped and let her rest up for physical therapy. Bob and Eva told me that Dena, for the first time, was able to hold her right leg up instead of letting if fall to the bed. This is a first and should mean the beginning of Dena gaining control of her right side.

Saturday:
Dena rested last night...I am sooo happy. Her eyes were wide open today and she had plenty of visitors. I feel if she keeps sleeping at night next week should be pretty amazing.

I'm going to jump in the shower and get cleaned for my girl. I will tell you what happens today later.

Thought:
We are now 3 months into this. Where are we all at with our lives? Are we doing everything we can for ourselves and each other?

Love,
Christian, Dena and CAden.

Thursday, July 28, 2005 10:47 PM CDT

Hello Friends and Family,

I wish everyday I could bring you great news of Dena's recovery. But as we know this is a long road with ups and downs.

The last two days Dena has been very agitated. She has not been sleeping at night. Thus she is very tired during the day and rather restless. She struggles through therapy but still makes an effort. They are also doing a test on her throat for a possible infection. We have to wait for the results before I can give you anymore info, that's what the nurse told me.

We tried to keep her stimulated and awake today. We are increasing a mild sleeping aid this evening in hopes of Dena getting a full nights rest. I will let you know tomorrow.

Right now I feel I am useless and not in control. I know it is temporary and I must take my own advice: there will be good days and bad days. There will steps forward and steps backward. Nonetheless that is how I feel. I did get a boost from one of the speech therapists. She understood what I was feeling. She came back into the room after speech therapy and told me I was doing everything possible and it was also up to Dena. I wish I could do more. I wish I could do more for everyone.

I'm not feeling overwhelmed, just wishing I could do more. Someone should extend the day to the 30 hours.

Thought:
I remember telling all of you to look at life through the eyes of a child. Where everything is for the first time. I started thinking about that. I suddenly realized I needed that advice more than anyone. As I am raising Caden and helping Dena to re-learn I must have the eyes of a child. I must see everything with excitement and enthusiasm to ensure that Caden grows up happy and proud. That Dena doesn't lose her determination to return to perfect health. I must be the historian of their lives with the eyes of a child.

Love,
Christian, Dena and Caden.