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Good Morning Jerry,
All of us here at Dallas Flat Glass are sending you
lots of prayers today. We are praying for you to
"Get Well". We miss you!
Linda Marasco
DFGD
Carrollton, Texas
Linda Marasco <linda.marasco@yahoo.com>
Fort Worth , Tx USA - Monday, November 10, 2014 10:26 AM CST
Your mom, Gail, set a good example for all of us. I did not know her well, but did spend one day with her when she and I prepared the luncheon for Beth Richardson's wedding guests. I am Betty Richardson's sister. That particular day, she was amazing and I really feel like I knew her well.
My thoughts and prayers and with all of you at this time.
Jimmie Lou Martin
Huntsville, AL. USA - Wednesday, September 19, 2012 10:33 PM CDT
Timothy Ryan
Janice Hayes <rn4south@aol.com>
Horn Lake, MS USA - Wednesday, September 19, 2012 9:38 PM CDT
Hey Jean Ann, sorry it has taken me so long to write.Been thinking & praying alot for you. I know you are not in a good space right now but I also know you are a fighter & that is what I'm focusing on. Stay strong & fight as hard as you can & you will I know!!Thinking of you & also your family. Barb "parmer" Stansbury----
barb stansbury <bjs607@sbcglobal.net>
columbus, in usa - Friday, November 6, 2009 5:45 PM CST
Interested in a poem call "A Little Girl."
DiAnn Baker
Bergholz, Oh US - Thursday, August 13, 2009 10:48 AM CDT
Checking for info on Chalmers Carr
Sabra Rabon
Timmonsville, SC USA - Saturday, July 11, 2009 8:32 AM CDT
Thinking about Fr Greg tonite and his struggle with CF. He baptized my daughter Valerie 23 years ago. She is at the hospital tonite with a friend who is having a bout of bloody cough from his CF, allergens are high right now in Northern CA. It is wonderful to read Fr. Greg's words and remembering what a force he was.
Kris Johnson <kmjohnson@surewest.net>
Granite Bay, - Wednesday, October 4, 2006 0:00 AM CDT
i was thinking about greg today...we knew each other when we were both still young...i loved his laugh and he made me laugh more than anyone i knew...we were asked to stop laughing so hard or leave the theater more than once, i cant watch GREASE without thinking of him, and he taught me how to trumpet like an elephant while watching ELEPHANT at the OMNITHEATER. i almost drowned while bobbing for apples at a halloween party because we were laughing about the apples having CLOWN BLIGHT ... someone dressed as a clown left traces of white make-up on them right before my turn. He was one of the best dancers i ever saw and one of the best men i ever knew. if anyone still reads this, have a merry christmas.
colleen <caitmcneil@aol.com>
denver, CO usa - Tuesday, December 20, 2005 5:02 PM CST
Tolaas family and friends,
Greg was a great (grt-I like that!) friend and someone who I admired deeply. I miss his earthly presence in my life and at St. Philip's. He was in my thoughts and in my heart a lot today. I spent part of the day journaling about what he has taught me and the wonderful memories I have of him from the past 12 years. I hold dear those memories. Thank you Beth for sharing so much of your brother Greg with us on this website. You are a gift to all of us.
Carpe Diem!
Jenna Diem <missdiem5@hotmail.com>
Maple Grove, MN - Saturday, February 7, 2004 10:36 PM CST
Beth, Maureen, Tim and Laura, thinking of you and Greg today and every day. Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us. We will continue to keep you in our prayers through your difficult days ahead. I was sorry and saddened to hear of Ginny's death. We will keep her girls and family in our hearts as well. May God continue to keep all of you in His care.
Mary and Taylor Anderson <mbattisanderson@hotmail.com>
Oakdale, MN - Saturday, February 7, 2004 9:58 PM CST
Greg's Chicago cousins have been silent observers for quite some time. The frequent checking of the site will be missed, but the lessons learned have been many. So in Greg's honor, let us all go forth and do GRT (great?!) things. Keep his light shining!
Lisa Sorensen <lisa_sorensen@comcast.net>
Oak Park, IL - Saturday, February 7, 2004 6:09 PM CST
May the peace of God which passeth all understanding keep our hearts and minds always in Christ Jesus. All blessings this day and always dear family and friends of our beloved Father Greg.
Ron Hall <tofer@charter.net>
Eau Claire, WI - Friday, February 6, 2004 10:37 PM CST
"Friends and family have visited this website 240,100 times"
What a visit it has been each and every time! And what an honor it has been to be a part of it and to remember and love Gregory Robert Tolaas!
Linda Hathaway <lindahathaway2003@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Friday, February 6, 2004 10:03 PM CST
Everyday, I take a peek, almost dreading the abscence of Greg's picture and website. Today brought a beautiful poem that eased the apprehensions of my heart.
TOGETHERNESS
Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped into the next room.
I am I, and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other, we are still.
Call me by my old familiar name,
speak to me in the easy way you always used to.
Put no difference into your tone,
wear no air of solemnity or sorrow.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word it always was;
let it be spoken without effect, without the ghost of a shadow on it.
Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was;
there is absolutely unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind, because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well.
All will be as it was before, only better,
… infinitely better.
We will be one together in Christ."
-Henry Scott Hamilton
With the conviction that we will all be one together in Christ, with heart-love, Sally <slofte@westmetro.des.state.mn.us>
Mpls, - Thursday, February 5, 2004 12:37 AM CST
As today marks seven years since our daughter Caitlin went to Heaven, my heart is filled with sadness. And wonder. What kind of a young lady would she be today? Then, I am grateful that she is in the presence of God and the saints. Most particularly, I am thankful she can meet Fr. Greg. The two are so alike...open-hearted, kind, soft-spoken and trusting.
With faith in God's plan and with prayers for peace on earth...
Bridget (McGraw) Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, February 5, 2004 7:46 AM CST
One Last Shared Thought of Father Greg on this Site ...
God granted Greg gifts
piled high, and deep, and wide.
The gifts he had he shared
with the high, the meek, the wise.
He loved to plant seeds of thought, and love, and flower
which continue to grow, hour by hour.
He breathed breath with olympic effort,
day after day, year after year -- 47 in all.
He made friends of every kind, throughout the globe,
their thoughts and love expressed through internet ...
Caring Bridge ... we were blessed.
Those friendships were piled so high,
and so deep and so wide, gift upon gift.
With one last "Yes." he tried to stay with us longer.
That love he had, piled so high,
and so deep and so wide would try for 80 days,
olympic days and nights.
Our prayers were piled so high, and so deep, and so wide,
our communal effort to keep him longer.
Our pleas have turned into mystery and we weep and grieve and hope and continue to pray. Our faith carries us and "God is with us", as Greg so often counseled us.
Surely, the gifts God gave Greg,
piled so high, and so deep, and so wide,
will spill into our wounded hearts
and fill us with love which never dies.
Until we meet again -- God bless us all.
Betty Lou
Betty Lou Miller <blmiller@mninter.net>
Robbinsdale, MN USA - Wednesday, February 4, 2004 2:57 PM CST
"Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay awhile and leave footprints on our hearts, and we are never, ever the same." St. Therese of Lisieux
Greg left footprints on so many hearts, mine included, and I thank God every day that it is so!
Ron Hall <tofer@charter.net>
Eau Claire, WI USA - Sunday, January 25, 2004 9:43 PM CST
Thank you for the new pictures of Greg, Beth....they make me smile.....and the one of him on the main page is so wonderful! I'll be here til February 7th......
Linda Hathaway <lindahathaway2003@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Tuesday, January 20, 2004 8:51 PM CST
In Greg, I have held the hand of God...
Gratefully, Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Tuesday, January 20, 2004 8:23 AM CST
Dear Beth, How small this world is. It's been a long time since you and I visited. I desire your company more now than when we talked about CF and our families last time. You know, I've been diagnosed with stage three breast cancer and have been going through chemo for the last 8 weeks. The tumor found was well over 8cm in size and the cancer has spread to my lymph nodes. Mark and I miss Fr. Greg so much...He is still one of our heros, along with all of your family. You've endured so much, and always continue to inspire.
Please, I ask you to visit my caring bridge site. This is such a good way to communicate with each other. I spend so much time laying in bed with such strong chemo drugs going through me, that messages each day mean so much! (I can still go out for lunch or dinner on good days.)
Before this site comes to an end, I want to make another request. Please everyone, continue with your prayers and support for our entire Cystic Fibrosis Community! Miraculously Maddy(age 4), youngest of our four children, is growing and thriving. She hasn't had an intestinal blockage now, in over a year!!!
all my love and prayers to the Tolaas family and friends,
Mary Peters of Stillwater
Mary Peters <mandmpeters@hotmail.com>
Stillwater, MN USA - Friday, January 16, 2004 5:13 PM CST
When I was cleaning out my files today in preparatiofor a move to Monroe, I came across SOME POEMS by Gregory Tolaas.
I would like to share one in particular:
SWEET PROSTATION (a recollection of my ordination ceremony to priesthood, 1983)
The marble, more than cool ---
Almost chilling,
Soothed and awakened simultaneously,
My cheek cherished the sensation ---
My head harbored in my arms
As the wave of sacred song washed
Over my body, robed in white.
Kyrie -- Christe -- Kyrie.
Never since that day have I laid
Myself, face to the floor before
Bishop and believers ---
Pray for us --- pray for us ---
The litany welled up and choked in my mouth;
Gladness, surely --- ah, but joy!
Joy's balm wrapped 'round me
To ease my way,
Reminding me that
Vulnerable and grateful and alive
Is the way into the heart of Jesus.
With the mantle of God about me,
The Spirit danced softly
On my back.
And now dear Father Greg, you have for all eternity "joy's balm wrapped 'round you;" you are no longer vulnerable, but continue to be "grateful and alive". You have found your way "into the heart of Jesus, with the mantle of God about you, and the Spirit dances softly on your back." Although we miss you so very much, we look forward to that blessed day when we shall be reunited with you and all of our loved ones for all eternity.
Sister Patricia Guthrie, IHM
Sr. Patricia Guthrie, IHM <guthriepatricia@msn.com>
Detroit, MI USA - Wednesday, January 14, 2004 5:08 PM CST
Dear Fr. G. Well things are soon coming to a close on this website. As I promised I have picked my roses and will soon be planting my rose garden in your memory. When I see the new leaves and budding blooms I will always remember you and your love of gardening. I will remember your warm embrace, your curious mind, your love for all. It is not everyone who gets to walk in the presence of the greats, but I have come to realize that for three years as the Office Manager, I got to do just that with you. You have touch me, my girls, Katia and Shari and my extended friends and family deeply. We will never forget you and your presence in our lives. I know there were many days I told you how you were loved by so many. I hope that in those past months you have come to realize that even more.
I love and miss your presence very much. Please know that you are in our hearts and minds forever. Thanks for allowing me the opportunity to be a part of your life.
Love, Always.
Across the miles many thoughts, prayers and best wishes to the Tolaas family, Jim Smith, Dale Korogi, Cindy Boggs, and staff and parishioners of St. Philips.
Andrea JeanBaptiste <andrea.jeanbaptiste@Aspentech.com>
Houston, TX USA - Wednesday, January 14, 2004 12:20 AM CST
Well I made it! I have not written in some time however ever grateful to put tis last entry in! Greg is a teacher to me,I talk with Him and know God is still using him. We are alike in so many ways, the struggle with CF, the Servants Heart, the lover of all, wanting to make a difference! Well Greg my Brother in Christ and to all the family and friends, I have a request for prayer. I am going to share something quite personal however know it is the Holy Spirit. I was given a vision 7 years ago and actually it is a shared vision with a girlfriend which is what bonded us as Sisters in the Lord. I was given a vision that I would in some way be working in a facility for women in need. I have been praying and walking in faith that this will come to fruit. Never knowing as we usually do not when God will move I have stood on my faith that the time will come. Well my friends after seven years and never having a plan the Lord decided to reveal HIS plan to me. I have been volunteering at a correctional facility, bringing a AA meeting and a Bible Study weekly. My heart breaks as I see the system failing these women who long to be sober however end up going back to the same environment which usually means drugs/alcohol and prostitution.I have seen over and over my gals coming back to jail and trying it again. Yes there may be 1/2 way houses and may be things out there however I have not seen them working. Yes there is a responsibility and accountability factor that these women are lacking as well. As I leave week after week especially in the last month, tears have fallen as I drive and I have just fervently prayed Lord please there has to be SOMETHING for these women! Well Tues. Jan.6th will be always remembered as a life changing day. As I listened to a tape, I grabbed a piece of paper and a pen and the Lord gave me His plan for what will be a small house, hopefully in NE Minneapolis that will be called Women of Grace! He gave me names of who to talk to, what the daily schedule would be, who to call to walk beside me and assist me, classes to be taught on self-esteem, self worth, AA meetings, NA meetings etc... Making sure that it be known this will be a place for the lost, a place for transformation, a place to meet the physical, mental,emotional and spiritual needs of women coming from correctional facilities that need the structure and a time and a way to be in a new environment, to feel safe, to be loved unconditionally, to be held accountable, to be responsible, to assist them in getting jobs, volunteering,learning life skills,knowing that they are so precious to the Lord, that they are forgiven and that they too can recieve the loving grace that was extended to me some 14 years ago! I am asking you all to pray for this new ministry, to cover me in prayer as already dealing with CF that nasty devil is attacking me in my physical body with gallbladder surgery on Wed. and a consult at same time to see if I need a hysterectomy. So buck up my prayer warriors! He may be throwing the darts, however he does not and will not get my Spirit! As you can see the Lord prevails and I know this ministry in time will come. Pray for funding as this will be a volunteer/donation based ministry and trust me, I will need all the help I can especially never venturing in this area. I know the Lord entrusted me with this vision and the ability to carry it out. We are His people and called to help thelost, the lonely and anyone who crosses our path we are to love as He did! Greg was a visionary, he helped so many people and I am grateful, as I am on this new venture, that Greg is a part of this, that he was an example of someone I aspire to be like. Thank You God for giving us such a blessed soul, thank you family for sharing him and thank you all for standing in faith that this will happen, in God's time. Your Sister In Christ, Kelly
Kelly Schmidt <kellyjoschmidt@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Friday, January 9, 2004 5:31 AM CST
Dear Tolaas Family, It's nearly eleven o'clock here in Indiana,and as this is the last day for the Caring Bridge web-site I am almost sick thinking I will never again be able to read all the wonderful entries so many people from all walks of life have written about Greg, his life and his struggles to live life to the fullest.Nothing anyone can say or do will ever make us forget this wonderful man and all he has accomplished in his short life-time here on earth. How do you say good-bye to someon who has meant so much to some many people? I can't because Greg's life changed our world and left it a better place, and touched so many hearts to ever be forgotten. Father Greg was and is a shining example of how to live with the hand you are dealt. I still marvel at how this was able to accomplish so much in short lifetime. I feel that this is the message that he left for all of us, to on fighting everyday now matter what the obstacles are. Praise God for giving us such a wonderful priest, and for all the memories you his family have of Greg as a beloved brother. What a legacy he has lfet for all of us. Good-bye and Good Night to all of the Tolaas family, Dale Korogi, Judy Meekins, Jan Kormann, and Jack and Jeanne Larson
Dee & George Wilson
Greenfield, In. USA - Thursday, January 8, 2004 10:09 PM CST
Greg's life was an inspiration to me. He taught me so many things from his words and by his example. Thank you Greg for teaching me how to love and live life to the fullest~Carpe Diem!
Jenna Diem <missdiem5@hotmail.com>
Maple Grove, MN - Thursday, January 8, 2004 10:09 PM CST
Father Greg,
You are with the Lord but thank you Lord for sharing him with us. Greg's character illuminated the path of salvation that leads to You Lord at the narrow gate. May we follow his light until we are united again.
Mike Anshus <manshus@charter.net>
- Thursday, January 8, 2004 9:45 PM CST
Dear Friends,
I think I have checked this site about 50 times today. I wanted to read every last entry. Thank you all for your heartfelt words. This site has been a great source of healing for me and I will miss it. Beth thank you so much for keeping it open as long as you have. Your family is such an inspiration. I hope you find peace and comfort in the coming months. You will be in my prayers daily as well everyone in this cyber family.
FYI to all: I did find that you can save all the entries if you go to File/Save As and then save it as a text file (*.txt). You can do that for the journal entries too.
Take care and if anyone does start up another website please add me to the list. Thanks!
Peace,
Claudia Lux Ross <claudia907@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Thursday, January 8, 2004 7:03 PM CST
Knowing that this is the last day of this site is a bit sad I guess, however, it is also a moving point. I think that it is a way of moving on and healing, if only little bit. While we should never forget Fr. Greg, we should hold a place for him in our hearts as we do for all the faithful that have passed on. We have a chance to take all this site has allowed us and make it a way to promote all that Fr. Greg was about.
We will all miss you, we will all remember the tomes and the gifts that you have left us and we will all heal. But we will never forget, and we should not.
God Bless you Greg.
To Tim, Beth, Maureen and the rest, thanks for allowing this site to remain up for as long as possible.
Sincerely
Andy Milam UST class of '98 <camilam42@hotmail.com>
Sterling Heights, MI USA - Thursday, January 8, 2004 6:04 PM CST
I just wanted to say good-bye, and thank you to all the Tolaas family especially Beth for her kind words, and for sharing this journey with all of us, especially those who knew him personally, and like myself those who have never met him personally. Beth we are so glad you shared Greg with all of us, his life, and yes even in his death. The comments you mentioned has brought tears to my eyes more than once, as we lost our son Michael 12 years ago, and Gregs passing brought back so many memories of our son, and how I can be in a crowd, and all of a sudden I turn around and there is someone who looks like him, and then unexpectedly there comes the tears streaming down my face again, I just never know until it happens. This after 12 years have gone by, but I promise you Beth and your family God will make the pain easier to bear as time goes by, you just have to get through each day one day at a time. Here is a quote by George Bernard Shaw which I think of Greg everytime I read it, and I think it fits him perfectly. Life if no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations. Now it is your turn to carry the torch, as I am resting with God. With God's help may all of us continue Greg's work, as we carry our torch as he would have us to do. "No Slackers on the job as he would say, "Get out there, and get going, times a-wasting"! Rest well now dear Greg, sweet prince, we shall always remember you. God Bless all of the Tolaas family, Love Always, Dee & Geo. Wilson
Dee Wilson & Geo Wilson <deegeo50@aol.com>
Greenfield, In. USA - Thursday, January 8, 2004 2:14 PM CST
Everlasting prayers for peace......
Bridget Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, January 8, 2004 8:52 AM CST
I met Fr. Greg in 1993 at St. Thomas (I lived close by) shortly after my father's death. At that time Greg told me something I have never forgotten. He told me that when someone you love passes away you should ask God to give you one of the qualities or gifts that person had. Then, be open and watchful to see which quality/gift God will give you. Not to ask for a specific quality or gift, but to let God decide which one He thinks you need. God gave me the gift of determination after my dad passed on. Then in 1998 when my mom passed away He gave me the gift of tears (happy, sad, angry, glad). When Greg passed away I asked God to give me a quality or gift that Greg had. God's reply this time was a little different. This time he gave me the gift of finally finding my church home and my spiritual family after years and years of looking. He directed me to St. Philips. The gift I received was the gift of becoming a part of the parish Greg loved so much, and a chance to help carry out the vision he had. God is good and I am so blessed. It is a gift that I treasure and a task that I take very seriously.
What quality/gift might you receive if you only ask God to give you one quality/gift that Father Greg had?
Someday, when I get to Heaven I am going to thank God, and Fr. Greg personally for the gift that I have received. Until then, I will thank them both in my daily prayers.
Jody Tigges <jltigges@usfamily.net>
New Hope, - Wednesday, January 7, 2004 6:16 PM CST
With tears in my eyes and sorrow in my heart, it is very sad to know that Greg's website will no longer be available. I totally, totally, totally understand that it is time to close it, still it makes me very sad.....but then again, I have been very sad since the 7th day of September. Sad seems to be a key word that I am using.
What an honor it was to know Greg and everyone associated with him....and what joy it is to remember him with such love and admiration....
I have so wanted and needed to be a part of this wonderful website and will truly miss checking in daily.....as a final thought, I quote Megan McGraw on one of her notes to Greg where she said: "Thank you for making a difference I can't forget!" Ditto ~ Ditto ~ Ditto..... Greg has touched my life unlike anyone I have ever known.
May God bless everyone who has been a www.caringbridge.org/mn/gregtolaas participant - it has been such a pleasure to read all of your lovely words - and I mean that most sincerely. Good bye my family of friends ~which we did become~even tho most of us have never met. Watch over us dear Greg! You are so missed!!!!!!!!!!
Linda Hathaway <lindahathaway2003@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Wednesday, January 7, 2004 6:15 PM CST
Thank you one and all for all the kindness, love and support you have shown to Greg, the Tolaas family and each other. I will miss this site terribly as it was such a support and comfort. May each one of us follow Greg's example in how we love and how we live our lives! Maybe at some time in some way we can come together again as a community of love and support.? God bless each and every one of you.
And now dear friends: May the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit, be with us all evermore. Amen.
Your Anglican/Episcopalian friend, Ron
Ron Hall <tofer@charter.net>
Eau Claire, WI USA - Wednesday, January 7, 2004 6:05 PM CST
I am sad to hear that the website will be closing because this is what has helped me get through the tough times of missing our dear beloved pastor Fr Greg. I have not been touched by a clerical leader who has inspired my faith as much as he did. My family felt the same as me. The other night I was talking to my son Philip who told me how much he misses Fr Greg. He shared with the Philipian community during Advent how much Fr Greg taught him and how Fr Greg felt like an older brother to him. Philip has no siblings. Fr Greg will always be in our hearts.
Beth, you are an amazing woman who has touched our heart as well. We are blessed also to have you in our community. I am glad that I have had a chance to get to know you better during these last few months. You have lost a lot of your family and like my mother have grown stronger because of it. God is watching over both of you.
Mona Prince <mprince@startribune.com>
Crystal, MN 55428 - Wednesday, January 7, 2004 4:16 PM CST
Four months and I'm still not ready to say Good bye...
I know that a person as filled with life and zeal and grace as Greg doesn't ever really leave us, but I wished desperately for his earthly life to continue...
I will miss this site -- Beth, your beautiful and strong words -- all the writers and pray-ers who shared their Greg-moments -- but how grateful I am for the words that have poured onto these pages. Radical love, the answer on which Greg insisted, formed a community even here, in the virtual realm... strangers whose names have become familiar... thank you, dear Gregory T, for giving us this site, and thank you, Beth, for maintaining it for us, and thank You, God, for bearing Christ to us in the body and soul of saint Gregory Robert Tolaas. Without his friendship, I might never have had the courage to be me, and so, as I sign off for the last time, I hold on tightly to gratitude because frankly, I need to hold on tightly to something...
I love you, Greg, there, just beyond...
Always,
Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Wednesday, January 7, 2004 10:53 AM CST
Greg-Thank you for teaching us that every breath we take is a gift. Remembering you always in laughter and in song-
Karen Connolly Blomgren, Phoenix, Az.
Karen Blomgren
Gilbert, Az USA - Wednesday, January 7, 2004 8:04 AM CST
Dear Maureen, Beth, Tim and Laura
Thank you for sharing Greg with all of us...in his life and in his death. We can not begin to understand what you are feeling now and what you felt throughout 2003. We are grateful to you for having allowed us to be part of what is normally a more private experience in your loss of such a special person. We also thank God for giving us Greg and the amount of time we were blessed with him on our earthly terms. With certainty, Greg's spirit continues to inspire us and also give us that "tough-love wake up call" when we are feeling helpless, hopeless and 'faithless'. With God's help, may we all continue Greg's work as we carry a small piece of him in each of us.
Diane, Patrick and Anna Howard <pdh@bitstream.net>
Richfield, MN - Wednesday, January 7, 2004 0:49 AM CST
this is the first time i have felt able to read the guest book since greg died. it has seemed too paintul . but, as closing day approaches, i am compelled to read. so many wonderful words, such delightful memories, such deep faith. to beth...thanks for your faithfulness to the site and to greg. to tim, laura and maureen, thanks for allowing me into your lives. to all the readers and writers of the site thanks for your love of greg. i miss him immeasurably and always will but i grow more and more profoundly grateful for 13 years of his love, friendship and care and ever more challenged to carry on his work. peace and all good to each of you.
jan kormann <kormann@qwest.net>
- Tuesday, January 6, 2004 6:13 PM CST
Dear friends and family of Fr. Greg, I would like to see something like this website continue as a living memory of Fr. Greg especially for those persons who feel unloved, the loney, the sick and homebound. I have a couple friends who are beginning dialysis and another close friend down the hall from me who uses a wheelchair. Recently my new apartment was burglarized by a neighbor while I was down in my friend's apartment helping him. Would be interested in hearing whether anybody else has any suggestions. God bless.
Judy Schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, MN - Tuesday, January 6, 2004 8:10 AM CST
Dear Friends,
I too will miss this site, but I also believe it is a good time for all of us to turn off our computers and go live the life that Greg loved. He will be in our hearts forever with his song, his words, and his love.
I will truly miss you all.
Peace,
Claudia <claudia907@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Tuesday, January 6, 2004 0:08 AM CST
Hello, Tolaas Family and all who have become family through knowing Fr. Greg,
I'm going to include words from a favorite poem of mine as a prayer and sign of affection, hope and strength for all. I have loved this poem for many years and it sustains me in my darkest hours. I originally typed it in to send when Greg was having a difficult time during his hospitalization, yet I don't think I sent it because it didn't seem enough---or maybe it seemed too ambitious for his fragile condition. At any rate, I send it now with love and support and great appreciation for Greg's life, integrity and mission.
"There is nothing I can give you which you have not,
But there is much, very much, that while I cannot give it, you can receive.
No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take Heaven!
No peace lies in the future which is not hidden in this present instant. Take Peace!
The gloom of the world is but a shadow. Behind it, yet within our reach is joy. There is a radiance and glory in the darkness, could we but see, and to see, we have only to look. I beseech you to look!
Life is so generous a giver, but we, judging its gifts by their covering, cast them away as ugly, or heavy or hard. Remove the covering and you will find beneath it a living splendor, woven of love, by wisdom, with power.
Welcome it, grasp it, and you touch the angel's hand that brings it to you. Everything we call a trial, a sorrow, or a duty, believe me that angel's hand is there; the gift is there and the wonder of an overshadowing presence. Our joys too; be not content with them as joys. They too conceal diviner gifts.
And so at this time, I greet you. Not quite as the world sends greetings, but with profound esteem and with the prayer that for you, now and forever, the day breaks and the shadows Flee away!
Fra Giovanni
GOD Bless and keep you,
A friend and UST alumna
- Monday, January 5, 2004 11:40 AM CST
Tolaas Family & Friends: I will miss this guestbook very much as I have been checking in on it many times daily. It was our friend, Jim Smith who introduced me to Greg through his sharing parishes with St. Philips, and to his web page. I have gained much consolation and comfort during it's duration. Tho, the web pages will cease, my thoughts and love for Greg and all those dear to him will continue.
During the Lords Prayer at Mass when we raise our hands in praise, I think of Greg and his urging us to raise them high and I think back at us at Tranny, hands raised high in praise, and the butterflies in flight as a reminder of Gregs spirit.
Greg, "You light up our lives and give us hope to carry on..."
Thank you to all who shared, and to The Tolaas Family for the greatest gift..sharing Greg and his journey.
Elaine T.
E;laine A. Throener <eathroener@msn.com>
Faribault, MN USA - Sunday, January 4, 2004 2:16 PM CST
As Greg looks down upon us from above, blessings to all!
Olof (Ollie) Nekstad <nekstad2@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Thursday, January 1, 2004 4:23 PM CST
Thank you all for sharing Greg's journey with all of us through this website. While a part of me hates to see it end, another part knows it is time. Time for all of us to face the new year ahead remembering Greg and trying to live life just a little bit differently (better) because of all that has transpired since June 2002. Greg will continue to live on in all of us - those who knew him personally and those who never met him.
I am reminded of something that was said at the grief session at St. Philips. The presenter said grief is like popcorn, you never know when it is going to pop up. I find this true 6 years after my mothers passing and I am sure that many who read this website will find it true also. You never know what will trigger a memory which will make you laugh or make you cry. The miracle of feelings huh.
Thank you to all the Tolaas family for sharing this journey with us. We are all better for it. We've shared hope, joy, sorrow, anxiety, love, suport just to name a few. I think we are all better people for it and more aware of the miracle and gift of life with all its joys and sorrows.
May God continue to bless everyone with His peace and healing.
Jody
- Wednesday, December 31, 2003 11:10 PM CST
I will miss this webpage, the written words of Fr. Greg and also his voice thru the words of others, especially Beth. I am glad you were able to continue this guestbook because you all helped me find reasons to give thanks (seeing your support). You also helped me find more reasons to pray. Hope you all are enjoying the blessings of this season and I pray that we all keep Fr. Greg's gifts in our heart. I know we all saw his radical love in action.
Judy Schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, MN - Wednesday, December 31, 2003 8:46 AM CST
Dear Beth, Maureen, Tim and Laura: It has been quite some time since I have posted here but have kept up with the entries made by others. I have not been well but hopefully will improve in the New Year. You are all in my thoughts and prayers each day. Greg left such an impression on me that not a day goes by without having him speak to me in some way. I can only imagine how difficult this season must be without his physical presence in your lives and so wanted to send you greetings and assurance of my continued thoughts and prayers. May your Christmas and New Year be filled with love, peace and comfort dear ones. Your Anglican/ Episcopalian friend, +Ron
Ron Hall <tofer@charter.net>
Eau Claire, WI USA - Saturday, December 27, 2003 10:55 AM CST
Buon Natale! Merry Christmas from Italy!
Fr. Greg is in my heart as I hold dear the memories from the St. Philip's Pilgrimage to Italy in 2001. As I walk the streets in Rome, I remember various conversations and laughter we shared as we walked these same streets. I cried while on my walk today as I was filled with sadness over the loss of Greg in my life. I prayed for Greg and his family while at Midnight Mass at St. Peter's, especially Beth who is so dear to me.
Giovanna Diem <missdiem5@hotmail.com>
Rome, Italy - Thursday, December 25, 2003 3:03 PM CST
My family usually gets together on Christmas morning to go to Mass and the past couple of years we felt privileged to listen to Fr. Greg at the Church of St. Philip's. I remember last year I was so dumb struck after Mass, I couldn't find the words to describe how much that Mass meant to me. As I left the church, one of the other priests on the altar said to me, "it was glorious." I am sure it will be a glorious Mass again this year as we all will have Fr. Greg in our hearts and his family and friends in our prayers. I thank our Heavenly Father again for the Tolaas family, for their unselfish love, their inspiration, their kindness, their sense of humor, their love for those of us who may feel unloved and I will continue to thank them everyday for allowing us to accompany them on their journey with tears, joy and love.
j.k. schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, MN - Tuesday, December 23, 2003 0:24 AM CST
Beth...and family...
You have been exceedingly generous in allowing us to participate in your lives and your grief. It is extremely difficult to come to grips with our dear friend's death. I still find myself saying to others: "I cannot comprehend how our world can do without Greg." Thank you for keeping caringbridge open for us...I understand the need to bring this to closure also...and it seems so final. It is another moment to have to say yes to this good, good, man's death.
You are in my prayers and thoughts as you come to "celebrate" the birth of Christ, the Christ that Greg lived in, loved and witnessed. May you experience the tenderness of healing amidst the pain.
God bless you and may you find Jesus loving you in the cradle of your hearts.
With deep sympathy and love...
Sally <slofte@westmetro.des.state.mn.us>
- Monday, December 22, 2003 12:40 AM CST
Dear Tolaas Family:
Every year at this time I think of your sister, Mary. I am especially thinking of her today, along with your father and brother, Father Greg, on the 20th anniversary of Mary's death. I remember how proud she was when Greg was ordained and I remember thinking at her funeral what a tough time it must have been for all of you, especially Father Greg, having to celebrate the funeral Mass for his little sister. Your family has always been an inspiration to me and at this holiday season, I wish all of you the very best and hope that your memories help to sustain you.
Linda Pirri <l.pirri@worldnet.att.net>
St. Paul, MN USA - Sunday, December 21, 2003 9:15 PM CST
Dear Family of Greg and Friends from the web-site,
We lost another compassionate and blessed priest yesterday in Texas. I wanted to let you know that it was all the messages and sharing of love that I experienced in this web-site (and of course the inspiration of Father Greg) that taught me what to say and carried me thought the last weeks as I tried to comfort him and his sister at his hospital bedside. Thanks to all of you for sharing your love and kind words and warmth to Greg, his family, and the visitors on this site. Love is a sure cure for the absolute feelings of inadequacy that one feels when trying to feebly help and then living through the loss of a loved one, whether blood relation, or respected Priest and beloved friend. Lord above, teach us all to be kind to each other and love everyone as though tonight was our last .... someday it will be. (Thank you Greg for hearing my petition and taking it to Our Father.) Love and Hugs
PC <Strix2tx@aol.com>
TX USA - Saturday, December 20, 2003 11:50 PM CST
Beth
last night at the soup supper was so hard to listen to all the wonderful stories about Greg and just think about it some more!
I would like to tell you my story
"Greg"
Greg was the best person I've ever know and when I heard that he passed away I could do NOTHING but cry for the longest time . the Memory of him is so special.
I just want to wish you the BEST "christ"mas EVER
Lots of love and prayer
Miranda
Miranda M Muller <pick67@aol.com>
Fridley, MN USA - Wednesday, December 17, 2003 3:57 PM CST
Father Greg....
It is freezing cold outside, but I miss you warmly inside.
Thank you for making a difference I can't forget.
Love and gratitude, Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Tuesday, December 16, 2003 9:21 AM CST
I'M SPENDING CHRISTMAS WITH JESUS CHRIST THIS YEAR
I see the countless Christmas trees
Around the world below, wih tiny lights, like heaven's stars
Reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular,
Please wipe away that tear,
For I'm spending Christmas
With Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs
That people hold so dear.
But the sounds of music can't compare
With the Chrismas choir up here.
For I have no words to tell you
The joy their voices bring.
For it is beyond description
to hear as angels sing.
I can't tell you of the splendor
Or the peace here in this place.
Can you just imagine Christmas?
With our Savior, face to face?
So please let your hearts be joyful
And let your spirit sing,
For I'm spending Christmas in heaven
And I'm walking with the King.
This was sent to me after losing a good friend close to Christmas. I thought so much of Father Greg. I am sure he is up there joining in all the activities. Merry Christmas to The Tollas family and to the friends of this website.
Carol McFarland, Saint Philips
Carol McFarland
Robbinsdale, Mn - Sunday, December 14, 2003 5:31 PM CST
I wrote to some of my Irish relatives and told them that Fr. Greg must be inspiring us all from his lofty perch in heaven! Wish I could write so elegantly and elevate doing the laundry and ironing clothes. Maybe we can when it is done with love and joy. And Fr. Greg would say, "Stay in the daylight, love." I remember my widowed grandma used to sing an Irish lullaby. Have a Blessed Christmas to Fr. Greg's family and friends.
judy schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, MN - Friday, December 12, 2003 8:43 AM CST
THE TOLAAS'S
Greg and all of you have been in my prayers since his Passing. for all of us we wished him a QUICK come back.
to me I'm oh so sad of his passing but he is with god where he dosen't have to suffer any longer.In our hearts and in our minds Greg will stay for ever. For us to reunite with him again someday or another. I would love to say more but what I would like to say is to long.
love,hope and prayer,
Miranda
Miranda M Muller <pick67@aol.com>
Fridley, MN USA - Thursday, December 11, 2003 4:30 PM CST
To "Himself" (with thoughts on pride and joy)
Thank you Father Greg, for the immeasurable joy and sense of priviledge and felt each time I laundered your albs and vestments. You made no bones about deep pleats being pressed into your albs and I never forgot that. Rowenta was the best answer to pressing problems. That's why I presented you with one that year for Christmas in case I would "fizzle" and you would be left to your own devices. I always filled with pride as you ascended the altar steps to celebrate Mass. It was always my aim to match the elegance, shine, and sparkle of the fresh robes with the same pure quality of elegance, sparkle and flow which always shown from deeply within you. Whether you were presiding for a group of six ladies at a freezing February A.M. Mass or celebrating a beautiful Easter or Christmas Vigil with superbly prepared decor, spoken word and song, a deep sense of gratitude, joy and pride sometimes blinded my eyes with tears and always filled my heart and soul to overflowing.
As far as the nuts and bolts of this washing job I so enjoyed doing for you, Mom always said that nature has its own sparkling agents stronger than any bleach in a bottle; sunshine and a good freeze. She was right!
From force of habit, I still imagine your albs and vestments in the sunshine on the clothes line bowing and dancing to the whim of the wind. This winter in memory I will imagine them outstretched and frozen on the snow painted like the drifts with crystals of ice until they blend with the snowscape. It was always my prayer that no large birds would spy them lying motionless in the snow and take advantage of their vulnerability. Big birds seldom did but a few smaller fellows did dare to do the unthinkable.
I took the certificate for Target which I won at St. Philip's Fun Fest and purchased a supply of Biz, Tide, Bounce, and Downey but I was missing some of the pride and joy; not all of it- just some. My Tom has also always shown and sparkled. Our beautiful daughter "Moon Shadow" must continue to be given every opportunity to shine. I will always see to that. And the wash goes on.
Father, I've often told you of my friendship with Irish entertainer, Carmel Quinn. In concert she often recites an old Celtic poem "Dear Kate". In the spirit of parody I will conclude with some original words of the piece adding some of my own.
"Ah, tears are not for daytime, Love
They're only for the night
You'll weep and sob and grieve and pray
'Till all things come round right
But I know we'll meet again some day
In maybe twenty years . . . or seven
In the shadow of God's Emerald Throne
I will wash your robes in heaven"
I will always love you. I am sorry, as are all of us, that so many things were left unsaid. Your Irish Washerwoman, Ms. Muggs.
P.S. Since this is probably the last note I will write you, I'll close on an upbeat note with the words of a wise old sage in his "Soliloquy to the Night". Though you may pin it to the sky with a million stars, and buckle it with the moon, the night will always slip away like sorrow or a tune. au revoir, my most precious of friends . . . Requiescat in Pace . . .
Muggs Lamb <cspreceptionist@qwest.net>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Friday, December 5, 2003 4:48 PM CST
Thank you Megan and Peg for your lovely entries to Greg's guestbook~~~I check it every night because it keeps me close to him.....and that is where I want and need to be right now. And thank you Beth for still leaving his website up and running -- for the time being anyway. Greg is so, so, so ever present in my daily thoughts....
Linda Hathaway <lindahathaway2003@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Wednesday, December 3, 2003 10:38 PM CST
Greg, I know you are there, just beyond... but some days I feel numbed by the stark reality of your physical absence... but in the midst of that ebbing and flowing emptiness, I am called back to the moments we shared, on this side of Heaven. I remain wholly grateful for every word of our last significant conversation, and I hold tightly to your directive -- that I must engage in life... "I don't care what you decide but, for God's sake, Megan, MAKE A DECISION!"
What a funny thing that, in most of life's threshold moments, there really is no scary right or wrong answer. There are only good questions -- good questions and golden opportunities to make all sorts of choices. In the end, perhaps it is that movement -- sometimes forward and sometimes back -- that constitutes the essence of our existence. And as usual, Greg points the way. Even a bad decision can be remedied, but no decision -- no decision is always a dead end. And so, as I go about the business of making my big and small choices each day, I thank Greg and I thank God for the gentle but intense shove forward...
Ever since I read the entry from Peg, I have been reflecting on one sentence in particular. She wrote of Greg, "I am thankful for all the questions he answered and all my answers he questioned." AMEN!
I can honestly say Greg never went easy on me, and I am forever indebted! For the gift of soft bristly encouragement, thank you!
Always,
Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Wednesday, December 3, 2003 8:57 AM CST
I didn't feel well on Thanksgiving so I was reminded of Fr. Greg. The last two entries, however, brought back memories of my high school graduation from St. Joseph's Academy (eons ago). The song we sang was: "When You Walk Through a Storm." I know Fr. Greg is enjoying the "golden sky" now and as for us, our pastor said last weekend that "We are people of hope. We have an impact on each other and are strengthened by the love we show each other." I believe these are words Fr. Greg would have also used.
Judy Schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, - Saturday, November 29, 2003 9:05 PM CST
In counting my blessings this Thanksgiving weekend, I count Greg Tolaas.
I count as blessing the gift he was to me and to my family.
I am thankful for all the questions he answered and all my answers he questioned.
I am grateful for the times he pushed me impatiently and for the times he supported me with unfailing endurance.
I bless God that our paths crossed when they did and that we shared a small portion of the sojourn to the Kingdom together.
More than anything, I am humbly indebted that he showed me how to walk through evil by taking my hand and dragging me along as he navigated his own struggles with dark valleys rather than just telling me about deliverance as some lofty theological abstraction.
I knew Greg far more briefly than many of you, yet some days, I miss him so intensely I can barely abide the echo of that empty place his passing left in my heart. I hope I can catch up with him again someday when I, too, reach the glory side of this grand adventure.
I feel truly privileged to have shared this last leg of Greg’s earthly journey with this community he pulled together and most especially with his amazingly generous family.
-Peg
Peg Helminski <PegHelminski@aol.com>
Woodbury, MN - Friday, November 28, 2003 4:24 PM CST
My fondest Thanksgiving memory has to be a roadtrip I took over ten years ago. Father Greg accompanied me on a visit to a favorite monastery, nestled in the rolling plains of South Dakota. We didn't exactly sing show tunes across the Dakotas, but we had an entire, blessed day together! We talked, of course, about travel and our families; we talked about life and love and the challenges brought on by both; we talked about faith. And all the while, Greg demonstrated a different kind of faith as a blizzard whipped up to escort us home. I've never been much of a driver, and confronted with the swirling elements at hand, I rather preferred to focus more on the conversation than on the road. With his signature grace, Greg never flinched, and guided by angels (and not my navigational ineptitude), we did make it eventually to a place of safety. It was at that point, when we reached my parents' house, that stubborn Greg insisted on making the final leg of the journey, a sixty mile skip that stretched into a horrific four-hour, white-knuckled nightmare for Greg. His trusty little red sportscar was no match for rural drifts and unplowed city streets. But, as in life, he marched on...
Every year, when I reflect on my blessings, I am called back to that marvelous, dangerous, triumphant day. I consider how truly fortunate I was to know Greg's friendship and to experience the priceless gift of his time. I cherish every precious memory...
I don't know that I ever met a busier man than Greg Tolaas, and yet, he never rushed friendship. I still picture him, flying around the Chapel at St. Thomas, his vestments whorling around him, and I wonder how many of us felt like he was attending to each and every one of us when he paused to say hello.
I am grateful for every word we shared, every gesture of affection, every exchange of peace. He inspired me, he provoked me, he flattered me and he questioned me, and through it all, he faced me -- with those startling and penetrating eyes -- those eyes that promised, "In this moment, I am fully with you."
And so I call on my faith to hold Greg still close to me. Continue to whisper your wisdom to me, Greg.
I love you.
In thanksgiving,
Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Wednesday, November 26, 2003 6:14 AM CST
Dear Beth, Maureen, Tim and Family and Friends of Father Greg,
As you approach this first major national holiday -- Thanksgiving -- may your days be spent in thanksgiving for the life you now have with those who actively share your family status, brothers, sisters, husbands, wives, children, nieces, nephews, cousins. May you also enjoy and be thankful for the life you shared with Greg. What a great gift to all was given when each of you was born. We all contribute to the life of each other, some in small ways, others in large ways. We all give of ourselves to those we love. You have given just as Greg gave. We all accepted. We all are thankful. I recently read that we should concentrate and rejoice in the joy of having had the opportunity to share the life of our lost loved one. For we will again meet in Glory when it is our time to make the next step in this journey. We will think on the joy of today, and the joy of hearing in our mind the laughter of those by-gone days when we were all sharing. Drink in the love of our Lord. Remember this as a great Thanksgiving, one of the best ever experienced, with turkey and all the trimmings, warmth and love around the table, and smiles all around. Greg would, I am sure, rather that you all be laughing and telling funny stories and singing happy songs, and not missing him in sorrow, but sharing happiness that you are all together (whether in spirit or in presence) in thanking our Creator for the life and time that we have had ... and then thanking God for the grace to remember HIS love and gifts present now to us all. May you all have a joy filled, warmly remembered, and loving Thanksgiving. Love from Texas, PC
PC
San Antonio, TX USA - Monday, November 24, 2003 10:56 AM CST
Dear Beth and Family,
The first time I met Greg was about twenty years ago when he would come out to Risen Savior Parish to help out on the week-ends. I loved his homilies and his singing the Mass. It was so awesome. He was such a caring person. I had
someone say to me once, when you stood next to Greg, you got the feeling you were very close to God. He was so kind and compassionate to me when my father died in 1994.
I wish I would have known about this website when Greg was alive. I would have for sure been staying in contact. I also went to Ireland years ago and have wonderful memories. And I would have liked to have sent Greg a picture of my new puppy who was born in Kilkenny, Ireland. His name is Shamis (which means James in Irish). Actually, Fr. Jim at Risen Savior, a friend of Gregs also, is credited with picking out the name. Jim, another friend, and I attended the funeral. It was the most beautiful Mass I have ever been too. I said, I bet the sun will be shining by the time Mass is over, and sure enough when we walked out of the church not a cloud in the sky.
I knew Greg would have the sun shining. I'm sad that Greg is gone, but I do feel him with me alot these days, and I am very blessed, to have known him.
Thank you for sharing all the stories and pictures of Greg. You are a wonderful family.
God Bless You.
Barb
BARB KACHNOWICZ <BARB.KACHNOWICZ@WELLSFARGO.COM>
MINNEAPOLIS, MN USA - Wednesday, November 19, 2003 10:14 AM CST
Since Fr. Greg was always giving of himself, I almost felt like his funeral was a celebration of something else -- the 125th anniversary celebration of my parish, the funeral of my former father-in-law I was too sick to attend, the Irish birthday party of one of Fr. Greg's friends, the celebration of my Dad and Mom's pastor when he was appointed a bishop and finally a picture of Fr. Greg which kind of looks like he is welcoming my friend's young daughter into heaven (easing her mother's pain). One of the other writers was right, even in death, Fr. Greg gave to us. God bless --
Judy Schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, MN - Monday, November 17, 2003 4:51 PM CST
In the quiet of my morning, amid the busy-ness of my day, when I gather with friends and family or when I am altogether alone, and at the close of my day, when my thoughts come crashing, one upon the next -- then, day or night, Gregory T. -- is when I miss you most.
Forever changed, Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Monday, November 17, 2003 5:48 AM CST
Sometimes I don't deal with things the way others do. A lot of people were expecting to see me at the funeral, the burial, and all of the other wonderful celebrations of Greg's life....
I was not there.
Instead I took the time to review my special moments with Greg. The first time I remembered meeting him was at The Cystic Fibrosis Gala fifteen years ago (give or take a year). I was a little boy and I remember him simply coming up to me and saying hello. I don't remember what he said, but I do remember how he showed interest in every word that came out of my mouth. His gift with children was remarkable then as it was right up to the moment he went home to God.
He made an impact on me from day one and each time we talked I came away with something new. Maybe he and I didn't always agree, but he taught me to listen to words and not just hear the sounds coming out of his or anyone else's mouth. The respect I have for him is immeasurable.
He counseled me over the years and made me a better man.
On the day of his funeral, I said a prayer for him. I asked my sister Angela to take car of him. Not that he doesn't have a few people up there already to take care of him. Then I went to have lunch near my sister's grave, but it was cold that day and wet as well. So instead I went to a movie and then went for a walk. I walked in nature and looked in the sky. My friend Greg is up there and I miss him very much. I did what I needed to do to remember Greg, and I will never forget him.
EVER
Josh Mogren <joshmogren@yahoo.com>
North Saint Paul, MN 55109 - Wednesday, November 12, 2003 10:09 PM CST
If we in the "CF Family" didn't have enough grief this year, we now have learned that one of our CF families [Maddie Peters, age 3 in Stillwater] and her family are dealing with the news that Mom, Mary, has breast cancer. Her caringbridge website is http://www.caringbridge.org/mn/marypeters/ and I am sure the Peters family would welcome prayers from ALL of the continents, too. This will be MY last entry on this website, too. It has given me pleasure to enter and read and I'm so glad I was able to get to know the Tolaas family through this website. God Bless you all.
Mary Mosbey [Emma's grandma] <marymosbey@hotmail.com>
Lake Elmo, MN USA - Wednesday, November 12, 2003 5:43 PM CST
Dear Beth and family:
I haven't even sat down to turn on my computer since Oct. 29. You know how when you start cleaning one thing it leads you to another place? Well, without even planning on it, and looking for something else, I ran across an article that Ms. Muggs gave me quite awhile ago, "Love Has a Thousand Faces, a Thousand Flavors."
I've reading every morning at breakfast, which sound pretentious, because I so seldom sit down, but stand or walk around while eating. But I've been sitting down and reading it in the morning. As you know, it was written when Greg was 42, and to read it and think about so many things that have transpired in between then and now.
I feel so priviliged to have met him the way I did, I know that there is always a reason why we meet certain people.
Thanks, again.
Love, Rocko
Rocko Paster <jpaster@mcg.net>
Crystal, MN USA - Tuesday, November 11, 2003 10:25 PM CST
Dear Beth and Family,
Thank you very much for your faithful sharing of your dear brother with all of us. We continue to see his picture every time we pass our chapel. Greg will always remain as you all do, in our hearts with love and prayers.
Sisters of Saint Clare <dbdoughty@saginaw.org>
Saginaw, Mich - Tuesday, November 11, 2003 3:49 PM CST
Thank you Beth for being the wonderful, caring person that you are....May God continue to bless you and your darling family. Thank you also for your new entry and for the wonderful pictures of dear Greg....May he rest in peace and may he be ever watchful over all of us who so love him and miss his earthly presence so very much....I talk/pray to him every day and am so very grateful that Greg Tolaas was in my life.....he left an awesome impression on me that I will carry forever and a day!
Linda Hathaway <lindahathaway2003@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis , MN - Friday, November 7, 2003 11:41 AM CST
It's a new day... crisp and clear and with it, fresh perspective and perhaps a brush with peace (thank you, saint Gregory) because suddenly my mind is changed. He's not walking away at all. Without a doubt -- Greg is walking TOWARD!!!
Today's tears feel more like a smile!!
And once again, GRT shows me a new way to look at my world.
In awe, Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Friday, November 7, 2003 8:27 AM CST
Quick on the heels of my sister, I echo her thoughts. "Beautiful words, beautiful pictures." Indeed, what a beautiful family, inside and out. That photo of Greg walking atop the rocks... walking away... it startled me... and I am going to sit tonight, for a mighty long time, with my tears.
Thank you, God, for the gift of life... even the rocky parts...
Beth, Tim & Laura, Maureen: I think about you throughout the day, every day... thank you for being such an incredible family. God's peace...
With deep admiration, Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Thursday, November 6, 2003 7:41 PM CST
Beautiful!
Beautiful words and beautiful pictures.
Thank you.
Bridget (McGraw) Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, November 6, 2003 7:26 PM CST
Dear Friends and Family of Fr. Greg, and Members of the Church of St. Philip's, While unpacking in my new apartment, I came across an old Sunday bulletin from the Church of St. Odilia in Shoreview, celebrating the feast day of St. Odilia. Here is how they define a saint: Those named "saints" are seen as human beings like ourselves who struggle with the events of the times and meet them with a deep conviction that will guide their decision and that God calls for a certain way of love, justice, and peace.
They say St. Odilia interceded for many families and through the years her protection has been sought for those who suffer from eye afflictions and health ailments. I know Fr. Greg stands with St. Odilia now interceding for us. Their power is alive and powerful especially for those of us with serious health problems. God bless --
Judy Schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, MN - Wednesday, November 5, 2003 12:54 AM CST
Dear family and friends of Greg Tolaas. Like so many others I wish to express my gratitude to Beth and Jan, in particular, for their journal entries; and to all who have written in the guest book these past months. I have loved the photos of Greg, especially the most recent ones, and have shared much of what has been written in these pages with family and friends. Today, our Detroit Archdiocesan Department of Education (of which I am a member) celebrated a special Eucharistic liturgy remembering relatives and friends of department members who have died since November, 2002. It is a very tender moment after the homily as names of our loved ones which have been inscribed in our "Book of Life" are read aloud and the person remembering them lights a candle in their memory. Today we remembered nine--I lit a candle for Greg. The following reflective thoughts were shared during that ceremony:
In the rising of the sun and in its going down we (I) remember you.
When we are (I am) weary and in need of strength, we (I)remember you.
When we are (I am) lost and sick of heart, we (I) remember you.
In the blowing of the wind and in the chill of winter, we (I) remember you.
In the blueness of the sky and in the warmth of summer we
(I)remember you.
In the rustling of leaves and in the beauty of autumn we (I)remember you.
In the beginning of the year and when the year ends, we (I)
remember you.
So long as we (I) live, they (he) too shall live.
For they are (he is)a part of us, as we(I)remember them (him).
Then we all prayed the following: Hear us this day, Most Holy, as we remember before you the names of saints who have borne the burdens of the day, and have crossed the boundary of night into the light of your everlasting day. We thank your for them. We remember and rejoice in their lives on this side of the river, and we rejoice that they are in strength and gladness with you this hour. Their voices ring your remembering ears, and now they sing your praises in the heavenly places. We will always remember!
Daily I pray to our own St. Greg.
Sr. Patricia Guthrie, IHM <guthriepatricia@msn.com>
Detroit, MI USA - Monday, November 3, 2003 7:51 PM CST
Dear Family and Friends of Fr. Greg, As we contemplated all our loved ones who have gone before us at Holy Rosary Parish this morning, our pastor told us we are strengthened by their virtues (especially Fr. Greg) and give God thanks for him and all our beloved departed for their continued presence in our lives. I pray I can follow Fr. Greg's lessons even when I have made mistakes. God bless and make us good brothers and sisters in Christ. Amen
Judy Schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, MN - Sunday, November 2, 2003 1:01 PM CST
Dear Tolaas Family,
My husband and I were privileged to have gotten to know Fr. Greg since the time he married my daughter and son-in-law 4 years ago. As our business is located near St. Phillip's church, we would try to attend weekday morning Mass whenever possible. Fr. Greg's homilies always left us with a good feeling the rest of the day. He was such an inspiration to us. When I think about him, I just feel he is already "Blessed Fr. Greg" and someday may he be canonized. (I sense myself praying to him and talking with him.)
Our thoughts and prayers continue to go out to all of you in the Tolaas family.
Regina Willman
Fridley, MN - Friday, October 31, 2003 10:23 AM CST
I received a thank you note from the Tolaas family tonight for my gift, but they all let us have the gift of Fr. Greg. Since Fr. Greg came from such a wonderful family, I'd like to learn more about Beth, Tim and Maureen. I'm sure they humbled us all. God bless --
Judy Schletty <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
NE Mpls, MN - Tuesday, October 28, 2003 10:34 PM CST
Dear Tolaas family,
I have such love for your brother and for your amazing family. Greg has been friend and priest to every member of my family for nearly 20 years. Celebrating baptism, confirmation, confession and marriage for us. He always listened to my problems that now seem so very petty, with enormous love and compassion. He GAVE and GAVE to me. I loved him and will miss him so. My heart goes out to you all and I pray daily for your healing and for Tim's continued health.
MUCH gratitude for all the help Tim has been to my family as well. And Thank You,Beth for your amazing loyalty and effort to keep this page updated for all of us. Your words have been a beautiful and eloquent gift to so many.
love and blessings to you wonderful Tolaas people.
Meg Butler Becher <megazzel29@aol.com>
st paul, mn usa - Tuesday, October 28, 2003 8:48 PM CST
Hi all,
One last entry here. I was rearranging my office yesterday and came upon this Constantine Cavafis poem: I no longer remember whether Greg brought it to me or vice versa but it was part of our conversation. "Going to Ithaca," we'd say, or "just part of the journey" for any number of life experiences. Reading it now, I think of a luxurious Sunday morning at the market in San Lucas where Greg experienced everything--from conversations (and conversations and conversations!) and shoe shines, to hats, roasted meats and fresh-picked fruits--with such joy and vitality.
I include it here:
When you start on your journey to Ithaca,
then pray that the road is long,
full of adventure, full of knowledge.
Do not fear the Lestrygonians
and the Cyclopes and the angry Poseidon.
You will never meet such as these on your path,
if your thoughts remain lofty, if a fine
emotion touches your body and your spirit.
You will never meet the Lestrygonians,
the Cyclopes and the fierce Poseidon,
if you do not carry them within your soul,
if your soul does not raise them up before you.
Then pray that the road is long.
That the summer mornings are many,
that you will enter ports seen for the first time
with such pleasure, such joy!
Stop at the Phoenician markets,
and purchase fine merchandise,
mother-of-pearl and corals, amber and ebony,
and pleasurable perfumes of all kinds,
buy as many pleasurable perfumes as you can;
visit hosts of Egyptian cities,
to learn and learn from those who have knowledge.
Always keep Ithaca fixed in your mind.
To arrive there is your ultimate goal.
But do not hurry the voyage at all.
It is better to let it last for long years;
and even to anchor at the isle when you are old,
rich with all that you have gained on the way,
not expecting that Ithaca will offer you riches.
Ithaca has given you the beautiful voyage.
Without her, you would never have taken the road.
But she has nothing more to give you.
And if you find her poor, Ithaca has not defrauded you.
With the great wisdom you have gained, with so much experience,
you must surely have understood by then what Ithacas mean.
Margaret Nelson <mgrtn@aol.com>
Minneapolis, - Tuesday, October 28, 2003 10:31 AM CST
Dear Family & Friends of Greg,
This site is a true testimony of what Greg brought to our lives. It is filled with so much love and compassion. It has been my source of serenity for the past few months and I too will miss checking it daily. Thank you Beth for keeping it open as long as you have. Your are all such an inspiration for me and will continue to be in my prayers.
Thank you to the Caringbridge for bringing us all together to help our hearts heal.
With the peace and love of Christ,
Claudia Lux Ross <claudiaross@nordicware.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, October 28, 2003 10:30 AM CST
dear beth, thanks for continuing to add wonderful thoughts and pictures to the website....i will be grateful for all you and your family have shared with us and continue to let us be a part of your relationship with greg. blessings and prayers. sr. suzanne
sr. suzanne homeyer <suzannempls@aol.com>
mionneapolis, mn usa - Tuesday, October 28, 2003 10:15 AM CST
First, I'd like to thank all of those involved in keeping this CaringBridge site open. I'd also like to share a memory I have of Father Greg from one, if not his last, sermons at the University of St. Thomas. I don't remember all the points he touched on that day, but I do remember this...He spoke about the story in Mark, just after the Resurrection....How Jesus found the eleven apostles locked in room, away from everyone because they were so frightened, because Jesus was gone. Father Greg spoke of how we should understand how the apostles felt...how it must have felt safer to stay in that room, where they didn't have to leave their comfort zone...where they didn't have to leave each other. He shared with us that day of how scared he felt leaving people and a place he knew so well, but that he also knew that he wanted to serve as a parish priest. He reminded us that day, that Jesus didn't tell the apostles to stay locked up in that room. And like them, we are called to leave the comfort of what we know and reach out beyond ourselves to positively impact others around us. What an amazing impact he had on so many. I hope that all of us can follow his lead and leave the locked rooms of our own lives.
Suzie
Crystal, MN - Monday, October 27, 2003 9:22 PM CST
Dear Beth, Jan, Dale, and caregivers:
I too have enjoyed reading all the wonderful things people have been relating about Greg. I feel so priviledged to have had the wonderful opportunity to have gotten to meet this awe-inspiring person and his wonderful, wonderful family. I was copying all the stuff from the journals, guest book and pictures. As I was cleaning it up, I lost all the pictures except the last ones. Is there anyway I could obtain them? Muggs is going to have surgery on Wednesday, October 29, two days before her Halloween Birthday. Please say a pray for her. Love, Rocko
Jackie Paster a/k/a Rocko <jpaster@mcg.net>
Crystal, MN USA - Monday, October 27, 2003 8:07 PM CST
I would like to express my deep gratitude as well for the opportunity of being connected with Greg's journey through the generous time and talent of Beth and Jan, who kept us posted; also to all those who used this site. It's been a most meaningful experience. CaringBride is a most wonderful service. I know many of us will be thinking specially of Greg this Sunday, as All Souls day is celebrated. Gratefully,
Geraldine Nowak, OSF <gnowak@toast.net>
Toledo, , OH - Monday, October 27, 2003 1:21 PM CST
Dear Beth, all the Tolaas Family , friends and care givers of Greg. I, too will miss this website. I check in many times a day for many messages of inspiration. On Friday, we laid to rest my mother, who at 100 years of age managed to pray a Rosary for Greg during his final struggles. During the week of Mom's death, the website was my respite and consolation. Thank all of you who shared your thoughts and thus lightened my spirit in my time of need. I will continue to keep Tim, Laura and the rest of the Tolaas Family in my prayrs as you continue life without Greg's presence here on earth. "You give me strength to carry on" Lovingly, Elaine T.
Elaine A. Throener <eathroener@msn.com>
Faribault, MN - Monday, October 27, 2003 8:49 AM CST
A final word to all: family, co-ministers, friends of Fr. Greg and now unseen but real friends to each other. The journey has indeed been been a roller coaster and a privilege. Thank you all for opening your hearts and your spirits with such loyalty and depth. Your graced companionship will be missed but remembered, both in my heart and before the Lord. God bless you, every one.
Friend of a Friend
St Paul, MN - Sunday, October 26, 2003 9:06 PM CST
Dear Beth, and all of the Tolaas family, I want to personally thank you again for allowing all of us to share in the the very difficult journey sometimes of Father Greg's surgery and last days in the hospital. We all hoped and prayed everyday for a different outcome, but God had other ideas. It is very inspiring to me that this little cyber community Greg initiated is spreading beyond the web, for instance so many people are getting together and remembering him in prayers and poems that they have written themselves, even after he is gone he is with all of us in our hearts. I read and reread all of the entries this wonderful Caring Bridge has given us, and know almost by heart Father Greg's journal entry of Oct. 4th, 2002, he wrote: "Death is a passage, it is not a slam into a wall,
It is not the great cheater/stealer for those who have bothered to love, And have lived not only in the finite, but in the infinite, Death is the gentle passage into the complete, to the bigger picture, the full actualization, the no longer measured, the fullness of love, the grand YES to God. Isn't that beautiful, I wish our family could of known him, but we were lucky to have just a small part of him by reading his letters to me, and by reading his story in the Catholic Digest. I wish we could of heard his homilies, and heard his beautiful voice raised in praise and love of God, but I shall just be content to pray to him and for him everyday, and I feel his presence whenever I do . God bless you Beth, and Tim, and all of the Tolaas family, and to Father Greg we say go with God, loved one, you have earned your rest, and Peace be with you always.
Dee & George Wilson <deegeo50@aol.com>
Greenfield, In. USA - Sunday, October 26, 2003 4:43 PM CST
My older brother died on September 6th and then Greg --it was almost too much to take, but then I thought that I now have 2 souls in heaven to pray to, and that's what is so
wonderful to think about . I miss the website to turn to --
many spiritual thoughts came thru which were so wonderful to read --they should be published. It would be a best
seller, for sure. Thank you so very much for sharing your
hopes, dreams and finally, sorrow with all of us -- we
were all so close to you in prayer.
Jean Habiger Mathews <pillar6@charter.net>
Owatonna, MN Steele - Sunday, October 26, 2003 4:41 PM CST
Dear Beth~
I want to thank you for letting me follow along on this journey. It has been a privilege like no other. I am grateful for the camaraderie that exists among all of us who've had a connection, whether brief or longstanding, with Fr. Greg. This filled guestbook is a tribute to your Tolaas family. How blessed I am to have read every single word.
With continued prayers of peace...
Bridget (McGraw) Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Saturday, October 25, 2003 10:40 PM CDT
This is a poem I wrote on the day Greg died. I shared it with parishoners earlier. This will be my final entry on these pages, with love to the dear , loving Tolaas family.
Father Greg
If we're lucky,
we might meet
someone extraordinary
once in a lifetime.
Our good fortune
seems as though it can
only be fleeting at best.
We crave to hear
more and more
from this person;
always eager for another moment.
Greg Tolaas
was such a man.
His words were
jewels to collect
and treasure,
words of encouragement
to recall in good times,
or hard times,
always urging people
to become more
than they thought
possible.
Love
was the unrelenting
theme of every
homily he gave,
always laced
with humor
and an exquisite
sense of timing.
But the most
inspirational
tribute to God
came when Greg
lifted his voice in song,
embracing all
in the offertory
prayers of the Mass.
How honored God
must have been
to hear Greg's
beautiful voice
raised in praise
and love.
Greg is now
with God,
interceding for us.
We honor Greg
by remembering
the wonderful lessons
he taught so joyously:
to love our
neighbor as ourselves,
and go the
extra mile to
make a friend.
Donna Montgomery
Donna Montgomery <stjohns.ipm@black-hole.com>
Edina, MN - Thursday, October 23, 2003 7:41 PM CDT
Thank you to all.....to the Tolaas family... to Greg...to Jim and Dale and Jan and all the caregivers...and to all who have shared here.
Coming here has been tears and laughter and prayer and a dancing of the spirit...
i will miss this site...and i rejoice in all i have learned and grown through here.
God Bless,
Margaret Gustafson (Bonnert) <farchant@visi.com>
St. Paul, MN USA - Thursday, October 23, 2003 6:52 PM CDT
"One Whisper of the Beloved"
Lovers share a sacred decree –
to seek the Beloved.
They roll head over heels,
rushing toward the Beautiful One
like a torrent of water.
In truth, everyone is a shadow of the Beloved –
Our seeking is His seeking,
Our words are His words.
At times we flow toward the Beloved
like a dancing stream.
At times we are still water
held in His pitcher.
At times we boil in a pot
turning to vapor –
that is the job of the Beloved.
He breathes into my ear
until my soul
takes on His fragrance.
He is the soul of my soul –
How can I escape?
But why would any soul in this world
want to escape from the Beloved?
He will melt your pride
making you thin as a strand of hair,
Yet do not trade, even for both worlds,
One strand of His hair.
We search for Him here and there
while looking right at Him.
Sitting by His side we ask,
"O Beloved, where is the Beloved?"
Enough with such questions! –
Let silence take you to the core of life.
All your talk is worthless
When compared to one whisper
of the Beloved.
-Rumi
And so it is....
With deep sympathy, love and prayers
slofte!westmetro.des.state.mn.us, - Thursday, October 23, 2003 3:46 PM CDT
I've been out of town and out of touch. The site can go away and we'll survive. You've already given so much. Just one last "Emma" story before I go. Emma must have heard something on TV or overheard us talking about CF and Father Greg and his death. On the way to the Dairy Queen she told me and DJ [her 8-year old brother] I don't want to die. DJ reassured her that when you die you get to go to heaven. What consolation is that for a 6-year old BEAUTFUL little girl who has never hurt anyone in her life. Granted her grandmother [me] at 57 is ready to go if the Lord is ready for me. And because I have accepted him as my personal Savior -- not because of anything I have done here on earth -- how can you "out-do" his dying on the cross, I know that my salvation is sealed. But I know in my heart God is not ready for Emma or Sabrina, or AJ or Jake or Alex or Dylan or Maddie or any of the wonderful children I'vemet through Emma's illness. So my plea [as always] is to pray constantly, give money for research and pray constantly. I know I'm repeating myself [retirement hasn't gotten to me yet]. The praying part is important enough for repetition.
This web site put me in touch with a gal I used to work with at 3M whose husband has CF and we'll have lunch soon to visit. Thank you Tolaas family and Jan for the time it took to keep us updated. Our prayers are with all of you and Tim. We LOVE you.
Emma's grandma -- Mary Mosbey <marymosbey@hormail.com>
Lake Elmo, MN uSA - Wednesday, October 22, 2003 11:25 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas family, and those who have helped keep this web-site going. I just wanted to send another message before this site goes away - and to say once again how much it meant to me, an old neighbor and friend, to be able to follow Greg's story on this site. It still amazes me what a man he grew up to be, and what a family you all are.... and there was laughter, and tears, and heart-warming stories by the ton. Thank you - heal well. My prayers will continue for Tim and family. I too will support CaringBridge...what a wonderful service.
Barb Williamson <williamsonb@hermiston.k12.or.us>
Hermiston, OR - Wednesday, October 22, 2003 1:24 PM CDT
Dear Beth (and other Tolaas clan members),
My name is Naomi Ness, and I have written to Greg in the past (my "connection" being that my daughter has CF). While I never had the privilege of meeting him in person, I feel like I knew him (and his God) well.
I'm writing (before you close this marvelous website) in an attempt to get in touch with those of you who are local because I feel like you are family. I'm wondering if anyone would be willing or able to meet me and my family sometime?
Please consider this, because I can't stand the idea of totally losing contact with all you once this website is (understandably) closed.
Here is my contact information:
Naomi & Jeff Ness
Daughter Emily doesn't have CF; but Sabrina (2 yrs.) does
1685 Overlook Trail North
Stillwater, MN 55082
(651) 998-1685 = home
(651) 260-2075 = mobile
(651) 296-5947 = Naomi's work
Whether I ever meet any of you or not, know that I respect and appreciate each one of you; and will never forget the "story" of Greg or his family. However, I'm optimistic we could someday meet - "his story" won't end here!
Most Sincerely,
Naomi
Naomi Ness
Stillwater, MN USA - Wednesday, October 22, 2003 11:47 AM CDT
hi, beth--i loved the picture of greg immersed in his sabbatical experience!! such good memories of the sinai trip we shared together. of courwe he immersed in everything--i guess that is why he is so missed. i'll miss these occassional updates from you to all of us. i hope tim is doing ok. thanks again. jennifer
jennifer corbett <jcorbett@mymailstation.com>
chicago, il - Wednesday, October 22, 2003 11:06 AM CDT
I've felt like I have had a hole in my heart after learning that we lost Fr. Greg. My first reaction was a little anger and reading the guestbook entries saddened me. It wasn't until just recently that I have been able to read them. If it has been difficult for me to read, then it must have taken much more courage and love for Beth and Jan to write. If Beth decides to step back for a while, maybe she can become one of us. I would like to read Fr. Greg's poem, "Just Beyond" though.
jks <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls., - Tuesday, October 21, 2003 0:38 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family:
I want you to know how grateful I have been to you for offering this site throughout this part of Greg's life. It is a daily ritual for me to check the site (often many times daily!) over the past months. I hope it can stay open a bit longer, and I plan to send money soon to caringbridge for support of this site and all the others--what a wonderful "gift" for so many people to stay connect in any similar situation.
Know that our prayers, love, support, encouragement remain with you. May you all be held gently and lovingly in the hollow of God's hand each day.
Peace,
Eric & Jeannie Dahlberg <e_dahlberg@hotmail.com>
Princeton, MN - Monday, October 20, 2003 3:02 PM CDT
That third photo -- whoa -- is that the portrait of the risen Christ?
Greg, you bore Christ to us in life; now you bear him to us in death. A witness that does not pale. Thank you.
Be loved, saint Gregory!
Beloved saint Gregory...
Smiling, Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Monday, October 20, 2003 10:09 AM CDT
:-) :-) :-)
Beth and family, caringbridge and all,
I am grateful to have known Greg, even if it was a relatively short time. I often think of my own lungs, my physical abilities and the few talents that I have and realize more than ever that it is my duty to use those lungs to sing out as Greg would have done, and to use my abilities and talents to benefit the community. I attended mass at another church this weekend where the joy of singing was not in the hearts of a rather large congregation. St. Philips on the other hand, has the ability, the lungs, and the willingness to express joy through singing. I hope this tradition started by Greg at St. Philips is never lost. (I can still remember his voice singing the Eucharistic Prayer)
I have been between jobs since the day Greg went into the hospital, but will be making a significant contribution to Caringbridge as soon as my cashflow resumes!
Share your lungs, talents, time and finances with JOY!!!!
Peace,
Tim McCarron
:-) :-) :-)
Tim McCarron <timothypmccarron@earthlink.net>
Minneapolis, MN United States of America - Monday, October 20, 2003 9:30 AM CDT
Beth,
You've done a GREAT job with Greg's web site. But if we've managed to go on without Greg, then we'll manage to live without the website. Please don't feel obligated to keep it going. You've already given so generously.
Give yourself permission to stop updating the site once its theraputic value to you is complete. I know how you feel. It can get tiring. I've been keeping a CaringBridge site for my son for over two years now. I too am struggling to find a good stopping point. When, how does one let go of such a source of strength and support? I don't know if I should "wean" or stop cold turkey, so to speak. I know that simply posting new pictures every once in a while will keep my son's audience happy and praying.
Whatever you decide and when you decide to do it, many thanks you for your strenght and generosity.
A friend from Transfiguration <sgdmahels@hotmail.com>
- Monday, October 20, 2003 2:30 AM CDT
Beth--You dear people who have been so generous with your time and effort in caring for Greg...and for keeping the rest of us informed via Caringbridge...Thank you, thank you, thank you. Two final requests.
First: Is it possible to once more post that first photo of Greg? --it said something like "older and graying". A wonderful photo. The day I realized I could copy it on my computer, it disappeared. Would love to have it.
Second: Is there any way to either post or send out copies of the eulogy, homily, and other comments made by friends/family members at Greg's funeral? For those of us not able to be there (I was in a nursing home at the time), it would mean a great deal. (I've seen the "worship aid"...and it was lovely. But the eulogy, homily, and other comments made would be so meaningful to have as well. ) Can they be placed on the St,. Philip's site with the regular weekly homilies? Those are so wonderful, too, Hope they and the St. Philip's site will continue even after caringbridge for Greg ceases.
Thanks again, Dear Ones, for sharing of yourselves and your experiences with Greg with all of us. Though I, personally, miss him tremendously, he will always and forever remain an example of saintly goodness and a reminder that God's love endures in Life and Death. Thanks be to God!
God's blessings and Shalom to you all!
Barbara Lee <brl9096@earthlink.net>
Richfield, MN USA - Sunday, October 19, 2003 10:54 PM CDT
Today, on this beautiful, warm, Sunday, October 19th, we went to Hawkins cemetary. What a peaceful paradise overlooking the hills of Wisconsin. We viewed the headstones marveling at the dates and ages of the persons who are buried there, a lot of Irish! We sat in our lawn chairs, said a rosary and soaked in the warmth of the sun. Fr. Greg lives on in our hearts and, especially, our souls. Fr. Greg's passion for "life" lives on...
Peace, love, faith and hope
Minneapolis, MN - Sunday, October 19, 2003 8:40 PM CDT
Thank you for your more than beautiful words of October l7th Megan.....Why was I not surprised when I reached the bottom of this lovely message to discover that it came from you!
I know that Greg will stay in my heart forever -and I am not done loving him yet either - nor will I ever be! What a total pleasure it was to know him these last three years...oh! how I wish it had been longer!
Linda Hathaway <lindahathaway2003@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Saturday, October 18, 2003 8:55 PM CDT
Dear Family and Friends of Greg, As I gathered together photos and letters of Greg over the years to put into an album, I came across this one -- a hand-drawn tree with colored leaves and these words "In the dying they grow so beautiful - As you grow in years, may you continue to grow in the Beauty of Jesus -- the Master Artist." At this time of falling leaves I read the inside of my birthday message "... the autumn leaves are so beautiful and they have many lessons to teach us about the beauty of dying. Each day we are one day closer to Him, who calls us unto Himself. If we surrender in His plan, we will only grow more beautiful as do these autumn leaves...." thank you, Greg, for teaching us not only the joy of living but the beauty of dying. Keep reminding us of the more important things in this life as you now understand the joys of heaven.
Much love, Mary Jude, OSU
Sr. Mary Jude Jun, OSU <mary_jude_jun@hotmail.com>
- Saturday, October 18, 2003 5:38 AM CDT
I am one of those silent ones...rarely posting an entry, but forever dropping in to read words of hope. I met Fr. Greg only a few times, through my sister Megan, but am forever grateful for those encounters.
Please know that we, the Silent Ones, haven't stopped praying. And, I will aim to live more fully, more politely and more gratefully, following Fr. Greg's example.
Peace~
Bridget (McGraw) Peller
Hutchinson, MN USA - Friday, October 17, 2003 11:04 PM CDT
It's the middle of the day, and saint Gregory has been at my shoulder all day. Last night, I felt such profound sadness at our loss, and today I feel something entirely different. Like communication, only there are no words... and I am oddly reminded of so many of the times I was with Greg before his death (over the years) when we simply sat together, some place beyond dialogue, I suppose. And now I have these transient sensations of Greg here, and Greg gone. I find enormous comfort in the poem of Greg's that Jim shared at his funeral... "Ah, there you are..." Just beyond...
And again the tears come. And I am grateful for even them. I rather hope the sorrow never fades. Funny that Father Greg is himself helping me to face it, head-on. If ever I met a man who was never lukewarm, Greg is that man! So I thank God for these butterfly whispers. Stay with me, Greg, because I am not done loving you.
Beth, Tim, Laura, Maureen, Dale, Jan, Judy, Jim and each of Greg's faithful followers who gather here, sometimes silently but here none-the-less, I continue to pray for all of us that we might know peace and grace and comfort.
I want to share part of something I wrote not too terribly long ago -- about embracing and letting go, about letting go but not letting up --
"Even my young daughter, so new to the mysteries of life, knows about loss. Her heart has been tugged. When she looks at me with those big brown eyes, filled with tender baby tears, how I wish I could hug away her hurt. So I hold her hand and teach her to find her strength. I tell her that she cries hard because she loves well. For every single one of us, the depth of our pain reveals the depth of our love, a capacity we would never know if we stood all by ourselves in the world.
True love is there to teach us
How to let more love inside,
For hearts don’t really break –
They just break open wide.
We are risk-takers. To love does not mean to keep. To have does not mean to hold. Oh, that God will surprise us along the way with the company of angels – angels in blue jeans, angels with ponytails, angels on loan."
What a journey. What a guide. Thank you, dear saint Gregory, for your courageous leadership and presence. Stay on us!!!
Forever love, Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Friday, October 17, 2003 12:10 AM CDT
On earth we know His grace; in heaven we're embraced.
Aimee Scott
Ft. Wayne, IN - Thursday, October 16, 2003 0:07 AM CDT
I know we are all grieving the loss of Fr. Greg, but there is some more Light. The little guy who was in the Univ. of Minn. Hospitals undergoing a bone marrow transplant the same time as Fr. Greg, survived and is home now. Don't know if the two ever met, but every time I hear from or see this little guy, (Jake Mars)I will see Fr. Greg too. He's quite a religious child and still has his caring bridge web page. Shows us smiling faces.
jks
Mpls, - Wednesday, October 15, 2003 1:57 PM CDT
I feel like the earth is caving in on me tonight and I wish I could remember all the words the visiting priest (who sounded like Fr. Greg) at Holy Cross Church on Sunday said. I think he said something about us not being able to do everything alone. We all need help. Just those words seem to be comforting. He also laughed and said they're having a pot roast dinner next Sunday at Holy Cross Church and that they're selling tickets! "This parish really likes to eat, he said! Every time I come here they are having some kind of dinner." Now I say: Wish I could cook too! Hope their good work becomes contagious to me! God bless --
jks
NE Mpls, - Monday, October 13, 2003 10:54 PM CDT
hi, beth--it was wonderful of you to call last week. i have not received the bible yet--please, no hurry. i just hope i gave you the correct address--i look forward to having you address.
jennifer corbett, osf
chicago , - Monday, October 13, 2003 4:28 PM CDT
hi, beth--it was wonderful of you to call last week. i have not received the bible yet--please, no hurry. i just hope i gave you the correct address--i look forward to having you address.
jennifer corbett, osf
chicago , - Monday, October 13, 2003 4:28 PM CDT
Yes, he was a miracle! They said he only knew a little Polish but I bet they were words about his love for us.
I, too, felt like he spoke to my whole family. And every time I shake a chain of keys, I'll think of CSP and the song "Joy to the World."
jk schletty
- Saturday, October 11, 2003 1:54 AM CDT
Beth's words and Jan's words have been beautifully written and have kept us in touch with the daily miracle of Father Greg's journey of courage, hope, sadness, and leaving us to be in the loving embrace of God.
I want to add my thoughts about Father Greg.
Admirable, provocative, intense, gripping, insightfull, entertaining, engaging, imaginative, serving, singing, encouraging, gutsy, inspiring.
He closed the gap between Jesus and me (us). He walked with Jesus in suffering, in serving, in loving and in challenging unjust systems. Each time spent with him was memorable.
Like the celebration of the Mass at St. Thomas;
Like the sung celebration of the Mass of Creation at my daughter's wedding;
Like the Mass celebrated with their families in my home to bless my daughter and her new groom as they set off on a year-long mission trip;
Like the time he administered the Sacrament of the Sick to my dying husband, with our six children present, and urged us each to tell the other what was in our hearts, and then told my husband to ask Jesus to take him, when he (my husband) asked him "how do I do this?"
Like the funeral Mass he celebrated for my husband with a perceptive knowledge of all of us.
Like the time I went on a mission trip with him (how did I, with no small fear, get the courage to go to Guatemala?)
Like the time spent in Ireland, when he joined my daughter, her husband, two-year-old son and me. Those few days in Ireland are brimming with stories dear to my heart: the hot Irish Whiskeys around the peat fires, the trudge through the soggy pasture in tall boots (I only fell on my knees once), the many rosaries said in the people carrier; the harmonized hymns in the people carrier; the Our Father at the Cliffs of Moher.
How often I heard words like: "I like your jacket, I like your jeans, I like your outfit, I saved your card, You can write; you have the gift. Jesus loves your children more than you do".
To think that he was always ready to promote "you" when "he" was in pain.
Now I (we) mourn and wish he were still here. And I (we are) am so grateful that I knew this leader to and follower of Jesus.
Our way has been lit. We have witnessed miracles. Love is all that remains.
Betty Lou Miller <blmiller@mninter.net>
Robbinsdale, MN USA - Friday, October 10, 2003 10:41 PM CDT
After hearing Fr. Greg say Mass at the CSP the past two Christmases and learning about him through this webpage, I have found similarities between our Holy Father Pope John Paul and Father Greg. Both of them put service over self even when in a great deal of pain. I say to myself -- Where is that love that goes beyond self, beyond ego(s), beyond hurt feelings, beyond pain? I will pray to Fr. Greg to help me find that kind of love which he had and our Holy Father Pope John Paul still has.
jks
Mpls., - Thursday, October 9, 2003 9:33 PM CDT
During the grief session last night I remembered this piece someone sent me when my son died suddenly. When I reread it I could almost hear it in Greg's voice....
When I die, if you need to weep
cry for your brother or sister
walking the street beside you.
And when you need me, put your arms around anyone
and give them what you need to give me.
I want to leave you something,
something better than words or sounds.
Look for me in the people I’ve known or loved.
And if you cannot give me away,
at least let me live in your eyes and not on your mind.
You can love me most by letting hands touch hands,
by letting bodies touch bodies
and by letting go of children that need to be free.
Love doesn’t die, people do.
So when all that’s left of me is love,
give me away.
- Anonymous
JK
Mpls, - Thursday, October 9, 2003 7:49 AM CDT
Just a friendly reminder for those who may have been thinking about donating to Caring Bridge, but haven't ---- Please do. I just made an online donation and it took just a few seconds. My step mother died last Christmas and oh how I wish I knew of Caring Bridge then. We were constantly emailing across the country to keep everybody updated, but things get missed and you simply cannot see, feel and read the wonderful prayers and sentiments that were being sent our way.
It has been an amazing journey with the Tolaas clan. I am grateful for your openness. May God continue to bless Tim with great numbers. I so appreicate you and this website.
SJF
- Wednesday, October 8, 2003 10:57 PM CDT
dear beth, it doesn't seem like a month. time doesn't go fast or slow when you are grieving or remembering with love, does it. i love your image of greg walking beside you and resting in your heart.what a brother!
sr. suzanne
sr. suzanne homeyer
minneapolis, mn usa - Wednesday, October 8, 2003 10:35 AM CDT
Dearest Beth, Tim, Laura, Maureen and All: Just a quick note to let you know that you remain in my thoughts and prayers many times a day EVERY day! Was so glad to hear that Tim's numbers have shown an improvement, thanks be to God. Prayers will continue without ceasing dear friends. Your Anglican/Episcopal friend in Christ, Ron
Ron Hall <tofer@charter.net>
Eau Claire, WI - Tuesday, October 7, 2003 8:02 PM CDT
On the one month anniversary of Greg's death, I wonder if he's reorganized Heaven yet! God must be enjoying his company.
Donna Montgomery <stjohns.ipm@black-hole,com>
Edina, MN - Tuesday, October 7, 2003 5:14 PM CDT
It is intersting to me that this little cyber community Greg initiated is spreading beyond the web. Several people have written to me about one or another of my posts. I have written back and we continue a dialogue.
Then, after a while one of us may suggest we meet for coffee . . .
A few of us who live in the same town but had never met before, have connected. We even drove out to the Hawkins family cemetery last weekend together. On the drive we discovered so much we share in common! Of course, Greg would be the one to bring us together--even from the glory side of the Kingdom!
I have bumped into some "familiar names" at various social justice committee functions. Staring at each other's name tags, we exclaim, "I know you!" And suddenly, it is as if we do--even though we have only just met. It is the oddest thing; an immediate recognition of a person one has never met.
I guess, truly, any friend of Greg's is a friend of mine. Judging by the size of the crowd at his funeral, I'd say I have a LOT of friends. I hope I bump into more of you--though hopefully, not all at once!
Peg Helminski <PegHelminski@aol.com>
Woodbury, MN - Tuesday, October 7, 2003 10:09 AM CDT
As I read this site weekly, I am reminded of the words that someone on this site e-mailed to me. She said, "we must be gentle with each other." People greive and mourn in different ways and at different stages. Some may see a book as something that shouldn't be done, others as something that should. All we can know for certain is that it is a decision Greg's family will need to make in their own time. Until then, I appreciate all of the entries to this site - those for a book, those against a book, and those about everything but a book. May God bless each of us as we greive and mourn at the pace that is best for us. I think the woman was right, during this greiving time and always we can all learn to be a litle more gentle with one another. Thanks to ALL who contribute here, your thoughts bring laughter, tears, peace, joy and thought to me. God bless.
A thankful heart
- Monday, October 6, 2003 6:48 PM CDT
To the family of Father Greg,
I know how your family needs time to grieve, to recuperate, and to get through the tasks at hand. Our family went through the same when my sister Barb (who had CF) died after her heart & lung transplant in 1988 and then when my brother Bill was killed in a car accident in 1995.
Greg was truly an inspiration to the CF patients that knew him. Back when I was a teenager (early 1980's), I heard about Father Greg and that he had just been ordained. That instantly showed me that I too could pursue further education and become whatever I wanted to be. He continued to be an inspiration after all these years...especially when he spoke at the CF Consumer Conferences. His down-to-earth speeches gave every parent, patient and care-giver hope.
The idea of writing a book about Father Greg's life is a wonderful idea. Granted the task shouldn't be taken on immediately, but I would highly encourage it sometime in the future.
Thank you.
Nancy Brenner <nancybrenner@hotmail.com>
Eau Claire, WI - Monday, October 6, 2003 1:32 PM CDT
Dear Beth, Laura, Tim, Maureen and Members of St. Philip's parish family,
I just received this letter from my friend on death row in Jackson, GA. The St. Philip's parish family know of Larry Lee because of their baptising chlldren in his beautifully crocheted christening set and also his crocheted piece of the Last Supper hanging in your church. He was praying hard for Fr. Greg. Here is what he said when I told him of his death:
" I was shocked to hear that dear Fr. Greg had died. I had thought he was going to make it, but I guess God was ready for him to come home. He was a brave man to deal with all the suffering he endured his whole life and will always be an inspiration to me. I can only hope and pray for the grace to handle my struggles the way he did while here on earth. Heaven is a richer place now because of Fr. Greg."
We knew Greg was being prayed for on every continent. I just wanted you to know he was being prayed for on death row by a man who has been there 17 years for a crime he did not commit. Please pray for Larry as I'm sure Greg is doing from heaven.
Sr. Mary Jude, OSU <mary_jude_jun@hotmail.com>
Frontenac, MN - Monday, October 6, 2003 7:28 AM CDT
I was filled with Greg's presence this afternoon as I spent some time at the Hawkin's Cemetery today. What a beautiful, peaceful, tranquil resting place Greg choose. I was in awe at the sights, sounds, and smells all around me. I was saddened at first, but then heard the words - "You are on holy ground". I knew it was Greg. Any of us who ever knew or ever experienced Greg would say he was a very Holy Man. So, the ground where his body lays in rest, until the coming of our Lord, IS truly Holy and Sacred Ground.
God Bless us all as we continue to mourn the lose of our dear brother Greg!
Lynn Nolan <lynndnolan@yahoo.com>
Woodbury, MN Washington - Saturday, October 4, 2003 9:16 PM CDT
I ask that your thoughts and prayers be with Greg's family, the CSP, and many around the state of MN - and indeed throughout the world on two occassions this week.
Tuesday is the one month anniversary of Greg's passing into eternal life. Can it already be a month?
Wednesday evening from 7-8:30 p.m. the CSP is hosting a Journey of Faith seminar on Greif and Loss. This seminar is being conducted by Mary Catherine Casey who is the chaplin at Fariview University Medical Center and who ministered to Greg and his family while he was there. The CSP has graciously invited not only its own parishioners and people from the neighborhood, but one and all to attend this session to be ministered to as a community that is grieving. So I hope that everyone's thoughts and prayers can be with all those attending on Wednesday, and especially for those all over the world who would love to be there but cannot be.
As you hold those attending in prayer, please know that they too will be holding you up in prayer. As together, we all learn how to continue on without our brother, cousin, friend, pastor, mentor and teacher.
Thanks
tlj
Twin Cities, - Saturday, October 4, 2003 8:32 PM CDT
Beth,
Thanks for updating the webpage with a few after thoughts. . .I have been traveling the last few days and have not been reading. But, are you kidding, the least we can do is pray for your brother Tim, for good test results, for Gregs soul and for your kind spirit!
All the best and you and your family will be at the top of my list tonight for prayers!
Jed Hastings
St Paul, MN - Saturday, October 4, 2003 7:03 PM CDT
Beth and family, Of course, be sure to take the precious time you need to be with your grief and the changes. Rushing it would be hazardous! Thanks, though, for sharing and keeping us posted on events.
God bless you!
Teri Cain and family
Worland , WY - Saturday, October 4, 2003 4:24 PM CDT
great pictures, dear beth...i need them for my healing and thank you for sharing them with so many of us.peace and love,
sr. suzanne
minneapolis, mn usa - Friday, October 3, 2003 11:30 AM CDT
Dear Beth,
The last wedding Fr. Greg conducted while the campus minister at St Thomas was our son and daughter-in-law's, Jeff & Jennifer Lee Smith. Father Greg had a great influence on Jeff and of course we enjoyed his great homilies when we would visit.
On November 15th the Des Moines chapter of the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation is hosting "The Wine Opener", a fund raising event for the Foundation. Our firm, Financial Partners Group, is one of the major sponsors of this effort. The courage, faith and grace with which Father Greg conducted his life has been an inspiration and a gift to many of us.
Ken Smith, Clive, Iowa
Ken Smith <ken_smith@financialpartnersgroup.net>
Clive, Io - Friday, October 3, 2003 8:27 AM CDT
Dear Beth, Thank you for continuing to write to us, helping us hear the voice of God thru Fr. Greg, and sharing pictures of joy in his life. You make us feel like we are all members of your family. As our pastor said last weekend at Holy Rosary Church, "Light persists even in darkness."
We all get to see the power of love which Fr. Greg taught us and now must allow God to work through us. I keep this World Peace Prayer with me. "Lead me from Death to Life, from Falsehood to Truth. Lead me from Despair to Hope, from Fear to Trust. Lead me from Hate to Love, from War to Peace. Let Peace fill our Heart, our World our Universe. God Bless --
J.S.
Mpls, MN - Thursday, October 2, 2003 11:25 PM CDT
Hi Beth,
Thanks for the pictures! I have absolutely loved the one of Greg hanging out backwards over the lake in San Lucas and wished I had a copy of it. (Now I do!) This just looks like a man who knew how to grab every ounce of life that was given to him. It will serve as a reminder to me to do the same. Carpe Diem!
Peg Helminski <PegHelminski@aol.com>
Woodbury, MN - Thursday, October 2, 2003 4:00 PM CDT
Beth, Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and your grief. I really appreciate that you are still updating the pictures on the web site with pictures of Greg being Greg. I never met him, so these photos really complete the picture everyone (and Greg himself) have painted. Thank you!!
a friend in Christ
- Thursday, October 2, 2003 1:31 AM CDT
To those of you who were unable to attend Fr. Greg's funeral, I would just like to share a thought. I had never been to the funeral of a priest so I was quite amazed at all the priests who were able to attend the funeral Mass. They took up the entire right center of the Basilica and they were all in white vestments. I thought it seemed more like an ordination! Since we arrived early, I recognized many priests from years ago. What a welcome sight! God bless and thanks to those of you who are remembering all of us in your prayers. I'll keep those of you who write in to this webpage in my prayers too.
A friend in Christ
Mpls., MN - Thursday, October 2, 2003 0:06 AM CDT
May I share an image from Fr. Greg's funeral: I stood with my husband on the steps of the basilica as Mass ended, and saw the traffic whiz by on Interstate 94 and the construction machinery at the Walker. The storefronts were to the east and several cars were passing us on the street in front of church. The phrase came to me, "the heart of the city" and it seemed that was just where Greg wanted to be. Then I looked and saw the plain, pine box being gently lifted into the hearse. "Simplicity in the heart of the city." Greg's casket was so simple in the midst of the hub-bub of a Friday noontime in the big city. A tender image for me of the man and his life...Simplicity in the Heart of the City.
mary mcclure
st,paul, mn usa - Thursday, October 2, 2003 0:03 AM CDT
Beth, what wonderful pictures of Greg! I continue to go to this web site daily as I pray for you and your family. PC from Texas, I hold you in prayer, hoping that your time in retreat will be a time of blessing and deeper healing for you. The community of faith gathered together on this web site is such an inspiration. Thanks to all!
Sue Fortier, O.S.B. <sf977587@aol.com>
Duluth, MN USA - Wednesday, October 1, 2003 10:39 PM CDT
beth,
your recent thoughts were beautiful.
however, i just don't understand the need to "write a book." everyone always does that. how worldly are we when we feel the need to go beyond someone's life? why not just leave greg as greg, in our hearts knowing his "wonderfulness", but realizing in the end he's no different than anyone else who's lived a life before or after us! our greater power would never set any one of us above the rest of the fold. certainly this is not taking away from greg, but rather giving to back to him what he would give all of us -- respect & peace in the end.
lm <mail@email.com>
sp, mn usa - Wednesday, October 1, 2003 10:37 PM CDT
Dear Family and Friends of Father Greg,
I am the one who listed the passage from the Magnificat, I just did not list my name as I usually do. I appreciated that someone missed me, and my comments. I am continuing to check the site -- but as unobtrusively as possible. I am going to be off the web for about 10 days -- in retreat -- and praying for all of you to continue to heal.
Although, I can say from personal experience, it takes a long time to go on with life. My Mother died suddenly of a heart attack in April 1994, and my brother was murdered on 6 December 1994 while trying to be a good Samaritan. Then property I owned was torched by an arsonist on the day of my brother's funeral (9 Dec). The murderer was never caught. The police said it could have been a gang member trying to steal the car I had just purchased for my brother. He loved the car and would not give it up, and thereby lost his life. The fire marshall never found who set the fire (it also is suspected to have been kids making their bones in a gang) and we had too little insurance to cover all the expenses of the loss. Then two close friends from work died from terminal illness all within the next 5 months. It took me two years to get to the point where I could sleep at night without nightmares.
There have been more deaths of very close loved ones over the last few years and recently again. Some more from long drawn out illnesses, some suddenly. My absolute faith and love in Jesus Christ and God the Father, and the love and comfort received from the Holy Spirit has been all that has carried me through the last 9 years. Father Greg was and is a true inspiration to me === in his spirit I find the courage to "keep-on-keeping-on," regardless of all else. When you look at all that he accomplished teaching us all about the love of God and our need to love our neighbor, in his short 47 years, it is truly amazing. I believe he was an angelic messenger from God or a Saint, and probably both. His effect on me from the one time I saw him at Mass has been unbelieveable. I am now finding a peace that I did not know before. I think the effects of his soul touching mine through that one event has been the most significant treasure I have for the rest of my life. I will continue to pray for him, for his family and for his friends. I will continue to ask Greg to deliver my petitions to the Father. I am sure they are well acquainted. Love and best wishes.
PC
TX USA - Wednesday, October 1, 2003 9:36 PM CDT
I have begun to learn, due to our all-too-plentiful Hawkins family funerals, that one gift of the dying person is the feeling of true connection to the family that I feel at funerals. Maybe in a large family such as ours, it takes a funeral to get everyone together, but I also believe it to be the nature of a funeral that allows connection: Love is on the surface, day to day matters are set aside, HEARTS ARE OPEN. At Greg's dying, his funeral services, and most of all his burial, I realized his "connection" gift (in true Greg T. fashion) was a cut above. The day of his burial, as I allowed my mind to wander to my Dad and his siblings as children on that farm, and my Grandma out in that yard, I also stood back to view our sweet cemetary filled with people(!!) as I never had before and may never again. I basked in the lovely family connection, the familiarity, the comfort. Then I realized I felt that familiarity with EACH person there, with friends of Greg's, with parishioners I had not met, with people checking this website. My heart was open; I actually could feel it being open, and I realized Greg's magic: His heart was open ALL the time. He felt that loving, family connection with ALL people, all the time.
I usually hope when someone I love dies that they will show me how wonderful it is in heaven. When Greg died, he showed me how wonderful it is to be on earth.
What a generous gift. What a generous man.
Christie Hawkins
Northfield, MN - Wednesday, October 1, 2003 9:33 AM CDT
:-) :-) :-)
Thank you Beth and Family for sharing the pictures of Greg!
Tim McCarron
:-) :-) :-)
Tim McCarron <timothypmccarron@earthlink.net>
Minneapolis, MN - Wednesday, October 1, 2003 9:27 AM CDT
My boyfriend's sister has the same disease my boyfriend has; therefore, as a friend wrote in her son's caringbridge webpage, we are called to be "prayer warriors," and I say, "prayer in actions and words." May my boyfriend, his sister, and Fr. Greg's brother, Tim, and all the sick in mind and body, never lose sight of everything Our Lord has done for them, and (thru Fr. Greg's intercession) never lose sight of everything wonderful Our Lord will continue to do for them for help and healing here in their earthly lives. God bless --
A friend in Christ
Mpls, - Wednesday, October 1, 2003 1:31 AM CDT
Greg is the excellent model for Catholic Priests everywhere...in his love, in his projection, in his attunement to his people and surroundings and most of all in his humor. He has touched many and I know he has succeeded in this life. Perhaps he can now help pschychotic post-mortem's in the extraphysical world(per Conscientiology and Projectiology beliefs).
Patrick Montgomery <pjmont@uswest.net>
Moorpark, CA U.S.A. - Wednesday, October 1, 2003 0:38 AM CDT
PC in TX:
Thoughts and prayers to you during the time of loss in your own family. I miss your postings to this site. God be with you PC.
Someone in this webcommunity
- Tuesday, September 30, 2003 11:17 PM CDT
Dear Beth:
Thank you for your latest postings. They are like balm for the soul and provide some measure of peace as I read them again and again. Of course you know that you can always ask for what you need here, and share your truest feelings with this website community and we will be there to do what we can and to follow your families wishes. While our focus may have been on Greg these past months, you and your siblings have always been there in our prayers and our hearts, that will not change. We hold you close in thought and prayer and ask the Lord to provide you with what you need. Mainly we ask that you all will feel our love and support of you durning this time of grieving, missing, and remembering.
Thank you so very much for the pictures you posted and for all the ones that may be to come. Once again the generosity of your family in sharing Greg with one and all is so greatly appreciated. You have done so much already and we can never repay you and your family for it all.
Tim, we'll be storming the gates of heaven with prayers for your clinic appointment on Friday. We pray that it will be the best news possible for you. You and Laura and your continued struggle are not forgotten. You too are mentor and hero. BEst of luck on Friday and every day.
Maureen;
It must be difficult for you to be so far away from your brother and sister during this time. Please know that we send extra prayers your way too for comfort and healing and for feeling the closeness of your family even though the miles separate you.
To all the Tolaas', the Hawkins, the other relatives, and to the Philipian's - you are all in our thoughts and prayers. We pray for those needs you share on this site- and for those needs that are too private to share with this webcommunity. God bless one and all.
Live fully, love radically.
A FRIEND
MPLS, MN - Tuesday, September 30, 2003 11:15 PM CDT
Thanks, Thanks, Thanks for the photos!!
They are great and the life your photos share is a life to see as a model. In reading the MAGNIFICAT on 27th Sept, I could not but think of Father Greg when the Meditation for the Day addressed "Sharing Christ's Passion." It really fit the one you, Beth, are mourning. "Because we serve God we are afflicted and because he loves us he treats us as he himself was treated .... Sufferings are the lot of the good because, by their virtue and fidelity, they have rendered themselves worthy to make a good use of them." Saint Vincent de Paul.
Father Greg was very worthy.
A Friend
- Tuesday, September 30, 2003 8:11 PM CDT
These are jottings from my journal I feel I want to share with any of you reading this...a friend assured me these would be healing words to someone who needs them...
...As soon as I get out of the car I am overwhelmed by the smell of pine trees. Lovely, refreshing, life-giving and full of remembrances...Can you imagine going to Grandma's farm and not being able to play in the barn or feed the animals because the straw and hay might get in your lungs and take your breath away? Could cause your death. And to be 'boxed-in' with straw and since you have already passed thru death your used-up body can only be caressed and comforted as it lies in the straw. Jesus was rested in a bed of straw as he began a new phase of his great journey. Yours continues, too. And the promise is held out to you -- not a brass ring but a front row seat for the beautiful face of God...Prayers for all of us who have been touched deeply by this special man and his struggle; his healings; his love and perseverance. And his honesty --- his ability to call things as he saw them. Life is too short not to be honest, loving and who God calls you/and gifts you to be. To life!
Sr. Suzanne Homeyer VHM <Suzannempls@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, September 30, 2003 7:51 PM CDT
Friends,
I know that I just updated the main page yesterday; however, there are a couple of things I forgot to mention...imagine that.
First of all, Dale, we at St. Philip's will miss you dearly, but know in our hearts that this is an exciting and positive move for you. I also love the fact that Greg so often said how supportive he was of your accepting this assignment and taking on the challenge of your own parish. We will not say goodbye, Dale. We will just say best of everything to you, dear friend.
Secondly, many of you have asked how our brother Tim is doing with battling his Cystic Fibrosis and diabetes. He has worked hard these past days and weeks, as always, to stay on top of the game in the midst of all that has happened. He has a clinic appointment on Friday that will let him know more accurately how he is doing. If you think of it, let's all send prayers Heaven's way at noon on Friday, October 3rd, and wish Tim only great results.
Lastly, I forgot to mention that I put three new pictures in Greg's Caringbridge photo album. I will try to update these weekly for those of you who care to print them off and add them to your collection.
All for now. ~Beth
Beth Tolaas
St. Paul, MN USA - Tuesday, September 30, 2003 6:42 PM CDT
As I clicked on to Greg's website as I continue to do every night, I was so so so very happy to see a new note from you, dear Beth. Thank you ~~ not a day goes by that I do not think of you and wish I could take away the hurt. Know that you are loved by so so many and thank you again, Beth, for your always beautiful and inspiring words. They are so heartfelt and truly lovely ~~ as are you!!
With much love and many hugs, Linda xxx ooo
Linda Hathaway
Minneapolis, MN - Monday, September 29, 2003 11:21 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas family, friends and St. Philips congregation,
What can possibly be said that hasn't already been said? We are terribly sorry and continue to keep all of you in our prayers. We attended St. Philips whenever we were in the Cities and got to know the wonderful people of that neighborhood, and of course Fr. Greg. It still is hard to believe that he is gone, isn't it? What beautiful memories! We are so blessed to have known him. I once read a story of a father who said two important words to his children over and over... 'Be there'. He meant for them to conduct their lives so that at the end of the world, their family would all be joined in Heaven and be there. How awful for one member not to 'be there'. Let us all try to also 'be there', joined in Heaven with Fr. Greg. (If we thought he sang and celebrated the Mass awesome here, can you just imagine what it'll be like in Heaven?) I don't think there are words to describe that! God bless all of you.
Joe and Becky Eibensteiner
Joe and Becky Eibensteiner <becabo@yahoo.com>
Sauk Centre, MN usa - Monday, September 29, 2003 8:44 PM CDT
Dear all--I too visited Greg's grave this weekend, as Stan and I traveled through Wisconsin to my niece's wedding. Such a contrast to north Minneapolis, yet the same feeling of peace and calm and beauty there as in the Peace Garden. I'm sure it will be a place of pilgrimage for many over the years, as we remember the lessons Greg taught us and prayerfully seek to live with Greg-like faith and vitality.
Margaret Nelson
- Monday, September 29, 2003 5:29 PM CDT
To Beth, Maureen, Tim, Laura and Gregs friends:
I drove to visit Gregs grave yesterday. It was a meloncholic type of day, the sun out one minute, the chill wind and grey clouds the next. The visit was one of peace, sadness and yet relief for Greg that he no longer is facing the pain and uncertainty that his CF held for him. I also prayed for his family that through this, more awareness and a cure can be found for CF. My heart goes out to the Tolaas Family each time I visit this website. I,too, visit it many times daily. Thank You for keeping it open for us to heal and share and know of the love and prayers are with you as they were all during Gregs struggles for life.
Hugs & Prayers.
Elaine T
Elaine A. Throener <eathroener@msn.com>
Faribault, MN - Monday, September 29, 2003 4:55 PM CDT
The parishoners of St. Philip Church have suffered not only one huge loss, but now a second. First, the loss of our beloved Greg, and today, the loss of another dear priest, Father Dale Korogi. What a beautiful tribute we heard from Dale today, again, about his long friendship with Greg and his years of priesthood. We were so lucky to have been twice blessed with these two outstanding men. It almost seems too much to endure - losing both of them within a month. But, go with joy, Dale, knowing you served Greg and St. Philip with such unselfish love, and was priviledged to be Greg's best friend for twenty years. We wish you only the best, and know that you are much appreciated and much loved by so many people. Christ the King will be richly blessed to have you as their pastor.
With love and thanks,
Donna Montgomery
Donna Montgomery <stjohns.ipm@black-hole.com>
Edina, MN - Sunday, September 28, 2003 10:22 PM CDT
Today my heart and thoughts are with Maureen, Tim and Laura, and Beth. As the hours become days, the days become weeks, and the first month is fast approaching my prayers go out to each of you. I ask this website "community"" to keep Maureen,Tim and Laura, and Beth especially close to your hearts. May each take a little of the love they felt for Greg and transfer that to his sisters, brother and sister-in- law that they may feel the loving protection of our Lord during this most difficult time of grief, pain and loneliness. Heavenly Father please hold these dear ones in the craddle of the palm of your hand and give them each what they need the most. May they feel your loving presence around them and may they feel your peace. We trust them to your loving care for you know what they need. And if by chance you aren't quite sure, please check with Greg - he can tell you what they need the most.
We pray too for Father Dale Korogi. Please be with him and give him the same things we ask you to give to Maureen and Tim and Laura and Beth. Bless him as he beign his new paris duties at Christ the King. Help him to get what he needs as he contines to help others through their own grief may he lean on your strength and promises.
We ask this Heavenly Father in the name of Jesus your son.
Amen
Prayerfully
Minneapolis, - Sunday, September 28, 2003 3:22 PM CDT
I too, keep coming back to this site which was such a HUGE part of my day for months. Emma [and her 8-year old brother DJ] are with us this weekend as their parents celebrate their 10th anniversary and take a much needed rest. They took a little break in their weekend to take DJ to an eye specialist to check out a possible tear in his retina. Praise God it was OK [so far]. Emma prayed tonight at dinner and thanked God for DJ's good health. Now if only we can pray and raise enough money to find a cure for CF so DJ can say a prayer of thanksgiving for Emma's good health. She looks healthy to an observer, but the ugly pseudamonas bacteria is back and she's up to 2 full hour treatments a day -- with lots of antibiotics and some pretty intense pounding from the vest. Praise God for the vest. And praise God for computer games and keyboards to keep a 5-year old occupied for over 2 hours a day. All that aside, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE pray for a cure for this nasty disease. The one that took our precious Father Greg and the one that plagues Tim [Greg's brother] and so many people we all know and love. It's time. When we say someday CF will stand for Cure Found -- I want the someday to be SOON. These babies are too precious to think about losing. And life is too short to be tied to antibiotics and machines that clear your lungs. Thanks for reading. Thanks for praying and THANKS for supporting the research with your hard-earned dollars. Rest in Peace Father Greg. Not a day goes by that we don't think of you and miss you.
Mary Mosbey [Emma's grandma] <marymosbey@hotmail.com>
Lake Elmo, MN USA - Saturday, September 27, 2003 9:56 PM CDT
Dear Beth, Tolaas Family, Jan and Caregivers,
I am thinking of all of you specially in these continued unfolding days of now living without Greg's physical presence. I simply hope and pray that you are each getting/pursuing what you need in these days of "tender time". All the very best to each of you. Peace.--Geraldine
P.S. to Mary Jude, loved your poem.
P.P.S. My thoughts and prayers are also with the CSP family
and all of us "on line".
Geraldine <gnowak@toast.net>
Toledo, OH - Friday, September 26, 2003 11:07 AM CDT
I know that one should not live with regrets, but I know this one will haunt me for years to come, my not attending the three day celebration of Fr. Greg's life. I woke up the Thursday morning before his funeral and felt terrible that I did not board that flight from Houston to Minneapolis. I felt that somehow I left something undone with Fr. G (my name for him). I know if I had a chance to speak to him he would say, its okay Andrea, don;t worry about it.
I had a dream a few days later in which I stopped by a flower show and purchsed the last rose plant they had, and all the way home it kept tipping over. I woke up the next morning pondering that dream, and realize it was my message to plant a rose bush in Fr. Greg's memory. A fitting memory for a man who loved to garden. One day he came into my office (at St. Philip's) with two pictures of himself and Kelly, and asked which one do you like? I picked the one of him staring intently full shot into the camera with Kelly in the foreground. This picture now holds a special place on my prayer table. I can look at him and smile, and know that though he is gone he is always in my heart.
Peace and joy to all of us who miss him dearly. Let our lives be a testament to having known him. This I believe is what he would have wanted from all of us. We are all truly blessed for having known him.
So here in my little part of Texas, I will plant a beautiful rose garden in his honor, and maybe one of these days he will come to visit.
Andrea JeanBaptiste <ajeanbaptiste42@aol.com>
Houston, TX USA - Friday, September 26, 2003 8:39 AM CDT
TO GREG
Sept. 7, 2003
Dearest Greg, forever free
from the BDs and the pain
We rejoice with you today,
our great loss is heavens' gain
Breathe in deepy God's delight
welcoming you to your reward
Now you know and are known, Greg,
living with your loving Lord
Walk the neighborhood of heaven
dancing, laughing, on the go,
greeting Grandma, Mom and Dad
Hugging Mary, Patti Jo
Don't forget us -- family -- friends
those who loved and held you dear
thousands of us, met and known
through those forth-seven years
We all know your heart's desire
Justice, mercy, righting wrongs,
Send us now your Spirit-fire
Make your music, sing your songs
Help us as we struggle now
to continue and increase
all your dreams -- you showed us how:
Justice, Mercy, Love and Peace.
Sister Mary Jude Jun, OSU <mary_jude_jun@hotmail.com>
Frontenac, MN - Friday, September 26, 2003 6:25 AM CDT
I attended Greg's funeral, though I never had heard of him before. It was one of the most moving liturgical experiences of my life. The sights and sounds still vibrate in my memory. Thank God for Greg. I came away moved to want to life and move and have my being in the world BETTER.
Father Patrick W. Collins, Ph.D.
Douglas MI
Patrick W. Collins <pcollins@sirus.com>
Douglas, MI USA - Thursday, September 25, 2003 9:52 AM CDT
A few days ago, our little girl, Clara LeBlanc, who happens to be one of Greg's godchildren told her mother Michelle that see "wants to go to Fr. Greg's Peace Garden." St. Philip's also has a Peace Garden next to our church. Clara and the many other kids who were at the burial seemed to have a great time playing on the hill....finding rocks....wrestling and running around. Thank you Greg for everything.
John LeBlanc <jleblanc@qwest.net>
Mpls., MN USA - Thursday, September 25, 2003 8:17 AM CDT
We visited Fr. Tolaas's gravesite last Saturday. It was so peaceful there. It reminded us that he has complete peace now. What a wonderful thing that is. We noticed a beautiful swallowtail butterfly land on the cross that was there. Didn't see any other butterflies around. We ran into Greg's uncle while there, and want to thank him for his kindness to us. We felt bad because we did not have the words to express our sorrow to him for his loss. We were tongue tied. We ourselves still feel so much sadness and are so unable to understand why Fr. Tolaas had to go through SO much, even knowing it had to be God's will. It is hard to accept sometimes. So we can't imagine how hard it must be for his wonderful family. What a special family this is. Thanks also to whoever posted directions to the cemetery.
Friends
- Wednesday, September 24, 2003 12:22 AM CDT
Hello all. I have been checking this site through habit as well and am now realizing what a great resource this is for all of us who are trying to find meaning and inspiration in the loss of our brother, cousin, friend and the huge hole this has left. Thank you for your kind words and stories. By the way, for the people wanting more Greg-related inspiration, Beth told us that Greg loved Eva Cassidy's album, Songbird, that I have been looking for.
There have been entries about book ideas and I would like to ask for help with a project I am hoping will succeed. The night before Greg's wake I was trying to think about how I would explain his passing to my niece and nephews and ended up sitting down and writing, with scribbled illustrations, a children's book. I was hoping to be able to surprise the Tolaas clan with a loving tribute, but in undertaking this I am realizing that I need help! All proceeds will go towards Kids' Club and other St. Philip's Patchwork Quilt Programs. If anyone has ideas, friends or resources for illustrators, printers or publishers (or information about self-publishing in general) I would greatly appreciate your response to my email address below. Thanks in advance.
Noelle Bell <bellnoelle@hotmail.com>
Houlton , WI - Wednesday, September 24, 2003 11:39 AM CDT
The butterfly images abound! One of the sympathy cards I received reads, "A butterfly lights beside us like a sunbeam. And for a brief moment, its glory and beauty belong to our world... But then it flies on again, and though we wish it could have stayed, we feel so lucky to have seen it." The vision of Greg, flying free in the company of angels, surrounded by a family of saints, inhaling the very breath of the Holy Spirit, it is fitting.
Peace... Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Wednesday, September 24, 2003 5:50 AM CDT
I have also felt Fr. Greg's presence. When I learned my nephew was disappointed about his school district and the cutbacks, I quoted some of Fr. Greg's Christmas message from this website about God's love. Then when I looked back at the rough spots in my day today, I thought to myself that maybe I forgot to concentrate on this message for myself.
J.S.
Mpls, MN - Wednesday, September 24, 2003 0:02 AM CDT
This morning a Mass was said for Father Greg at Immaculate Heart of Mary in St. Paul. I was able to attend. I recalled his enthusiastic sermons at St. Thomas where I would regularly hear him preach. I add my feelings to all who have written about this inspirational priest. The reading Beth read at Father Greg's funeral was very fitting--- (How she was able to read it with such composure was a sign of grace to me.)the second letter of St. Paul to the Corinthians 4:1-15. Parts of it read: "Therefore, since it is by God's mercy that we are engaged in this ministry, we do not lose heart... We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed...struck down , but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be made visible in our bodies. For while we live, we are always being given up to death for Jesus' sake, so that the life of Jesus may be made visible in our mortal flesh."
Three other quotations came to my mind which also seem very fitting: "The secret of life isn't what happens to you, but what you do with what happens to you"--Norman Vincent Peale
"My delight in existence is on this level: to shower death with a fireworks of life."--Salvador Dali
"Remember that from the point of view of the Great Worker, one poor tool, working all the time, but doing bad work, is of small value compared with the sharp, keen, perfect instrument used only a short time but which turns out perfect work." Feb. 28 entry in the devotional book GOD CALLING.
Peace and comfort to all who mourn Father Greg. This website has been very helpful.
M. Zawistowski
St. Paul, MN USA - Tuesday, September 23, 2003 10:49 PM CDT
Good Morning to you all. Thanks for letting us know where you are at Beth, I can only imagine what you are facing. It is habit to check Greg's website and such an encouragement to all. I can see Greg smiling with each entry. I left to go out of town 2 days before Greg passed however had a sense that it was his time to meet our Lord face to face. I felt sadness in my heart for what Greg must have went through along with you the family those last days. However in some way knew when I returned and I read the words that Greg had passed, a peace also swept through me. I miss just knowing him in a small way, yet his impact on my life continues daily to arise. I too have a butterfly image as since Greg's passing my yard has been filled with fluttering monarch wings. I smile and say hi Greg and know that He is making the same impact in heaven and as usual having plenty of souls in his presence as he did on earth. Greg will carry on through many of us and I am grateful to have such an inspiration in my life.
Kelly Schmidt <kellyjoschmidt@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, September 23, 2003 5:59 PM CDT
Dear Beth:
A day hasn't gone by that I haven't looked at Greg's picture and think about him. I'll see Muggs tomorrow and have been printing some of the stories about "Himself." When I introduced myself to you, you have the exact same warmness and love that came from Greg. I truly know that many miracles are happening and know that he has had, and will have a lot to do with them. Whenever I look at his picture, he is looking right back into my eyes. Take care, and am looking forward to looking at the Website and seeing Muggs, who like thousands of people are trying to cope.
Love, Rocko
Rocko Paster
Crystal, MN USA - Monday, September 22, 2003 10:47 PM CDT
Dear Tim, Beth, Maureen, Laura, and Dale,
Several times each day for the past week I have thought about Greg and the times and stories we shared for so many years. I know what I have been feeling and I cannot begin to imagine what it has been like for you. I pray that some of your saddness is being lessened by the kind words being offered to you on this web-site.
Last week, I wanted so much to find some magical words to share with you that would take your pain away. No matter how hard I tried those word never came. All I could come up with was, "I was sorry." Instead, it was you who helped me. I want to thank each of your for your hug, your smile, and the kind words you offered me.
Tonight, I still feel like I'm searching for the right words to express how I feel, but please understand how much I admire your courage and your faith. Greg was very special to me and so are you. You will always be in my prayers and I will be thinking of you often.
B. Flicek <Flee2552@aol.com>
Maplewood, MN - Monday, September 22, 2003 8:38 PM CDT
Dear Beth,
Today I received a package postmarked Minneapolis. In it were several items. One was the visitation folder, another the funeral folder, several of the memory cards of Father Greg, a small icon of our Holy Mother and child, and several cards. I was most grateful to receive these items. I have placed one of the memory cards in my Liturgy of the Hours. If it were not for a death in my own family on the day immediately after Father Greg died, I would have been in a plane to attend all the last functions appended to the life of this man who has so inspired me and whom I humbly adore as a messenger of God. First I want to thank the person who mailed the items to me. Second I wanted to let you know, Beth, that after I first saw Father Greg praise God in the Mass (2002), I sent to him anonomously an icon of the Holy Mother and Child Jesus. If it is still among his personal things, I hope that you will keep it to remind you that when children of God who are servants to us all go on to see our Father in Heaven, they also are remembered, and become ageless in our minds like the Saints who have preceeded them to glory. May your day be blessed.
PC
TX - Monday, September 22, 2003 2:02 PM CDT
I think writing a book about Greg and his life from beginning to his end with God is a great idea. As we all hold Fr. Greg in our hearts, we would be able to have a piece of what he was and stood for to carry on with. It would be an inspiration to many who may never have met him, a teaching experience, a learning experience and a wonderful keepsake to pass on to our families and friends. I know it would be a great undertaking, but it seems like there is plenty of material from his friends and we would all like to see a little bit of his family life when he was younger to make us better understand how he came to be the wonderful person he was. He talked of his family often and it would be fun to view them as he did. Thanks to the Tolaas family for sharing Greg with everyone.
Jtodd
- Monday, September 22, 2003 1:19 PM CDT
"Love's the only house big enough for all the pain in the world." How true that is.
Sally
- Monday, September 22, 2003 11:10 AM CDT
Dear all--In the last several days, I keep hearing Greg sing the Martina McBride refrain, "Love's the only thing big enough for all the pain in the world." He brought her CD (a gift from Brad Von Bank, as I recall) along one winter afternoon when we went out to my friend Stan's pool, in hopes the water and sunshine would alleviate some of Greg's pain. When this particular song came up, he stopped swimming and urged us to listen, singing along with gusto. It was a country-western version of his core belief and, of course, he talked of the children of Hawthorne and how we had to do more, we had to love better. Just as Dale said in his funeral homily, Greg wanted to do everything, know everyone and he also found inspiration everywhere. May we do the same
Margaret Nelson
- Monday, September 22, 2003 11:04 AM CDT
Just a note to say how honored I was to ahve Greg as a friend and a classmate..
Wayne Raiter <doc55443@aol>
WBL , Mn USA - Monday, September 22, 2003 10:14 AM CDT
Dear Beth,
Thanks for the update on how you are daily trying to cope with your tremendous loss. You were so caught in the hour-by-hour struggle with Greg during this last part of his journey that his death must have truly felt like somehow he had been literally torn from the grasp of your arms.
Because of my own family losses still very fresh in my mind, I know that the turmoil of emotions you are experiencing are wrenching, lifting and blessed when you remember the many wonderful times with Greg, and depressing and draining you of energy when you think of the last struggle, especially the last three months. As you attempt to get your arms around the change that has happened, you are right, it is sometimes a difference that is not bad, nor good, just different.
Let yourself have time. Find a few hours each day to get away from the intensity of your loss. I know that sounds impossible -- but taking time to force yourself to look at all the wonderful things that still exist in life, in your family who are still here, and the way God offers solace in nature and the changing of seasons will help you make it through the hours, days, weeks, and months ahead.
You really don't have to read all the cards and letters immediately, although you probably feel the need to give acknowledgement and consideration to all those who also loved Greg and still love you. Do be considerate and kind to yourself. The love you shared with your brother was so special. I am sure he would be the first to say, "be kind to yourself."
In my prayers this last two weeks, I have kept you in the warm comfort that is my relationship with Our Holy Mother. I have prayed for your consolation and tender care in the arms of Jesus. My prayers Friday at the Basilica of the Little Flower were asking Father Greg to bring to the attention of His Heavenly Father the needs of all who are either afflicted themselves, or who love someone who needs to heal, and feel comfort, and feel Jesus' soft touch, and His eternal care and warm love.
PC
TX - Sunday, September 21, 2003 12:49 AM CDT
Thank you so very much for your beautiful words today, Beth. You have been ever present in my thoughts ~~
Thank you also for keeping Greg's website open ~ it has been such a part of my life for these many, many months and I would be so sad to lose it! The continual stories of Greg are so wonderful to read!
God bless you, dear Beth ~ it is such a pleasure to know you!
With much love and lots of hugs, Linda
Linda Hathaway <lindahathaway2003@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Sunday, September 21, 2003 12:01 AM CDT
For those of us who have medical problems to deal with on a daily basis, Father Greg was and is a shining example of how to live with the hand you are dealt. I try to remember always that there are others, many others, who have much more to cope with than I do and I still marvel at how this man was able to accomplish so much in his lifetime! I feel that this is the message that I was meant to get from Father Greg's story. Thank you Tolaas family and friends for sharing with so many. You must be missing him terribly. God Bless.
A friend
Mpls , Mn. - Sunday, September 21, 2003 7:27 AM CDT
For those of us who have medical problems to deal with on a daily basis, Father Greg was and is a shining example of how to live with the hand you are dealt. I try to remember always that there are others, many others, who have much more to cope with than I do and I still marvel at how this man was able to accomplish so much in his lifetime! I feel that this is the message that I was meant to get from Father Greg's story. Thank you Tolaas family and friends for sharing with so many. You must be missing him terribly. God Bless.
A friend
Mpls , Mn. - Sunday, September 21, 2003 7:27 AM CDT
Oh, I forgot to ask. Since Greg's passing I have gotten strength from the stories that people have shared on this site (keep em coming). But I would like to know what books, songs, poems, images, remind people of Greg and help you through your grief? Titles and author's if possible. What ways do you feel Greg's presence in your life since he passed on? What things do you do to remember Greg? Do you have a particular ritual that brings him to mind and comfort to you? In what ways has his life and death inspired you to do something different? Continue something that may be difficult?
ANY ideas, thoughts, images or other things that help you through your grief that you would like to share on this site would be most welcomed and would probably help many people out. I know the poems, the quotations, the references to books - all have been helpful to me. I'm hungry for more. Anyone want to share?
God bless all who come to this site, those that read, those that contribute, and those that pray for the person behind each entry as well as for Greg and his family.
Jl
- Saturday, September 20, 2003 9:13 PM CDT
Feeling very blue today and missing Greg somethin fierce, I found myself at the Peace Garden at Greg's Church (St.Philips). For those of you who have never seen it is about as long as half of the short side of a block. One side has a fence covered in some kind of vine. It is a little wider than the average driveway and it has 10 small garden areas, a flower border along one side, several park benches, and lots of little statues. There is a picnic table and a cross with the names of St.Philip's people carved on it with a white clothd draped around it - and plenty of soft green grass. I walked along looking at the various flowers and trying to feel a meausre of peace. I sat on one of the benches in the dappled sunshine with a nice warm breeze blowing. My eyes were drawn to a particular little garden area with some purple flowers blooming in all their glory. As I sat and watched 2 bumble bees came along and stopped at the flowers, soon they were followed by two little butterflies (like a monarch but with brown and white spots on the tips of the wings). As these butterflies held on to the flowers the bees flitted about. Soon the wind picked up and the little butterflies were holding on for dear life, but determined to get what they needed from the flowers. After awhile another butterfly came along - a little bigger than the other two but the same kind. This butterfly looked "newer" than the rest.
This "newer" butterfly flitted from flower to flower and garden to garden obviously in a great hurry. It flitted from flower to dead leaf and even sat on the ground briefly. I was thoroughly enjoying the antics of this buttefly who seemed in such a hurry. Occassionally the bees would fly up to this butterfly as if they were speaking to it. Around and around, here and there it went.
It was then I was struck with the image that the bees were Greg's parents, the two other butterflies were Mary and Patti Jo and this newer butterfly who was so busy - it just had to be Greg! Occassionally the wind would pick up and this "Greg butterfly" would get caught up in the breeze - blowing backwards and side to side. Then it would steel itself and fly head first into the wind checking out everything, flying right over the wings of the other butterflies. I looked around me but saw only those three butterflies and those two bees.
As I sat there and started to smile at the image of Greg in butterfly form, here comes that butterfly straight towards me. It zipped past my nose and perched lightly, if briefly on the park bench beside me. My blue mood lifted and my heart felt a little bit lighter than it had previously.
I sat transfixed by the antics of the butterflies and the bees, but especially at the antics of this "newer" looking one. Dear Lord could it be? Could this be my sign that even though I was missin Greg somethin fierce, he was trying to reassure me that he was fine?
Well, the more I watched the more I became convinced that yes, this was my sign. Just as in his life Greg was always scurrying as he tried to pack as much life into every minute as he could, so too was this butterfly. From here to there and back with a few swipes at the other butterflies as if engaged in a game of tag. Watching that buttefly struggle in the wind, and steel itself to fly head first into a brisk wind, well that too reminded me of Greg. Was he testing his wings? I like to believe so.
So on the day before the three month anniversary of Greg's transplant and almost two weeks since his passing, I had my sign, my small measure of peace, and a beautiful image that I will carry with me during the days, weeks and months ahead of a determined and joyful little butterfly that most certainly had to be a little Gregory Robert Tolaas.
Thank you dear Lord for the message that my mind, heart and soul needed to receive today. All shall be well. Go, go, go little butterfly!
Jl
- Saturday, September 20, 2003 8:46 PM CDT
As we approach the two week anniversary of Greg's death, I continue to thank the Lord for all he has taught me through this amazing man, brother, priest, friend, .... I have felt Greg's presence more than once over the past two weeks and have no doubt Greg will be watching over all of us for the rest of our lives. Praise God for all the memories we have of Greg. We are all better children of God the Father because we have known Gregory Robert Tolaas!
Lynn Nolan <lynndnolan@yahoo.com>
Woodbury, MN Washington - Saturday, September 20, 2003 7:34 PM CDT
I was fortunate to attend the Church of St. Philip's the past two Christmases with my family. Father Greg's homilies left an impression on me and I have used his words to help others deal with terrible losses when I couldn't find words. When Fr. Greg talked about a friend who had cancer and showed us her children's book (dedicated to her own adopted children "lambies" to help them deal with her passing), he said, "Why does she go on? She goes on because of love -- her love for her children and her love for us...The Light is stronger than any darkness." Father Greg showed us that love too.
Friend and shirttail relative of member of Church of St. Philip's
Minneapolis, - Friday, September 19, 2003 11:48 PM CDT
I have never been privileged to meet Father Greg, but want to ask you the family if you would consider writing a book about Father Greg, it would help all of us out here who have not been able to hear his sermons, and be around him in his every day life. Oh the many stories that I'm reading they are so numerous, they have to be told somehow about this marvelous man, who everyday had to live with such a daily battle. I've been praying to him every time we say the Rosary, He would laugh if he were here, and say to me pray to the Saints, but I consider him a Saint for healing of Cystic Fibrosis, and so whenever I pray for our two grandchildren who have CF, I ask Father Greg to intercede for them to Jesus. Never let this man's story not be sold, some of the proceeds could go to this CaringBridge web-site who has so graciously let all of us contact the family and all of Father Greg's loved ones. If not a book then maybe some of his homilies could be written in a book form. Or even tapes of his homilies, we are all so hungry to hear some of them. Thank you, and May God Bless you.
Dee & George Wilson
Greenfield, In USA - Friday, September 19, 2003 6:22 PM CDT
Never having met Fr. Gregg I heard a story which touched me immensely.
On Mon, Sept 8th, I was listening to a local radio talk show when a regular caller called the show and was mourning the loss of Fr. He went on to say how once he saw Fr. Gregg get out of his care to administer last rites to a person who had just been shot and was lying in the street.
I'm sure to all that knew him this would not be a surprise but to me it confirmed all that I have been reading on this site.
Thanks for allowing me to share this story with you.
Anonymous
St Paul, Mn - Friday, September 19, 2003 2:47 PM CDT
My husband had a lung transplant at the U of M on July 15 and we felt honored to be "right down the hall" from Greg. We even attended a post-transplant class with Greg and his sister. Greg didn't know us from Adam but in our eyes he was a celebrity, as we had been watching his web site for some time. His transplant gave us hope that we might also be given the miracle of a lung, and that miracle occurred soon after Greg's surgery. My husband is doing very well, but we were greatly saddended by Greg's death. What a wonderful man he was. I feel lucky to have had a connection with him.
Lu Ann Parnell <luannp@nexustreatment.org>
Blaine, MN Anoka - Friday, September 19, 2003 2:40 PM CDT
Dear family and friends of Greg,
I've waited to write, as I was waiting for words to convey what has been in my heart. I'm not sure I have them now, but I'll contribute what's there. I'm a Presbyterian pastor in Claremont, MN, a tiny little town outside of Owatonna. I grew up just three blocks from St. Philips, and still have friends who are members there. I only met Father Greg one time, but felt like I knew him through the almost daily updates my mom provided me with (she's not a member of the parish, either, but another Presbyterian who was totally in awe of this man). I then passed on these updates and requests for prayers, particularly over the last few months, to my congregation. So please know that even now, you are being held in prayer by the folks of this little town south of Minneapolis. And thank you, all of you who surrounded him these years and months, for sharing Father Greg's spirit with us.
My prayers continue.
In Christ,
The Reverend Tammy J. Rider
Claremont, MN
Tammy Rider <trider@clear.lakes.com>
Claremont, MN Dodge - Friday, September 19, 2003 2:29 PM CDT
Dear Family and Friends of Father Greg,
Oops--I forgot to add my husband, Ancil Payne, to the list of folks who kept Father Greg in prayer faithfully, and keeps all of you in his prayer now.
Mary Payne
St. Paul, MN USA - Friday, September 19, 2003 11:19 AM CDT
Dear Family and Friends of Father Greg,
My prayer for you and for all whose lives Father Greg touched, and I join in thanksgiving with everyone for the gift of Father Greg.
Following the instinct to find something that would be a permanent reminder of Greg, I’ve come up with two. One is a photo of Greg at the pulpit at St. Thomas, to which I have attached “Give it all you’ve got.” The other is the photo on the funeral worship aid, to which I have attached “The measure you measure with will be measured back to you, shaken, pressed down, and flowing over.”
Let me add a bit about a favorite Father Greg homily. He described for us “Hezekiah’s Tunnel” [underground] in Jerusalem. Using this as a life-metaphor, he advised us: “Remember that your Guide has been through this tunnel many times; hold someone’s hand and keep moving forward; listen for the laughter at the other end.”
Father Greg, now that you are with the folks laughing as they emerge from the tunnel, we know that you won’t forget to pray for all of us holding hands behind you!
Mary Payne
St. Paul, MN USA - Friday, September 19, 2003 11:16 AM CDT
If a book is written as many of his homilies that are recorded should be included as a CD. The way Greg read the Word and delivered in his own voice are a real treasure that surely would enhance the project! He truly 'opened' our eyes, ears, minds and hearts.
John
Minneapolis, MN - Friday, September 19, 2003 9:17 AM CDT
I grew up across the alley from the Tolaas family when they lived on Stanford in the Nativity of our Lord parish and am the oldest of nine children--2 girls and 7 boys. I frequently babysat for the Tolaas children and it was apparent even then that Greg was a very special child. My mother was recently diagnosed with Alzheimers but she still has her long term memory. Greg's mother, Ann, was one of my mother's best friends. When we recently talked about Greg's death, she smiled and said that she remembered him coming over to our house to visit when he was a young boy. He would climb up on a chair, cross his legs, and "talk like a Phidelphia lawyer" (her words, not mine). When Greg was born, the life expectancy for a child with CF was only five years. We are so grateful to God for giving Greg to all of us for 47 years. My memories of the entire Tolaas family are that there was always a very special love and very strong faith in God. Knowing Bob, Ann, Maureen, Greg, Tim, Beth, Mary and Patti Jo has been a blessing in our lives that I will cherish always.
Joanne Wright <jwright242@aol.com>
St. Paul, MN Ramsey - Friday, September 19, 2003 2:01 AM CDT
How are the waters of the world sweet.
If we should die, we have drunk them.
If we should sin or separate,
If we should fail or secede,
We have tasted of happiness.
We must be written in the book
of the blessed.
We have had what live could give.
We have eaten of the tree of knowledge.
We have known.
We have been the mystery
of the universe.
From, John Jay Chapman and his Letters.
This has been a sigh too deep for words.
Mary J. Nelson <Gold0102@aol.com>
Edina, MN USA - Thursday, September 18, 2003 9:38 PM CDT
This morning I took Greg's beloved dog Kelly in for a vet appointment. The vet who had cared for her all of her life (and the first weeks of life of all of her 10 puppies) met me at the door and told me that I was to tell whoever was to care for Kelly from now on, that the Keller Lake Animal Hospital veterinarians and staff would provide complimentary care for Kelly for the rest of her life. I was, needless to say, overcome by this very kind jesture. Kelly left the vet's office with her two month supply of meds for her arthritis, two week supply of antibiotics for an infection, and feelings of love from persons who care for animals - great creatures of God - and yet another way that Greg has left us with opportunities for kindness and compassion from others, even in his death.
The other night I sat on my front porch and as I looked down the street, I saw car lights entering the street. It reminded me of the many times that I saw his car lights coming down the street in an announced/unannounced visit. I miss him so much, but know he is with us forever. By the way, I believe that his life should be shared in a book too. Kris
Kris Melloy <kjmelloy@stthomas.edu>
St. Paul, MN USA - Thursday, September 18, 2003 9:07 PM CDT
Now is the time to mourn and grieve the incredible loss of an extraordinary man. Now is the time to pray and support the family and close friends of Greg in their horrible loss and grief. I appreciate the enthusiasm that people have to know Greg more/better, but lets not let that enthusiasm overtake the necessity to grieve and mourn.
To the Tolaas family, the Hawkins family, the many relatives and friends and the members of St. Philips -my continued prayers and support go out to all of you as you continue to grieve and mourn the loss of Greg. Please know that others are missing him right along with you. Love and prayers.
With all Respect
Plymouth, MN - Thursday, September 18, 2003 7:01 PM CDT
Dear Family of Father Greg, and especially Beth, I have to share the following with you. I approached three people from the web site with an idea and two have agreed that it is a good idea, but that you need time to heal. I want to give you all the time you need, but I don't want you to close off this site until you have a chance to consider the idea and then make contact with all the folks that loved and admired Greg for "who he was," an exceptional human being and an exceptional Priest. Please read the following and I am sending it to you also by snail mail (c/o the church) with the contact information if you want to follow it up. I will put some money where my mouth is if you decide to go forward as a non-profit corporation. Love, PC.
(Reply I received from one of the folks): "I too, believe that Father Greg's stories should be preserved and I love your idea of a book being published. I would even like to see the many tributes to him since his death preserved because they have been so inspirational and eloquent. I know that Beth is planning to keep the website open for awhile, so maybe you could just forward your letter to the website and ask if the family would consider this. I would heartily endorse this project, and I am certain that many others would also. I am a teacher at a Catholic high school in Richfield, MN, a suburb of Minneapolis. [Deleted personal message parts.] He was an incredible priest and a fantastic faith-filled, courageous man. Please do go forth with your idea to the family. I would think that they would be thrilled to work on such a project. I hope to hear from you again. Gratefully, Susan Weberg.
P. Chamberlain wrote e-mail to three others:
Dear Friends,
Only one of you has met me, but I have met you all through Father Greg's website on Caringbridge.com. I was reading today the many entires that came after Greg's death and including those from the visitation and funeral. I have been following and contributing to the messages to Father Greg and his family since his surgery. As a person who has suffered through the loss of my own loved ones over the past several years, some in lengthy illnesses and some tragically in sudden and violent ways, I benefited beyond measure by the healing words written in that venue. I don't know who may have the where-with-all (possibly the family or a professor or students and alumni at St. Thomas) but I think that the greatest tribute anyone could give would be to extend and continue the caring and loving work that Greg did while on earth. I read Susan Weberg's comments about her niece --- "I first heard of Father Greg through my niece who attended St. Thomas in the early 90's. Because of her glowing comments, I encouraged my daughter to attend the freshmen retreat that Greg was leading when she started St. Thomas in 1996. She came away from that experience a changed person. She still often refers to some of the talks he gave on that retreat. After the retreat she joined his support group for the entire year. What a blessing! His wisdom and humor were inspirations to both of us. (She loved sharing his stories with me.) " (Susan Weberg)
And it occurred to me that the best gift of Greg may have been the indomitable spirit that Greg gave to us all with his presence and his life story. I believe that there are so many blessings in the stories of his life, and his ministry (including the homilies that may exist as recorded items or written records), and the gracefilled times of his agony and death that a (several) very successful book(s) could be published with the blessings and consent of his family (and with cooperation of the parishioners of St. Philips and Caringbridge.com) and the proceeds go to support his Church of St. Philip Patchwork Quilt Program, CF Research, and Caringbridge.com and thereby continue his ministry and praise of God. Please think about it. One of you is a vowed religious, one a St. Thomas University professor (I think), and one I do not even suspect what your background and occupation are, but the inspiration of this was from your (Susan's) statement in the web site.
Greg could definitely go on creating the pattern for love and inspiration for many thousands (millions?) across the United States through a book containing his life stories and pictures and the many inspirational contributions of the persons who visited and left messages on his web site. If the book was published as a "non-profit" publication with all proceeds (beyond cost of publication and distribution) going to the non-profits activities in the Parish, to the CF fund for research, and to the Caringbridge.com site that made this all possible, I think the impact could be unbelievable. I know that I would probably buy at least 100 copies to send as a Christmas gift to my friends and family. If you that knew him much better than I did think it appropriate, several books could be written based on his life. Of course, his family's permission,assistance, and authorship would be essential. Please follow-up on this before the web site pages are closed because there is so much love expressed there and it needs to go on giving to the people of Minneapolis, MN, and the entire US. I could envision books on the sharing of God's love to all our neighbors, on the gracefilled way of handling a deadly disease that ends life all too soon, and on handling grief in an uplifting way through the love of God and following the example of Greg's life.
PLEASE DON'T LET HIS LIFE AND MINISTRY END WITH HIS DEATH. He gave so much and could continue to give. I don't know how to contact his family or I would have suggested this to Beth, Maureen, and Tim and the rest. Please find a way to contact them and see if they would help and do this. PLEASE.
With love and admiration for a life lived as God's living angel on earth. P. Chamberlain
P. Chamberlain
TX USA - Thursday, September 18, 2003 4:34 PM CDT
All of you are always on my mind.
Peace~
Bridget (McGaw) Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Thursday, September 18, 2003 12:20 AM CDT
I love it............."There's a book out there waiting to be written"!!!!!!! From the size of this web site and the love everybody has for Greg and your family, it could become a best seller and an inspiration to all........a wonderful way to keep the Gospel of Greg alive!!!!!!
Sue Fortier, OSB <sf977587@aol.com>
Duluth, MN USA - Wednesday, September 17, 2003 8:48 PM CDT
I too was thinking a book would be nice, I was thinking on a smaller scale -mainly about Greg's life and his immediate family. With some of his poems, some of his best homilies, pictures of his paintings, words and music to some of his songs, perhaps some of his own journal entries. With a good chunk of the money going to CF research and St. Philips. Perhaps that will be something to come about in the years to come. But since someone has planted the seed, I just wanted to affirm the idea. (I think I'd buy one for my 6 brothers and sisters, 13 nieces and nephews, and 5 great nieces and nephews. Plus about 2 dozen for friends.....
Jl
- Wednesday, September 17, 2003 7:45 PM CDT
After reading so many entries in the guestbook I can now understand why Fr. Greg was called The Tornado! When did he ever have time to sleep after writing sermons, doing weddings, baptisms, funerals, being a good neighbor, comforting friends whenever they asked, making new friends wherever he went, working for CF, doctor's appointments, medical treatments, etc ? The more I hear about the Tolaas family the more I want to know. There is a book out there somewhere waiting to be written and I know that I am not alone in thinking that. Thank you for letting us be a part of the ongoing story. Bless you.
One friend of many
mpls, Mn - Wednesday, September 17, 2003 6:10 PM CDT
Dear all--It was my great pleasure to be part of the Kids' Club trip to the Donahue farm that Mrs. Donahue wrote about in the earlier entry. My godchildren Robert and Katrina were along also. It was a magical day; all of the children had a wonderful time--not only being with Greg in that setting, but experiencing a farm upclose, seeing the animals, listening to Mr. Donahue's explanation of how milking works, taking the hayrides, eating the fabulous homemade food. And, most important, being the focus of so much love, generosity and attention from Mr. and Mrs. Donahue and their extended family. They even had gift bags to take home. It was a joy to see and Greg was so immensely proud of his family!!!!! Later, on the bus trip home, he talked with me about his mother, his grandmother, and the nearby place he wanted to be buried with his ancestors.
Margaret Nelson
- Wednesday, September 17, 2003 3:58 PM CDT
This weekend was a very emotional one for me. It was our
50th wedding anniversary and our family planned a celebration
for us. How I wanted Father Greg and his family to be with
us. We were not only related but close friends too(at least
from my perspective). His Mom and I were 1st cousins and were together through our school days. When Ann was gone,
our love went on to her family. Greg officiated at our
daughter, Colleen's and Jeff's wedding - they are now St.
Philips Parishioners and also our son Brian and Jennifer's
wedding. Everyone at those weddings always remarked on
his great homilies. He was also my backup as a dancing
partner. When Pat was unable to dance with me at Brian's
wedding, he graciously came to my rescue.
Greg would drop out to the farm whenever he could. He called me one day to see if he could bring some kids from
St, Philips Kids Club out to visit the farm. Of course I
said yes and the relatives out here planned a little
Halloween party. It turned out to be a rather big party as
he pulled in with a school bus with 30-35 kids. Hayrides
apple bobbing, cow milking, football and soccer play finally
tired everyone out. It was a fun day for all and Greg wrote
such a nice letter to the local paper thanking us and we
really were the ones who benefited.
It was difficult to even think about celebrating when
we learned of Greg's death, but it did turn into a great
celebration of Greg's life and with all of our family home\
and a great number of cousins from all over the country,
we were able to take in all the beautiful services and
even a few parties in Erin Prairie and once more be brought
together, almost like a family reunion. AND I am sure that
he was there with us. Love to you all.
Pat & Helen Donahue
Baldwin (Erin Prairie), WI USA - Wednesday, September 17, 2003 1:49 PM CDT
Directions to the Hawkins Cemetery, Hammond, Wisconsin: from Mpls/St. Paul--take Interstate 94 east into Wisconsin to the Hwy 65 exit. Go north on to Hwy 65. Take the first right (it comes up quickly) on to 70th Avenue. Go to the corner of 150th and 70th. The entrance is on 150th. You'll see the cemetary easily from the road and will easily find Greg's burial spot.
Directions from experience
- Wednesday, September 17, 2003 9:29 AM CDT
Would anyone have directions to the cemetary? Thanks.
Friend
St. Paul, MN USA - Wednesday, September 17, 2003 9:01 AM CDT
I thought it was wonderful that Fr. Michael O'Connell hosted Fr. Greg's funeral at the Basilica for the Church of St. Philip's faith community. Years ago in the Mpls. Star and Tribune, I remember Fr. O'Connell paid special tribute to Fr. Francis Pascal Kelly (a disabled priest with muscular sclerosis) when he passed away in 1975. Now that priest may become cannonized. I believe Fr. Greg is in his class too.
Holy Rosary Church parishioner
Mpls, MN - Wednesday, September 17, 2003 2:49 AM CDT
I want to thank those who described the burial for those of us who could not be there. I had never heard of such a burial as this one - yet how befitting of Greg. I thought how some day when it is my turn I would like something similar. A coworker told me this was a 'typical Irish burial' I said - no, it couldn't be because Greg was anything but your 'typical' man - he was extraordinary. Thanks again.
JT
- Tuesday, September 16, 2003 8:09 PM CDT
Dear Maureen Tolaas, Tim Tolaas, Laura Tolaas, Beth Tolaas, Dale Korogi, Judy Meerkins, Jan Kormann, and Jack and Jeanne Larson, I was really hoping I would never have to write this message to all of you, but God had other plans for your beloved brother. Please accept our sincere sympathy and prayers on the loss of Father Greg, a very wonderful man. We know that he had a special love and compassion for other people, and always lived his daily struggle with C.F. with much courage. May all of you find some comfort in knowing the many lives he touched in such a positive way, including mine whenever he would write to me, concerning our two grandchildren who have C.F. And as that person who wrote in this Guestbook who said Today I thought "Who will help me now?", and Greg answered me "Who will you help now?", and so I thought yes I will pick up where Father Greg left off, and try to be like him in all ways if I can. And so I say go with God now loved one, you have earned your rest.
Dee & George Wilson
Greenfield, In. USA - Tuesday, September 16, 2003 2:38 PM CDT
What an honor it was to be able to attend Father Greg's Service on Friday morning. Although I have not seen Father Greg in a number of years, memories of his time at St. Thomas came flooding back when hearing the kind words Fr. Dale and Fr. Jim had to say, and listening to the beautiful music. The song “We Are Called” was a regular closing hymn sung at the 6:45pm Sunday Mass at St. Thomas. I remember a homily that Father Greg gave where this song was the subject - it has since been a song close to my heart, and a moving experience to hear it at his burial service.
As mentioned in another entry, the weather was overcast when we entered the Basilica on Friday morning. When we turned to leave the sun was beaming in the doors of the church as the bells were ringing, my sister turned to me and said, “I knew the sun would be shining when it was time to leave.”
As I was driving home I felt so grateful for having crossed paths with Father Greg in this life. There are many who may go through life without ever experiencing such a magnificent example of Christ’s love demonstrated through man – how lucky we all are to experience that through Father Greg. As seen in this website, you only had to meet Father Greg once, or not at all, to be moved by the presence of God that he radiated.
Many thanks to the Tolaas Family (and friends of the family) for their generosity in sharing this experience with all of us. May God comfort you in the days ahead.
**When I told my 3 year old daughter that a very special man had gone to Heaven, she told me that she thought he was probably fishing with Jesus at the River!!
Bridget (Brown) Herman <bridget@mortgagesunlimited.net>
Brooklyn Park, - Tuesday, September 16, 2003 1:32 PM CDT
John and the kids were not able to attend the burial on Saturday. Elizabeth (5) was angry that I did not take her and kept asking, "Where did they put his body?"
She so reminded me of Mary Magdalene’s question to the angels at the tomb after the resurrection of Jesus, that I knew I would have to take her back--soon.
Sunday, John, Ben, Elizabeth and I went back to the cemetery. It was late in the afternoon: a time of long shadows and golden light. John remarked how perfect the place was--just a step away from paradise itself.
Elizabeth walked up to the mound and silently looked at all the drooping flowers lying on top of it. There were a couple of newer bouquets that hadn't been there on Saturday and a limerick on a white note card propped up against a vase.
"Is that where he is?" she asked, pointing, "Under there?"
"Well, his body is but his spirit . . . "
"I know, I know."
Then, she walked over to the spot where the pile of dirt had been and with her hands scrapped up a handful of dirt. She walked over to the mound and sprinkled it on top, dusting yellow roses. John and Ben followed suit. She just stood there a moment staring at the dirt and the flowers and said, "Well, at least now I know where he is."
And then she was ready to go.
Peg Helminski <PegHelminski@aol.com>
Woodbury, MN - Tuesday, September 16, 2003 1:06 PM CDT
Getting comfort in reading the guestbook when I went back into the journal to read Greg's words and I found the following passage.
"death is passage. it is not a slam into a wall. it is not the great cheater/stealer. for those who have bothered to love....and have lived not only in the finite, but in the infinite, death is the gentle passage into the complete....to the bigger picture...the full actualization...the no longer measured...the fulness of love, the grand YES."
Fr Greg (caringbridge journal 10/04/02)
-V
- Tuesday, September 16, 2003 12:39 AM CDT
sun night i tried to get to the cemetary but couldnt find it and it was getting dark.yest i sat in a 7 mile jam,running out of gas and late for work but finally got there.when i asked at the highway bldg re directions the gals there seemed to realize that this might become a freq question and indicated they knew"a priest"was buried there.i assured them not just ANY priest and to get ready for more people searching it out.they said"you know a bus came on saturday"i just laughed and said---duh.i am so glad that i did not go on sat because it sounded like such an intimate family affair.thanks for the description.my struggles to get to that place were small compared to his.
heidi smith
river falls, - Tuesday, September 16, 2003 11:13 AM CDT
Good morning, Everyone...I feel as if i have aquired some wonderful new friends through this website! Thank you for helping me with my grieving. (Not being an internet whiz, I never dreamed that my grieving would take this turn!) At any rate, each morning during my prayer time I have been using my "Greg folder" which contains wake and funeral programs, notes on homily and eulogy,mem. card, newspaper articles, etc. it has been good to share Greg's presence in this way...I have truly felt it and I feel blest! I know that down the road a piece we will have some written form of our dear Greg's life and wisdom...that will come in time...For the moment, I continue to gather into my prayer so many of you family members, intimate friends, caregivers,and co-workers who must ache with your loss. I also want to thank Michael O'connell publicly for helping the St.Philip's faith commnity in its grieving process; hishomily and presence on Sunday was pure balm. I pray also for each one who has sent entries into this website. Gratefully,
Mary Frances Reis, VHM Visitation , MPLS <maryfranries@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, September 16, 2003 8:22 AM CDT
I just learned of Father Greg's death, his preaching, his life and his ministry touched me during my days at SJV. May God give comfort to the Tolaas family and the people of Saint Phillip's. May Father Greg who preached with his ministry, share in the gracious gift of God,Eternal Life!
Rev. David C. Strong <dstrong10@aol.com>
Seattle, WA USA - Monday, September 15, 2003 11:15 PM CDT
Greg... breath easy and sing with the angels!
I will remember you.
Love, Patty
Patty Ranweiler [Leonard]
Mesa , Az - Monday, September 15, 2003 11:07 PM CDT
We first met Fr. Greg when our sons attended St. Thomas. It was great to attend Mass and hear his great homlies. The trip from Duluth was sure worth it. May the love of God sustain you,the peace of God be with you, and the promise of God comfort you in this hour of sorrow.
There's One who knows why you are sad,There's One who cares for you; Just look to Him, and trust in Him,And He will see you through. He knows your loss and sorrow, He hears your prayer above; Each day He freely gives to you The strength of His great love. It was nice to celebrate his life on Friday and what a great job Father did at the 4:30 Mass on Saturday at St Philip.
Tom & Kathy Dahlberg
Duluth, MN - Monday, September 15, 2003 10:18 PM CDT
TO ALL THOSE WHO WROTE about Greg's Vigil, Liturgy of Resurrection, and Burial thank you very much. Most regretfully, I was unable to attend Greg's services. Your wonderfully written up-dates, gave me a wonderful sense of the wonderful Rituals in Greg's honor. TO GREG'S FAMILY, continued good thoughts, prayer, love, and gratitude to you. May the days ahead be restful, and then heartened by Greg's memory and the many who loved him, be strengthend to return to your own pace of living. The same wishes to JAN, GREG'S CAREGIVERS AND THE CSP COMMUNITY. For all of us who write here, how blessed we are for knowing Greg. Thanks to all who write. The 'stories' are marvelous. I have much gratitude to Greg for bringing us all together. Gratefully.
Geraldine <gnowak@toast.net>
Toledo, OH - Monday, September 15, 2003 4:24 PM CDT
When I met my neighbor who has cerebral palsy (about 12 years ago), she told me to try to get out of self when I told her that I had mental health problems. She told me depression was a terrible disease. Often she had to spell words for me when I couldn't understand her speech so Friday at Father Greg's funeral I thought of my friend and I know she would have said that the Basilica was built by Father Greg's love, unselfishness, kindness and sympathy and that the pine box was for us -- represents our unfinished business to carry out his work here on earth.
A friend in Christ & shirttail relative of member of Church of St. Philip's
Mpls, - Monday, September 15, 2003 11:24 AM CDT
Father Greg always brought us together to share. To share time with each other and to get to know one another. He always shared his constant theme when he preached of joy, spreading the light, compassion and love for one another regardless of sex, race, age, or social status. He did it again; he brought us together again to share stories of family and to make new friends.
As we walked up the gravel road that led to the cemetery, the wire fence held a small white sign that read, "Hawkins Cemetery”. That sign did not lie. As we reached the top of the hill, Uncle Ronnie, Uncle Mike and Aunt Sharon were already there to help us all understand why this is called “Hawkins Cemetery”. There was Lory, King, Leon, John, Marilyn and other Hawkins cousins - these were Greg’s mother, Ann Hawkins Tolaas’, first cousins. Sixty years ago, The Hawkins Cemetery was their playground after all the farm chores were done. And nearly all 35 of Greg’s first cousins were at the Hawkins Cemetery to share memories and say goodbye.
Every where you looked from the hill, this perch, your eye sight was filled with fields of corn, red barns and silos dotting the landscape. King Hawkins greeted me and pointed across the field to the white farm house where Ann Tolaas grew up, with my dad, one of nine Hawkins children. He pointed down the road to where his family farm still stood and once housed eight Hawkins children. He said, “Can you believe, 15 boys between the two houses?” The other direction Lory Hawkins pointed out his family farm where six more Hawkins’ grew up.
If you closed your eyes you could imagine … They pointed to their favorite sledding hills, where they swam in the Kinnikinnick River, where they dammed the river in the winter to make ice skating ponds. Marilyn told stories of riding in a horse drawn sleigh to the Catholic Church in Hammond in the winter and Leon pointed to the field, where my father had a terrible farming accident at age 10. The stories brought these dry and yellowed and withered corn fields to life. I think this what Greg always did, he touched people, and brought them to life even if they felt or looked like that corn in field … He made you feel life and breathe life… That was his gift and he shared.
And never, have you ever seen such life in a cemetery: there were tables of food, a few coolers of beers, apple pie, kids playing football, blankets stretched out in between headstones, people laughing and people crying. The sun was out, but the clouds gave us the perfect amount of shade. We did not want to leave this special spot as we felt Greg was still among us … for he brought us together again to share the gift of family, and to feel alive, and to feel loved by one another.
He is resting in a beautiful place surrounded by many generations, less than 1/2 mile from where Grandma Anna raised his Mother Ann. These fields will continue to be alive and Greg will be leading the conversations and making new friends and bringing people together.
Thank you Beth, Maureen, Tim and Laura for sharing your brother and your story with so, so many people. You are and will be in our thoughts and prayers. I am proud and thankful to call you Cousin.
Love, Lisa (Hawkins) & Eric, Liam, Owen, Gavin and Ella Sorensen <Lisa_Sorensen@Comast.net>
Oak Park, IL - Monday, September 15, 2003 8:54 AM CDT
Please also consider memorials to CaringBridge. CaringBridge is non-profit and I think many would agree that it provides an invaluable service, allowing us to "Be There" as their slogan says.
A Friend and CaringBridge author
- Monday, September 15, 2003 1:58 AM CDT
I met Father Greg in 1994, while at UST. There were few priests (and I have known a few) who have touched my life in such a profound way.
Fr. Greg had time for everyone who came to him. Considering how sick he had always been, that was a miracle. Considering how popular he had always been, that was a miracle. Considering how busy he had always been, that was a miracle.
Consider Fr. Greg. That IS a miracle. He beat the odds. 47 years, that is roughly 37 years that we were blessed with him. Thank God.
I had a conversation with Fr. Greg at a very low time in my service at UST, as a Liturgical Assistant, in 1996. For those who know me, I have a very conservative view of the Church, not exactly what Fr. Greg advocated. However, I was trying and trying to affect a change in the Liturgy at UST. He said something to me in that conversation that has always, always stayed with me. See, I was close to quitting as an LA.
Fr. Greg said, "If you change who you are, you are doing a dis-service to UST, you are doing a dis-service to the Church, you are doing a dis-service to me, and you are doing a dis-service to yourself."
Fr. Greg had a gift. It was bringing a sense of healing to most situations. (For those of you who knew him, think of a time with Fr. Greg.....it was always there) I think that this was his gift to all of us. He could not heal himself, but he could bring that gift, which he was desparate for, to others. That IS a miracle.
Fr. Greg, thank you.
Finally, if you are going to give the "F@#K homily," run it by Our Lord first, ok?
Andy Milam <camilam42@hotmail.com>
Sterling Heights, MI - Sunday, September 14, 2003 11:09 PM CDT
Dear Family and Friends of Fr. Greg,
Please accept my sincere sympathy and prayers in your loss of a very special man. I know Greg had a special compassion for people and always lived his life-long struggle with C.F. with courage May you find comfort in knowing the many lives he touched in such a positive way. God's comfort and strenth be with you.
Brian Altman
Bloomington, MN - Sunday, September 14, 2003 11:08 PM CDT
This past week I have thought a lot about Greg and what he meant to me. I have looked at pictures and read journal entries from 30 years ago and it has been a comfort to me. I am wondering if any family members would like pictures of Greg from his CYC days (circa 1973-75). I just finished looking at them, and he always had an expression of joy on his face which I am sure is now eternal.
Theresa Babler <tbabler@gorge.net>
Goldendale, WA USA - Sunday, September 14, 2003 11:08 PM CDT
I am not as eloquent as other writers in the guestbook but wanted you to know how much Fr. Greg meant to our family. Our daughter is a member of St. Philip's - she had known Fr. Greg at St Thomas and loved him and his homilies so much she followed him to St. Philip's. I think it was five years ago, she convinced us to come to Christmas Eve Mass at "her" church to hear Fr. Greg and Fr. Greg then became a part of our Christmas Tradition - but it was more like a Christmas present! We will still come to St. Philip's but will greatly miss Fr. Greg's present.
We want to thank both Jan and Beth for keeping us updated in the journal. I know it was extremely hard for you but all of us very much appreciate what you did. Our prayers will be with you always. We will never forget Fr. Greg!
The Blonigens
Burnsville, - Sunday, September 14, 2003 11:07 PM CDT
What a truly beautiful service Friday morning! It was sad, funny and inspiring! Thank you to the Tolaas family for letting so very many be a part of it.
I'd like to share my story about Fr. Greg: I attend Transfiguration and few years ago, Fr. Jim had Fr. Greg fill in for him a handful of times. I will preface this with that we (my family and myself) very much appreciated Fr. Jim and thought he was a brilliant homilist and a remarkable speaker and singer. So, during one of those times that Fr. Greg presided, it happened to be a particularly captivating and moving mass. I remember thinking, this guy is great, and I was hooked! The following week, my husband decided to tell Fr. Jim exactly what he thought. It was essentially that, 'Man, we thought you were great, but next to Fr. Greg that's nothing!' (Of course he wasn't saying it as criticism!) Now, as funny as I find that, I also find it sad. Why didn't I take the moment to let Fr. Greg know what I (we) thought? I am sure, however, that he was aware what people thought of him. But, would it have hurt to tell him again? I am sure not.
I don't have any other connection to Fr. Greg (actually, I sort of do, but it is a long-drawn out story and it is not direct) but yet I feel as though I do know him-or at least how his plight has touched me. What an amazing man! It’s overwhelming to me how many people he has touched in his much too short life.
Many, many months ago when Tranny first published this web-address, I started following. I offered a written prayer here and there; gave a silent one frequently. I took another writer's idea and printed the pictures that were featured at the time and also the article that was in the ST before Christmas and hung it in my cube as a reminder to say a quick prayer. I remember where I was when I heard the news of the transplants-I'll never forget. I, of course, will also never forget the moment I heard the 'other' news.
Previously, I found the journal entries and the guestbook inspirational. Now, in addition to inspirational, I find this site to be of great comfort. And therapeutic. I wish I could meet every single one of you-to hear your stories, give a hug and continue to be inspired and learn to better live the life Fr. Greg so hoped we would all do.
Aimee Valencour <aimeeav251@yahoo.com>
N. St. Paul, - Sunday, September 14, 2003 10:36 PM CDT
Dear Fr. Greg's family and friends, My companion and I also felt privileged to be able to attend Fr. Greg's funeral on Friday. When we went into the Basilica it was cloudy and cool and when we left the church about noon the sun was shining. While the church bells in the Basilica were chiming, I said to my friend that I thought I heard bells coming from other directions too -- from the distance. Maybe it was from heaven! I am so thankful I got to know Fr. Greg, some of his family and his friends. My sister said her husband's aunt who is close to 100 years old even attended the funeral Mass (member of the Church of St. Philip's). May God bless you and keep you.
Judy Schletty & Randy Luken <jkschletty@usfamily.net>
Mpls, MN - Sunday, September 14, 2003 10:12 PM CDT
I have been a friend of Gregory's for over 30 years...
way before he ever had thoughts of entering the priesthood,
way before any of us knew what life was about to bring us.
So we spent most of our time laughing and joking getting
our kicks out of pulling pranks on other people. I
remember one time when I was early to his office and
he had seen me come in so I took the liberty of introducing
myself to the woman working in the office of St. Richard's
as Greg's first wife...even using the name Tolaas. Loud
enough for him to hear he got up and was standing 5 feet
behind her and we both waited for her reaction....I
saw the twinkle in his eye and heard his ever so lightly
chuckling begin.
He loved it when I did this stuff.
The woman was quite thrown back (as I was hoping she
would be) with an exasperated look on her face. Never
letting them go too long, I looked over at him as dead
pan serious as I could get, with an annoyed look on my
face and said 'what....your not telling anybody...did
5 years mean nothing to you?' He burst out laughing
and the woman's color came back to her face.
I refused to call him Father unless he called me Mrs.
Being that I hated being called Mrs. I never called
him Father...unless I was in his church out of respect
for his parishioners. Instead I would walk in and say
rather sarcastically 'Hello Father, or should I call
you dad?' And everytime he would say, 'Dad would be fine.'
He understood very clearly my reasons for leaving the
church but church going or not I loved hearing him
homilize and I went as often as I could. My two week
old son smiled for the first time during one of his
homilies. He was certain it had been gas. Then
he held him...actions confirmed.
We laughed and we joked and we got heavy about many issues.
We'd hang at the beach and we'd go for long walks. We'd
dine in and we'd dine out. He came to the hospital when
I had my babies and he stayed longer once when I had the
weepy blues and couldn't stop crying. He was always
there when I really really needed him.
I felt defeated at times during this summer with him.
I felt his fearfullness as though it had passed through
my body. I felt the energy leave when they spoke of
his exhaustion. I felt it all. I will miss him but
I believed in him when he talked about the afterlife
and how beautiful it was going to be. I was rather touched
by the words at his service and moved by the pine box and
of the drifter I saw clad in just a blanket, few
possessions by his side, sleeping soundly on one of the
stoops of the Basilica's door on the east side as I
walked to the front doors of the church for his
service.
I am so profoundly proud of who he had become and
for the passion he had for sharing himself with everyone.
He truly wore it all on the outside sleeve of his
shirt.
I only had bits and pieces of him throughout the years
but then I read all of the guestbook entries...you
who knew and loved him, who walked with him on many
journeys, feats and defeats. People who lived by
his side day after day, working, sharing, creating
and challenging whatever the setting would bring. I
never traveled in his circle of friends, never joined
a church he presided over, never even knew what a typical
day was for him...until I read the touching and heartfelt
words of you who knew him well. I am most touched by
those whose lives have changed or were altered because of
something he said or did. I am most grateful to read
that my friend was so deeply loved by you, the people
that touched him back in more ways, I'm certain, than
you will ever know.
The pine box meant something to him and as he lay in the
simplicty of his final resting place on earth I thought
again of the man sleeping in the doorway outside. How
the man outside was really no different from the man
inside.
It was for me, my final homily from him, wordless but
rather symbolic. He cherished life as he loved us
back but the man on the steps is who he lived for,
whom he comforted and fed. He would never turn his
back from the man on the steps. His love ran deeply
but his compassion was his personal gift from our God.
I am honored to have called him friend.
Peace be with you Gregory. Until we meet again.
Y.L.E.W.
- Sunday, September 14, 2003 9:52 PM CDT
Some people come into our lives and quickly go ~ others stay for a while and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never the same.
Thank you Greg for leaving such "huge" footprints on my heart - they will remain forever. You are truly one in a million ~~ it was such a pleasure to know you.
When you asked us to "pray me home" I so wish it would have been your earthly home where you returned but that was not to be....so Father Greg I will be praying to you at your new Heavenly home....Rest in peace - it was such an honor to spend Thursday, Friday and Saturday with your family and friends - the love, support and friendship I witnessed were truly awesome.....and you certainly know what awesome is all about!
With much love, Linda xxx ooo
~~~and thank you so very much darling Beth for keeping this beautiful website open....I look forward to reading many "Greg" stories~~~
Linda Hathaway <lindahathaway2003@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis , MN - Sunday, September 14, 2003 9:47 PM CDT
What an awesome privelege(sp) it was to attend the funeral for Fr Greg. I knew him when he used to help out at St Wms.
the liturgy was a real tribute to him. Then my son called me and it was he who buried Greg in wisconsin at the grave sight. His wife used to work in the same office as your father for one of the lawyers. Her name was (then) Donna Karnick. God bless each of you.
Mary Ackerman St. Williams
Fridley, Mn Anoka - Sunday, September 14, 2003 9:19 PM CDT
Thank you for the beautiful detailed description of the burial for those of us that weren't able to attend.
It is amazing how close I feel to all of you. Even though I saw very few familiar faces at the funeral on Friday I felt as though everyone there was a friend. I have been re-reading the entries because the words are so beautiful. It certainly has helped me deal with our loss.
I do have a question for anyone who might know. I went to the St. Philips website today and noticed that you can download past homilies. I tried to do it and even though I have Quick Time Player I wasn't able to get it to work. If anyone is able to do it please let me know what the trick is. It would be wonderful to be able to read or see Greg's homilies.
Thank you so much and peace to you all.
Friend in Christ
Minneapolis, - Sunday, September 14, 2003 9:17 PM CDT
I felt as though I knew Greg through his dear friend Jan and yet, strangely, I did know him. I wish I had the exact words written down that Father Dale said about Greg...it was something about how with every life he met...his capacity to love increased, and to him, that was the meaning of life...I met him once over 15 years ago when I was a student at St Kates. He left an impression with that one meeting. Many years later, to be reaquainted, and become friends with the amazing Jan Kormann, Greg's dear friend, has helped me define the word friendship. I am deeply saddened by Gregs death and yet I can not help feel that his voice will radiate 2000 times stronger through the voices and hands of those he left behind. He blessed behind..may be a better way to say it. I pray for Peace of Heart to all those he loved. My 8 year old daughter and 4 year old son lit a candle at church today for his soul and then in the homily when Fr. Jack Long mentioned Greg's death my daughter leaned over and said.."Is he the one we prayed for mommy?" And I was reminded again, about the power of prayer. Peace,
Deb Sakry Lande <lande@commonbond.org>
Brooklyn Park, - Sunday, September 14, 2003 8:43 PM CDT
Though Father Greg and I only carried on a letter and e-mail correspondence over the past 8 years, he was a constant inspiration to me. He learned about me and my husband, John, from my Aunt -Pat Guthrie, IHM. John was born three days earlier than Fr. Greg and also had CF. Fr. Greg's first letter to John reached him one week before John passed away. My last correspondence with Fr. Greg was in June, when we e-mailed each other and discussed the ups and downs of life with CF. My sympathies are with all his friends and family, whom I will continue to pray for, and especially for Tim - that more medical advancements are made and that a cure will be found.
Leslie Foley <elsie82@aol.com>
Troy, MI USA - Sunday, September 14, 2003 7:40 PM CDT
I imagine there will be many similar moments, but Id like to share this one. The acclaimed photographer Keri Pickett, whose work is featured this month in the Basilica gallery and hall, was moved to tears at a reception tonight, telling the group how honored she was that her photos were hanging during Greg's funeral. She was an admirer of his, and he of her--both people of great talent and vitality, dedicated to getting us to love and appreciate all people, to value diversity, to create community.
Margaret Nelson
- Sunday, September 14, 2003 7:34 PM CDT
To the Tolaas family, Peg Helminski and the many others who have shared the wake, funeral mass and the burial descriptions with us.
THANK YOU!
I have so enjoyed reading all these entries these last few months. Though I am Catholic I don't pray enough, reading all these beautiful entries makes me realize that I need to pray more. So even though I have never met Father Greg, just reading the journal and guestbook entries have touched me deeply. Oh how I wish that I had met or at least heard Father Greg. He along with the rest of you are truly inspirations to me.
God Bless!
An Admirer
Twin Cities, MN - Sunday, September 14, 2003 7:32 PM CDT
I decided to go early to Greg’s burial and spend a little while alone in prayer. Before I tell you more, I suppose I should tell those I’ve never met a little more about me.
I sing. This is more a statement about who I am than something I do. I didn’t say that I sing well, just that I sing--often. I have a song for nearly every occasion. This drives my kids nuts—especially the teenager!
What’s worse, in my younger years I collected Ozark Mountain folk hymns. I sang a few as I drove. It’s a musical form appreciated in fewer circles than show tunes, and I have learned to sing these songs only when I am alone. (With the windows rolled up!)
In my twenties, I lived in the inner city of Baltimore and attended a vibrant Catholic church where mine was one of only a handful of white faces. There were no hymnals in this church, no worship aids. The people were the hymnals and they carried the music in all its complex harmonies in their hearts. I came to deeply love gospel music as well as traditional spirituals. I belted out a few of those, too, as I drove—doing both the calls and the answers when such parts were required.
As I approached the cemetery, a red-shouldered hawk swooped across the road in front of my car--so close it took my breath away.
When I arrived, only the cemetery crew was there with Greg’s uncle, a cousin and his cousin’s girlfriend. The awning was up and the big digger was pulled back from the hole and the crew was arranging the skirt around the gravesite and placing green “grass” carpets all around. It was about ten o’clock, I suppose, though I had deliberately left my watch at home. The sun’s rays glinted gold and silver sparkles off the moisture still clinging to the grasses and crops in the fields below. I could see the hawk circling now—almost at the same height as me over a field to the west. From time to time, the sun’s rays would catch his wings as he tilted one way or another. As I watched the hawk, circling effortlessly, I softly sang, “And he will raise you up on eagles wings . . . “
I stood at the top of the hill and surveyed the surroundings. “What beautiful country!’ I said to Greg’s uncle as he walked up to me. ‘I think I could spend eternity looking at this!” He shared a little family history and then I wandered away as he went off to talk to the cemetery crew again. I walked among the tombstones, righted a couple of toppled and faded silk bouquets. At each tombstone, I prayed, calling the saints whose names were inscribed on each by name and asking them to come to help us lift this brother, Greg into their heavenly communion.
I stopped at the newly dug grave, now skirted, and looked into the hole. For all the funerals I have attended in my life, I don’t think I have ever seen the inside of a grave before!
It was a hole. Stark. “Remember man that thou art dust and unto dust thou shalt return.” And I thought, even as our bodies return to the earth, so our spirits return to God from whom they sprang forth.
As I stood there, I sang, an ancient Appalachian hymn. A family traditionally sings this hymn as they gather around the dying bed of their loved one but it seemed an appropriate way to bless this hole:
Oh, come, Angel band,
Come and around me stand!
Oh bear me away on your snowy wings
To my immortal home!
The LeBlancs arrived and I greeted them and talked for a while. And then I wandered off again.
The hawk was gone, as was the gilt of the sun from the fields. People began to arrive. First, cars with some grandmas and grandpas who were helped into wheelchairs, wheeled to a place beneath the canopy and protected from the draft with sweaters and blankets. Others began walking up the hill carrying blankets and lawn chairs. (I have never brought a lawn chair to a burial before. I wish someone had told me!) “I’ve never been to a Midwest burial before” I said to Brian, “Is this normal or is this Greg?”
“Oh, no,” he assured me, “This is pure Greg!”
As folks arrived whom I knew, I greeted them with a hug and shared a word or two. Sometimes I greeted folks I had never met--because Greg would have wanted me to. I introduced myself to strangers and found friends I had met on Greg’s web page but whose faces I had never known.
Although many of us shed a tear or two as we spoke of Greg, there was no somber atmosphere. It more resembled a class picnic or a family reunion. “Leave it to a Hawkins to turn a picnic into a tailgate party!” Someone said.
Kids clambered up and down the dirt pile until a word of caution from a dad sent them scurrying under bushes and behind tombstones in a giggly game of hide-n-seek.
“They didn’t want the Astroturf,” someone said, and the cemetery crew removed all the rugs of fake grass, dusted them off and stashed them behind some bushes.
Then the hearse arrived. Silently, the crowd parted to make way and the laughing and joking died down. Dale led in prayer. John LeBlanc and his guitar led in song as dozens of hands reached out to bless the coffin with holy water. Young hand and old hands, white hands and black hands blessed the resting place of the body of Fr. Greg Tolaas.
As for myself, I didn’t cry until we sang “When Irish Eyes Are Smiling.” Dale said that Greg had specifically requested that one. The casket was lowered into the hole and roses dropped in upon it by family members.
And then, one by one, beginning with Greg’s family, I think every person present stepped forward to turn a few spadefulls upon the box and return our brother to the earth.
I had only learned via Dale’s homily that Greg knew a little Polish. I, too, know very little Polish. Still, I whispered in Polish both parts of a traditional Polish leave taking as I shoveled. “Go with God, loved one. Stay with God.”
When the hole was about half full, paper cups containing a swallow of Irish whiskey were passed around. (The less Irish of us cut it with water.) Nothing formal, each in our own words, in unison we toasted Greg.
Most people moved away from the grave after they had shoveled a few scoops of earth into the hole. I stayed and watched. I had promised Greg that I would see this out with him, that I would pray him THROUGH until the very end.
So, I prayed as I watched faces of people as they dug. I watched little children with sand shovels, and frail elderly gentlemen who needed the help of a strong grandson to complete the task. Some people picked up hands full of dirt and crumbled it into the grave. I watched one woman take a rose, smell it, kiss it, tear off one petal and drop the rose into the hole as dirt fell on top of it. She rolled the petal through her fingers, then stepped forward again and released even that petal to the grave.
When all the dirt had been moved and the mound was raked, a young African American man, who, like me had been hovering near, watching everything, walked up and with his hands picked up a clod of dirt that had rolled off the mound. He placed it at the base of the mound and slowly crushed it with his foot.
More roses were laid on top of the mound and it felt done. I stood there talking a while with a friend and when I turned around, a party was in full progress behind me. Kids were playing football. Folks sat on blankets using tombstones as backrests. Food was everywhere. There was laughing and joking and “Do you remember when Greg. . . ” stories all around me.
And, since I am quite allergic to yellow jackets that frequent such places this time of year, I felt it was an appropriate time to bid my farewell to the Hawkins family cemetery. To Greg and the entire Tolaas family, thank you for allowing me so share in such a deeply personal remarkably intimate burial.
Peg Helminski <PegHelminski@aol.com>
Woodbury, MN - Sunday, September 14, 2003 7:11 PM CDT
The following poem-song was written by Bob Dylan as a prayer for his child. I have always found it meaningful, especially now after the loss of our beloved Greg:
FOREVER YOUNG
May God bless and keep you always,
May your wishes all come true,
May you always do for others
And let others do for you.
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung,
May you stay forever young.
May you grow up to be righteous,
May you grow up to be true,
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you.
May you always be courageous,
Stand upright and be strong,
May you stay forever young.
May your hands always be busy,
May your feet always be swift,
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of changes shift.
May your heart always be joyful,
May your song always be sung,
May you stay forever young.
John R. Saurer
Northfield, MN - Sunday, September 14, 2003 6:35 PM CDT
I had the privlege of attending mass at St.Philip's today. All I can say is there is a parish full of people who embody the "little engine that could'. Amongst the tears and the laughter, the prayers and the praise I witnessed a faith community determined to carry on the spirit and the work of Fr. Greg! They are a people who are proud to call Fr. Greg "their pastor." You could feel his spirit there - especially with the pesky sound system problems. They are heartbroken, as we all are, but they are determined that everything Greg taught them will be carried on and carried out. As one staff member said when refering to todays Fun Fest (If we canceled it Greg would have killed us). Likewise this little parish is determined to carry on Greg's work so "he doesn't kill them." I have no doubt that with Greg's help St.Philips will do just that - carry out Greg's works and make him even prouder of them than he already was.
Blessed
- Sunday, September 14, 2003 1:34 PM CDT
It was a beautiful funeral service for Greg on Friday - what a send-off! The music was heart-warming and the eulogies were a great comfort to those of us sitting in the congregation. Find comfort and strength in each other; you have been down such a long path. Just seeing how many lives Greg touched and the outpouring of love should ease your loss. He touched us all!
Sharon & Bill Newpower <snewps1@sprynet.com>
Shoreview, Mn - Saturday, September 13, 2003 11:59 PM CDT
Our parish (Our Lady of Peace) had the pleasure of having Fr. Greg preside at one of our Sunday Masses several years ago when our pastor was out of town. His homily that day was beautiful and I have never forgotten him or the message he gave us. I remember that he also sang parts of the Mass with his beautiful voice. Thank you, Jan and Beth, for keeping us so well-informed about his journey these last few months. We know that Fr. Greg is now soaring with the angels in heaven. My prayers are with you that God will sustain you with His peace and strength.
A member of OLP
Minneapolis, MN USA - Saturday, September 13, 2003 10:52 PM CDT
The few times I met fr.Greg I know he was a saint and sill is a saint he will be deeply missed by his friends and family and a lot of people who deeply loved him I hope he rests in eternal peace and I hope that everything went well at his burial today and he will be remembered in my heart FOREVER no matter what
a very saddened person who misses Fr. Greg <kbmercier2005@msn.com>
New Hope, MN hennepin - Saturday, September 13, 2003 9:58 PM CDT
"THE BEST IS YET TO BE; THE LAST FOR WHICH THE FIRST WAS MADE!"
Don Montgomery
Edina, MN USA - Saturday, September 13, 2003 8:55 PM CDT
Having just returned from the burial of our dear friend Greg, I am grateful for the spirit of Greg (i.e., the spirit of God, the spirit of full living) that was so manifest in the celebration. God love Greg for helping to bring us to a place of real connection where we all hunger to be, but are sometimes afraid to go on our own. I thank Greg for helping to liberate my soul, to sing when it wants to sing (literally), cry when it wants to cry, and say " I love you" when it feels love.
Because it is truly painful to think of this life without Greg, that God-given feeling serves to assure me that the afterlife is not so far away as we might imagine. In the last six months, I remember Greg speaking strongly about how the afterlife does not exist on the otherside of some looming threshhold, but is a seamless transition that only fools us into imaging we are further away from God than we are. Greg's presence there now helps me to feel God's closeness here all the more. Thank you Greg for helping to bring us nearer, and by not leaving us far behind.
with love and gratitude
Jamie and Maddi McDonell <mjmcdonell@earthlink.net>
St. Paul, MN USA - Saturday, September 13, 2003 6:59 PM CDT
To the family of Greg and to Father Dale Korogi,
While traveling in Guatemala, we found out from Sister Mary Bertrand that Greg had passed away. Having read the daily updates on Greg}s progress while in Minnesota, we were shocked and saddened by the news. You will continue to be in our prayers.
Melanie Homan and Chris Alliman
Chichicastenango, Guatemala - Saturday, September 13, 2003 5:07 PM CDT
I am standing on the seashore. A magnificant ship spreads its white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. It is an object of strength and beauty and I stand and watch it until at length, it is a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come to meet each other.
Then someone at my side shouts, "There! It's gone!" Gone where? Gone from my sight, that is all. It is just as large in mast and hull and spar as it was when it left my side and it is just as able to bear its load of living weight to its destined harbor.
It's diminished size is in me, not in the ship. And just at the moment someone says, "There! It is gone!", there are many other voices ready to take up the glad shout, "Here it comes!"
And that, is dying.
Godspeed to you, dear Father Greg, as you make your journey home.
Jeanne Weiler
Jeanne Weiler <jweiler@mn.rr.com>
Minneapolis, Mn. USA - Saturday, September 13, 2003 5:01 PM CDT
I have had my family praying for Fr. Greg from the very beginning. I received the following email from my brother, Emmet Harrigan, this morning.
Yesterday (Friday) at the 6:30 Mass, the entire congregation prayed for your pastor. God willing, he is safely home by now. Love, Emmie
My brother lives in Crystal Lake, IL. His parish is St. Thomas. His adult children live in Naperville, Il, and Evanston, Il. Prayers have been offered for Fr. Greg from all over the State.
My sincere condolences to Fr. Dale and the Tolaas Family.
Sheila Harrigan <hogan1216@aol.com>
Golden Valley, mn usa - Saturday, September 13, 2003 12:03 AM CDT
To the Family and Friends of Father Greg,
I only met Greg a little over a year ago when he first started Dialysis, but what an impact he made in my life. Unlike any other human being. When he passed away I had no words-literally. I am so grievstricken that I could not offer words of condolences to his family and friends. I, all of us that have known and met him were the lucky ones. I am honored and consider myself so fortunate to have known him. My condolences and prayers to his family and friends.
Bolton Diana J. E. <Boltonl5@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Saturday, September 13, 2003 9:38 AM CDT
To the Family and Caregivers of our beloved Greg,
In the days and months ahead- when we go back to our lives and daily routines - please let us know if we can help you or support you in any way. We have all looked to this website for many months and feel like we are in some way an extended family for you. You were there to "care" for Fr. Greg in so many ways. Now how can we give you some tender loving care as you face the time ahead of you?
We can and will support the ministry at St. Phillip's. When the time comes that no new entries will be posted here - please let us know if you have any other ideas of ways that we can be of help to you.
We pray that those close to you will nourish you with their loving care. I feel called to at least inquire if there is anything else you need us to do - name it. Look at the numbers who visit this site - we would like to help....you can be assured of our daily prayers.
Emily
- Saturday, September 13, 2003 0:50 AM CDT
Even those of us who were at the beautiful liturgy this morning would love to be able to read again and savor the wonderful words of the homily and the eulogy. It would be wonderful if they could be printed on the website for all to share. Thank you for all the lessons of loving and "being with" that you dear family and friends have given us. Thank you Greg for showing us how to live and how to die.
Catherine <aerobics@borton.com>
Golden Valley, MN USA - Friday, September 12, 2003 10:41 PM CDT
Someone asked earlier this week where to send memorial contributions to the two organizations cited in the obituary. Here are the addresses:
Church of St. Philip Patchwork Quilt Program
2507 Bryant Ave. No.
Minneapolis MN 55411
Cystic Fibrosis Foundation
P.O. Box 96305
Washington DC 20090-6305
The Kelley clan was there in force at the Visitation yesterday and the funeral celebration today for a last embrace. Greg has been son and brother to all of us for over 20 years, an integral part of our family, a participant in our family holidays and celebrations. Our love for him is unbounded, and even as we miss him over the months and years ahead, that love will continue in our many memories of him.
Our heartfelt thanks to all who made his celebration today so memorable, even to our little Rosie, his godchild, who led the procession of gift givers.
Dan Kelley <kellot@aol.com>
Edina, mn usa - Friday, September 12, 2003 9:36 PM CDT
Is there any chance someone would be willing to obtain the text of this morning's eulogy and type it in here so those of us who were not able to attend Greg's funeral liturgy could read it?
MT
St. Paul, MN USA - Friday, September 12, 2003 8:33 PM CDT
To Father Greg's family and friends - Father Greg was on our prayer line at church for a long time and in my daily prayers as well. I did not know him, but I have spoken with some who did. They have told me what a wonderful man he was and how he reached out in love to all he met. May the Lord sustain you with wonderful memories of Greg. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Mike and Terry Reasoner
White Bear Lake, MN - Friday, September 12, 2003 5:16 PM CDT
While I joined in the voices singing at the funeral today, I was struck by the many many hundreds of people given the opportunity to experess their love for Greg and mourn his passing. I want to thank the family for sharing this time with us. I can't imagine how emotional this all must be for you. Thank your for sharing this time, this web page and so much with us. We will pray for Tim and his illness in the months ahead. God's blessings on you all. A heartfelt thanks for the way you handled this so many of us could be part of the prayer, and the celebration on Greg's life.
mary
Minneapols, - Friday, September 12, 2003 3:20 PM CDT
Oh, and Greg--did you see Clara, holding her hand up so she could help carry the communion wafers to the altar? So many friends there to celebrate. But how we will miss you!
One among many
- Friday, September 12, 2003 3:14 PM CDT
I was privileged to be able to attend Greg’s funeral this morning. The Basilica was full to the brim, not just with people, but with people full of love for Greg and for his ministry. Greg was in life and in death a model for all of us. I will remember Greg most for his enthusiasm and passion for life, for the way he embraced not only his own suffering, but most of all the suffering of others. I always admired Greg's openness and candor, his honesty and I was very glad that Jan and Beth continued that in their updates. Greg was never one to hide the truth.
The word used over and over again today was love and it reminded me of this quote from someone who was the opposite of Greg in many ways, but someone of great faith, a somewhat melancholy Dane, Soren Kierkegaard:
"What is it that makes a person great, admired by creation, well pleasing in the eyes of God? What is it that makes a person strong, stronger than the whole world; what is it that makes him weak, weaker than a child? What is it that makes a person unwavering, more unwavering than a rock; what is it that makes him soft, softer than wax? -- it is love! What is it that is older than everything? It is love. What is it that outlives everything? It is love. What is it that cannot be taken but itself takes all? It is love. What is it that cannot be given but itself gives all? It is love. What is it that perseveres when everything falls away? It is love. What is it that comforts when all comfort fails? It is love. What is it that endures when everything is changed? It is love. What is it that remains when the imperfect is abolished? It is love. What is it that witnesses when prophecy is silent? It is love. What is it that does not cease when the vision ends? It is love. What is it that sheds light when the dark saying ends? It is love. What is it that gives blessing to the abundance of the gift? It is love. What is it that gives pith to the angel's words? It is love. What is it that makes the widow's gift an abundance? It is love. What is it that turns the words of the simple person into wisdom? It is love. What is it that is never changed even though everything is changed? It is love; and that alone is love, that which never becomes something else."
Jesus called us to love one another. Greg called us to love, to stretch ourselves and our arms wider. Maybe Greg considered himself master of nothing, but he was a great lover of all of God's children and creatures.
You will be greatly missed, Greg, but your loving spirit will always be with us.
A friend in Christ
Mpls, MN - Friday, September 12, 2003 3:02 PM CDT
Today as I sat in the Basilica I felt the responsibility that I had to those who could not be present for whatever reason. I felt blessed that I was able to attend both the visitation and the burial mass. I felt that I needed to absorb each word and thought and song so that I could be the eyes and ears for those who could not be there. And I felt profoundly greatful to each of you who have written in this guestbook these many months - who have shared your stories and your wishes, your prayers and your hopes. To all who have been my inspiration and my comfort through this rollercoaster of a ride - Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I will indeed be sad when this website comes to and end, for I feel that each of you is a part of my total experience of knowing, loving and praying for Fr. Greg. May God bless us all and fill us with peace only he can give.
Father Greg's Friend (one among thousands)
- Friday, September 12, 2003 2:47 PM CDT
In the various talks today at Greg's funeral. We heard about his boyish antics. His ways of reaching out to all; his bluntness (at times) and his love of jokes. We heard about his passion for people, his knowledge of issues, his willingness to make some in church authority feel uncomfortable; and his love of family and friends. We heard about his ability to tell wealthier suburban school kids they were spoiled rotten and yet have them in his hand.
We heard about how Beth told him in his last days that he could pray for us from heaven because he knew what we needed and he'd told us so often enough. We heard about how Greg had the ability to bring the St. Paul people across the river to Minneapolis and the Minneapolis people across the river to St.Paul. We heard about his many talks with people -including the bishop- that were always filled with reverence for anyone created in the image of God. We heard about the Greg many knew and loved. His passion for people and bringing them together. His ability to connect with anyone and his love and zest for life and not letting a single minute of it go by idly. While this world has lost a most amazing man, it is our duty and responsibility to carry a little piece of Greg with us wherever we go-in whatever we do. ALL of us need to be willing to pick up the baton and carry on where Greg has left off. Building the kingdom of God on this earth. Are you up to the challenge? Each and every one of us has the ability to be just a little bit like Greg ever single day. What better way to honor the man we knew and loved, the man we came to know through others or through these pages. Wherever you many be - you can help carry out the work and the spirit of Greg in your own little piece of the world.
Mourning our great loss
- Friday, September 12, 2003 2:41 PM CDT
Did you hear us sing Greg? What a beautiful celebration of your life at the Basilica. The church was bulging at the seams with people. We laughed and cried at the same time. Hearing Fr Dale's & Jim's stories brought back your wonderful sense of humor and love for life. Oh Greg how we miss you. You have touched us like no other. We will continue to live with you in our hearts and memories. I will try with all my might to be the person that you taught me to be. I thank God daily for what you brought into my life.
Enjoy the Glory of God Greg. I love you and will miss you terribly. I am truly a better person because of you. Thank you!
Love,
A Friend
Minneapolis, MN - Friday, September 12, 2003 2:35 PM CDT
Father Greg Tolas Born March 27, 1956 ORdained to the priesthood May 28, 1983 born to eternal life September 7, 2003.
Friends:
Today has been a long day, today has been a short day. One filled with laughter and tears, smiles and hugs. Today we gathered for Fr. Greg's burial mass. The day started out cloudy after a night of peaceful gentle rains (almost 2 inches) which we badly needed. The Basilica of St. Mary was filled. Every seat taken and the isle on either side filled from front to back with family, friends and acquaintences (some 2,000 + they figure).
Prelude Songs: The Lord is My Light; Holy is His Name
Procession: Alleluia Sing to Jesus
First Reading: Isiah 58:6-12
Response: Pslam 42 by Michael Joncas
2nd Reading: Paul to the Corinthians 4:1-15 (read by Beth)
Gospel: Mark 4:1-9
Homily: Father Dale Korogi (longtime friend and housemate)
Prepation of Gifts: We Are Called
Mass of Creation
Communion Songs: Shall We Gather at the River; You Are Mine; Jerusalem My Destiny; Serdezna Matko
Eulogy: Jim Smith
Remarks by Bishop Harry Flynn
Song of Farwell: Jesus Remember Me
Recessional: We Shall Rise Again
Postlude: All Shall Be Well; Going To See The King
Father greg's body rests in a simple pine casket. Many times Greg made retreat at New Malleray Abbey. The simplicity of the Trappist burial moved him and reflected his own committment to that virtue. The casket and straw tick were lovingly made by John LeBlanc. (This was taken out of the worship aid) - As many of you know John LeBlanc is a very dear friend of Greg's. 'No greater love..."
Amongst the many in the church were his lung transplant surgeon, his kidney transplant surgeon and dozens of his nurse's and caregiver team.
Missing Greg
- Friday, September 12, 2003 2:29 PM CDT
Cystic Fibrosis Foundation 1611 West County Road B Roseville MN 55113
Church of St. Phillip Patchwork Quilt Program 2507 Bryant Avenue North Minneapolis MN 55411.
Lets not forget Lifesource Organ and Tissue Donation 2550 University Avenue West Suite 315 South St.Paul MN 55114-1904 Questions about becoming a donor 1-888-5-DONATE (1-888-536-6283. Get those donor cards people - make your family aware of your wish to donate. Maybe some day you, or someone you love could help another person like Fr.Greg - or maybe someone you know will be helped by organ donation.
Friends
- Friday, September 12, 2003 2:17 PM CDT
Peace and healing to the Tolaas family. I met Greg once very briefly and the knowledge I have of him has mostly come from seeing him at CF conference or through this web site. What an awesome man he was! May he rest easy and breathe deeply in the presence of God.
Blessings,
Lori
- Friday, September 12, 2003 1:50 PM CDT
Our positive thoughts and prayers go out to you Maureen and all of your loved ones. Peace be with you.
With Love,
Dan & Sarah Myers
Dan Myers <grandan5@hotmail.com>
Prairie Village, KS USA - Friday, September 12, 2003 12:20 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas family,
Although I was unable to attend Fr. Greg's funeral, I will remember him forever and pray for him often, talking to him often. I hope his family realizes what an impact he had on everyone he came in contact with. He is the best, an example of what a priest can be and achieve and he did this with many complications. Although I learned much from him, the best was to carry on (which I know his family will do, as they have in the past) no matter what God throws your way, because in the end, there will be no more suffering and a much deserved reward. And if anyone deserved a big reward it was Fr. Greg. He held so many people together in his life on earth, that we must make sure we stay that way and remember that he is watching us. His spiritual presence is in my heart and mind and cannot be taken from us. Today, if He has not already, God welcomes you back home. To Greg's family, I will keep you in my prayers. To Tim, whom I have never met, keep fighting. Some day, hopefully in our life time there will be a cure for CF.
Jeanne Todd <Jeanne.todd@commerce.state.mn.us>
Maplewood, MN Ramsey - Friday, September 12, 2003 12:05 AM CDT
Fr. Greg's talks were inspiring. Especially his talk about love. He spoke from a place that was real and I think -how wonderful that his voice was heard by so many. My thoughts are with you all today.
Sarah.
Sarah B. Shallbetter
Boston, MA - Friday, September 12, 2003 11:28 AM CDT
"Come and enjoy Your God, my faithful servant and friend!"
Pray for us and our wish that you have known yet we pray for You, Fr. Greg!
Your neighbor in Town
Minneapolis, MN - Friday, September 12, 2003 11:18 AM CDT
I, too, wish to convey my sincere sympathies to Father Greg's family. I wonder if someone could give us addresses for sending in contributions to the cystic fibrosis foundation or Church Phillip Patchwork Quilt program.
Julie Hawkins, a granddaughter of Dora & Ernie Hawkins <julie@spft.org>
Inver Grove, MN 55077 - Friday, September 12, 2003 10:46 AM CDT
Friends for 31 years - I will miss you, Greg.
Love always,
Claudia
Claudia Fercello <cfercello@co.doc.state.mn.us>
St. Paul, Minnesota - Friday, September 12, 2003 10:14 AM CDT
A quick, heartfelt thank you to the person who wrote and described the visitation scene. I can't attend the funeral or visitation and it was somehow healing to read the description.
Blessings and peace to all who visit this site. I guess God really is everywhere, including the Internet. We've developed a little community here, haven't we? It's a bit like a Friends meeting, where you listen quietly till you feel moved to speak...
St. Paul friend
- Friday, September 12, 2003 9:06 AM CDT
First shock, then anger - now resignation. I stayed up until 2AM printing our Greg's Transplant Journal in total. After reading it through and attending tonight visitation I am now filled with tremendous gratitude, that for one moment in time, I came to know of this man....
I would also like to take this opportunity to thank Beth and Jan for the wonderful journal entries that kept us so abreast and involved in Greg's journey. You wrote from your hearts........
Go with God, Gregg......
Barbara Fenton (from Tranny)
Woodbury, Mn USA - Friday, September 12, 2003 0:10 AM CDT
I did not know Father Greg personally but just heard about him from my friend, Jed Hastings. I know he is with God and at peace after his valiant battle with illness. He has obviously left many gifts. I am certain he has already heard the words, "Well done good and faithful servant, enter into the kingdom that I have prepared for you." May Father rest in peace and may his wonderful family be comforted. A friend in California.
Judy Knutsen <ndlptr@aol.com>
Stockton, CA USA - Thursday, September 11, 2003 11:49 PM CDT
Someone asked why I would drive all the way to Minneapolis and back in rush hour traffic to view the body of a person I had only met once and to extend my condolences to people I have NEVER met. I responded -- because. And now I am glad to say it was worth the drive and the long wait in line to do just that. I did have to ask if the pine box [instead of a elaborate casket] was a "Catholic priest thing" or a "Father Greg thing." To which a friend replied -- it was definitely a "Father Greg thing." Not surprising -- a man with so many riches, yet he gave them all away. Both his love, his riches, and now his life. Who is richer today than Father Greg Tolaas. And it was so wonderful to meet in person the caregivers and the scribes who kept us informed daily of Father Greg's progress. What a blessing you all are. And, Tim, we WILL find a cure for Cystic Fibrosis. Not only for you, but for Emma, AJ, Jake Abby, Alex, Alexis, Annika, Avalon, Breanna, Carlee, Christian, Christopher, Cole, Cooper, Daniel, Derek, Dylan, Emily, Eric, Fritz, Haven, Iain, Jackie, Jamie, Jared, Jennifer, Kate, Mackenzie, Maddy, Maranda, Mikkel, Natalie, Nicole, Olivia, Rachel, Randy, Rebekah, Sabrina, Samuel, Shannon, Trey and Zachary. And I believe the dollars donated in your memory will be the ones to find the cure. Rest in Peace, Father Greg. You deserve it.
Mary Mosbey -- Emma's grandma <mcmosbey@mmm.com>
Lake Elmo, MN USA - Thursday, September 11, 2003 8:49 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas family- We are thinking of you and praying for your family during this difficult time. Greg touched our lives in a profound way this past decade and is the reason we were both turned back on to the Catholic Church while studying at UST 10 years ago. God Bless this amazing, loving, peaceful man. May he rest in PEACE!
Lynn & Mike Rucki
Brasilia, DF BRAZIL - Thursday, September 11, 2003 8:01 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas family- We are thinking of you and praying for your family during this difficult time. Greg touched our lives in a profound way this past decade and is the reason we were both turned back on to the Catholic Church while studying at UST 10 years ago. God Bless this amazing, loving, peaceful man. May he rest in PEACE!
Lynn & Mike Rucki
Brasilia, DF BRAZIL - Thursday, September 11, 2003 8:00 PM CDT
Thank you for describing the scene at St. Phillips right now for those of us who are physically unable to attend wake or funeral. This has been a profound summer of being totally absorbed with this wonderful man's health crisis and for closure of some sort we need to know the rest of the story and how his family is doing. You are all such special people and I thank you along with many others for using the caringbridge link to keep us informed. I sent a check to day to Caringbridge in Father Greg's Honor. God bless you all.
A friend
Minneapolis, mn - Thursday, September 11, 2003 7:39 PM CDT
For those who may be wondering about the fate of Kelley. Fr. Dale has been taking good care of Kelley these past months. As Fr. Greg's housemate - Kelley has been used to Fr. Dale and his do Max. Max is Kelley's best buddy. Kelley will continue to live with Fr. Dale and Max in the parish house - even though he has been assigned to another parish. Kelley will continue to be in good hands and the people of St.Phillips will be sure to give her lots of love, petting and hugs.
Parishioner
- Thursday, September 11, 2003 7:19 PM CDT
While I would never presume to try and take the place of Beth or Jan. Someone earlier had wanted an update on the visitation and funeral. I cannot speak as eloquently as others but here goes. I arrived at the Church of St. Phillip this evening about 5 p.m. There were 2 lines forming out the church doors and around the church sign which had black cloth draped on one corner. Inside you signed a guest book and picked up a card with a picture of Fr. Greg and psalm 23 on it. The lines merged into 1 long line proceeding down the center isle to the front of the church. Greg was in a white priests robe with a beautiful stiched alb. He was laying on some burlap type material in a very simple white pine box. I was struck by how youthful his face looked (no lines or wrinkles or signs of all he'd been through. People were greeted by his sister-in law Laura, sisters Beth and Maureen and Fr. Dale. There were 3 larger picture boards in the back of church and 5 bulletine boards full of pictures downstairs where sweets and beverages were being served. Greg was definitely present in spirit in the church. The hundreds of pictures were great to see - especially the ones where he looked so healthy. When I left at 6:30 p.m. the lines still formed out the church and it had begun to rain. I figured the lines would grow as soon as the dinner hour was over. In speaking with some of the greeters from St. Phillips they indicated the lines had been long and constant ever since visitation started at 2 p.m. There would be no prayer service this evening so as to accommodate all those wishing to view Greg and say goodbye. Simple attire, simple casket, simple candlelight - all for a complex, beloved priest and friend. He may be gone but his spirit is alive and well at St. Phillips. Can you feel the love and power of it all?
Mourner
- Thursday, September 11, 2003 7:16 PM CDT
Someone asked earlier about memorials. You hit it right. The funeral notice in the paper says In lieu of flowers, memorials preferred to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation or the Church of St.Phillip Patchwork Quilt Program.
Of course donations to Caring Brigde would be most welcome and appropriate also.
A friend
- Thursday, September 11, 2003 7:04 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family and friends; I will miss Greg greatly but, I have to say that the time spent with you all and Greg in the hospital selflessly was time that I enjoyed. It was a time for me to get reacqainted. Beth you are a remarkable sister!! For you to step in and take on the role of major caregiver to Greg for so long was unbelievable especially when Maureen wasn't able to be here. And Maureen thank God you came home when you did, you also are a unbelievable sister. And Tim we will still see each other and you know that I'm alway's there for you.You all are a testimonial to you parent's. I knew when I met Mary(21 yrs ago) that she was an angel. I do believe you all are ANGELS!!! I will pray for you all Love Ann
Ann Hazelwood <ahazelwood @UMPhysiscians.umn.edu>
coon rapids, mn - Thursday, September 11, 2003 6:40 PM CDT
Dear Caregivers, Family, Friends, and Lucky St. Philip parishoners, words simply fail me, what to say about this wonderful man who touched so many lives, in life, and now in death. I have not been lucky enough to ever have met Father Greg, but have kept up an correspondence with him sdince our two grandchildren were diagnosed with Cystic Fibrosis, and he being the kind of wonderful person he was took time out of his busy schedule to write to me whenever he could. So many times he jolted me out of the doldrums, and made me see how I was to count every minute of every day that I got to spend with my two grandchildren as a miracle, some people never get that chance. I want to thank you Fr. Greg for being a beacon of light and hope in this often times stormy days in this life. As someone else wrote in this journal "If we are lucky, once in our lives God brings someone into our life to show us how to live as Jesus did so long ago when He walked this earth, Greg was that someone" Greg always wanted to be remembered as A man who loved Christ, and he surely will be remembered that way.Dear Father Greg rest in peace now, your poor shattered body that suffered so much now is made whole, and the rest of us must try to carry the banner that you put down for a well deserved rest. We will miss your powerful spirit, but somehow we all know that you are with us, and you will never be forgotten. God Bless your wonderful Family.
George & Dee Wilson
Greenfield, In. USA - Thursday, September 11, 2003 4:28 PM CDT
To the members of Greg's family, I wrote on Saturday before leaving for retreat that "extra prayers" would be wending Greg's way all this week. I had entrusted Greg's well-being to Fr. Solanus Casey, OFMCap, and hoped that Greg's would be the miracle needed for Solanus' beatification. Thanks to my niece, who has followed this website on a daily basis, I learned that Greg did indeed receive a miracle on Sunday afternoon, not one of our choosing, but undoubtedly a greater one for him--more than we could ever have asked or imagined. My friendship with Greg goes back nine years, when we sojourned together in CTU's Israel Study Program. My nephew-in-law, John Foley, born the same year as Greg (three days before him) also had CF. That was my entre to Greg's friendship. I was so inspired by the liturgies that Greg celebrated with our group, as well as by his genuiness, warmth, keen sense of humor and playfulness. We have remained friends ever since. I visited him enroute to Arizona the following year and attended his 40th birthday celebration; phone calls and e-mail connections followed. John Foley died at age 39, and Greg was so consoling to my niece and me. I returned from retreat this afternoon and have spent two hours reading the many expressions of sympathy and condolence. I share in everyone's sadness, but rejoice in Greg's wholly new life, and I can hear him telling all of us to do the same. He is closer to us now than he ever could be in this life; we have a new saint in heaven who will intercede for his friends. Thank you so much, Greg, for being such a special part of our lives. We are so much richer for your presence. Thanks also to his dear family and to Beth and Jan for their daily updates. I shall be with you in spirit and in prayer, especially tomorrow, as I have been each day since I received the phone call of his passing. Because of Greg I feel a special bonding with each of you -- as we give Greg back to the One who first gave him to us. In loving sympathy, Pat Guthrie, IHM
Pat Guthrie, IHM <guthriepatricia@msn.com>
Detroit, MI USA - Thursday, September 11, 2003 4:08 PM CDT
Our thoughts and prayers will always be with you.
Timothy and Christina Vanda <tvanda@ajhs.ajusd.org>
Apache Junction, AZ US - Thursday, September 11, 2003 12:46 AM CDT
We are enormously grateful to Fr. Greg for helping us (and countless others) to become better persons - through his many examples, homilies, facilitating retreats at Gainey Center, inspiring voice, RCIA - the list goes on.
Fr. Greg, You really did change the world! Thank you.
Janelle and Mike Kelly
St. Paul, MN - Thursday, September 11, 2003 12:20 AM CDT
Dear friends & family of Our Fr. Greg, I remember our pastor at Holy Rosary Church said recently (and I doubt I can say this as eloquently as him) that the thought of becoming a priest came to him, but instead he decided on the secular life. For quite a few years, the poem, "Hound of Heaven" kept nagging at him and he decided he did have a vocation; therefore, we are fortunate to have him as our pastor. He has the same beliefs as Fr. Greg which is that we are all called to help in our church and community. Now we can say the same about Fr. Greg -- the Hound of Heaven desired him more than us. We wait to meet him again!
Holy Rosary Church parishioner
Minneapolis, MN - Thursday, September 11, 2003 12:05 AM CDT
I too was a former student of Fr. Tolaas. I was in his first grade class at Nativity. He touched each one of us in so many ways - his spirit and enthusiasm will be missed. It is evident in looking through this web site and reading the many stories that he had a tremendous impact on everyone he came in contact with and that his inspiration will live on. Our thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends.
Crista (Baierl) Walsh & Family <candrwalsh@aol.com>
Anoka, MN - Thursday, September 11, 2003 11:14 AM CDT
When I first read, last Sunday, that Greg had died - I was so incredibly sad, and angry, and I've been unable to make an entry before now - I just couldn't believe, that after all Greg had been through, he didn't make it. But as time goes on, and I read these many entries day after day, I realized - as much as Greg will be missed, we really do need to celebrate the fact that he is with God, in heaven - no doubts there! He has touched so many lives - it really boggles the mind, reading all of this.
And how blessed he was to have the caregivers and family that he had - and I'd like to add my thanks for those of you who took time, every day, to keep us up to date. This CaringBridge site has been a wonderful opportunity to bring everyone together. The prayers, the hopes, the memories of people from all over.... thanks so much!!
Greg will never be forgotten - and has strengthened so many of our ties to God.
God Bless you all. Be happy for Greg now.
Barb
Hermiston, OR - Thursday, September 11, 2003 11:10 AM CDT
Well done, God's faithful servant. We rejoice with the angels in heaven that Fr. Greg has gone home.
Sharon & Harlan Wachholz <sharharl@uslink.net>
new hope, MN USA - Thursday, September 11, 2003 10:54 AM CDT
Dear Tim, Laura, Beth, Maureen and all; Please know of our our sympathy and prayers at this difficult time. Greg touched the lives of every person in my family in a deep and unique way. And so have, you, Tim-what could be more basic to life than the homes we all live in? Again, our thoughts and prayers are with you. Kathy and Mike Peterson and family
Kathy Peterson <petersonk@archspm.org>
Rosemount, MN - Thursday, September 11, 2003 10:14 AM CDT
Greg has been in my thoughts and prayers so many times over the years. For those of us who have known him since his days as a student at St. Thomas, this has been an incredible journey for us all. I remember his sharp wit. I remember his curious mind. I have experienced his compassion. My thoughts often travel to the masses he held in homes of friends during his early days as a priest. I remember sitting on back porches and in front of fires and talking about the big issues of life--talk that often extended late into the evening. Greg always had a unique and well-thought perspective. I keep thinking he will now be with our friend, Tim, who often welcomed us into his home for these evenings of prayer and food and conversation. They were wonderful days and,now, precious memories.
I have been contemplating just what to say as I still feel so much shock and sadness at his passing. He has done some many incredible things, and beat the odds so many times. I guess I just felt in my heart that he would always be with us. After having time to accept his passing, I realize that he is still with us in so many ways.
One thing that I will always remember about Greg is that no matter what the circumstances or how discouraged you might be, he always would simply say, "Keep going." Not don't stop or hang in there, but keep going. The difference in message is quite profound as keep going indicates a moving forward without a thought to stopping or even accepting the status quo.
And I do believe that Greg's spirit will keep us all going. All of us who became involved in assisting the underserved communities, who found a little deeper faith in God and a stronger belief in the good of mankind because of the way Greg lived during his short life. We will never say that we can't make a difference, that we aren't powerful enough, or wealthy enough or talented enough to make a contribution that matters. Greg showed us that just showing up matters. For many of us, this started us showing up at many things for years, and it has mattered not just to the event or organization where we appeared, but within ourselves and the joy,peace and power we found in our own lives. Greg's legacy will be all the people that keep showing up to care, and the care that we will pass along to our children and our communities.
You were a gift in our lives, Greg, and you gave us perhaps the biggest gift that anyone can give: the ability to pass along a caring heart to those whose paths we cross. God bless your family and all of your friends who were fortunate to have shared in your life. You will not be forgotten.
Priscilla McNulty <pmcn1227@aol.com>
St. Paul, Minneosta - Thursday, September 11, 2003 10:05 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas family and caringbridge family (all who loved and were inspired by Fr. Greg),
We're all shocked and saddened at the turn this journey took. It's always a special sadness to have something so hopeful as a corrective surgery turn out differently than anticipated. My mother died from a blood clot to her lungs three weeks after having both of her knees replaced several years ago. I have taken comfort from the following reading from Deitrich Bonhoeffer which I offer to you as balm for our wounded hearts in the days and months and years to come.
"I wish I could say something to help you in the time of separation which lies ahead. There is no need to speak about its difficulties...nothing can fill the gap when we are away from those we love and it would be wrong to try and find anything. We must simply hold out and win through. That sounds hard at first, but at the same time it is a great consolation since leaving the gap unfilled preserves the bonds between us. It is nonsense to say that God fills the gap. He does not fill it, but keeps it empty so that our communion with another may be kept alive, even at the cost of pain.
"The dearer and richer our memories, the more difficult the separation. But gratitude converts the pangs of memory into a tranquil joy. We must not wallow in our memories or surrender to them, just as we don't gaze all the time at a valuable present but get it out from time to time, and for the rest hide away as a treasure we know is there all the time. Treated in this way, the past can give us lasting joy and inspiration" Truly, Fr. Greg has given us all lasting joy and inspiration!
One more thought from "Tuesdays with Morrie": "Death ends a life, not a relationship." May God bless us all with peace and comfort as we remember Fr. Greg.
Teri Nelles Cain
Worland, WY - Thursday, September 11, 2003 10:01 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family; My sympathy, thoughts and prayers are with all of you, we are all mourning Greg,s death. He was such an inspiration to all and will be celebrating his life the next few day with family and friends.
Marilyn Delander
Roberts, Wis - Thursday, September 11, 2003 9:01 AM CDT
I joined the staff of St. Philip's in 1999 as the office manager, it was a strange transition for me from the corporate world to the non profit. Fr. Greg and Cindy Boggs helped to make the transition easy. The parishioners welcomed me with genuine Philipian warmth. When I left in 2002 to move to Texas, my biggest disappointment was that I was leaving my Church family behind. I and my daughter (Katia) fondly remember Sundays at St. Philip's. Warm hugs and smiles, hot coffee and fresh donuts. Fr. Greg was a wonderful and honest man. He was a wonderful boss. Always on the go, Cindy and I marvelled at how he would leave to go in to rest for a while, but we would soon see his car speeding out of the lot, heading off to who knows where. He would stop on his many sojourns to talk to the women and children of the neighborhood. Always quick to crack a joke to make them smile, always willing to challenge them to their higher good. What we say as impossible, Fr. Greg always saw as possible. He showed me that love does conquer fear and hate.
I will miss him dearly. My sympathies to Maureen, Tim, Laura, Beth, Jim Smith, Cindy Boggs and all the staff, and parishioners of St. Philips. I am sorry I could not be with you this week. Know that you are in my heart and prayers.
How can I take the lessons I learned from him to make this a better world? By loving unconditionally, erring on the side of love and paying attention. Reaching out to the disenfranchised, the lonely, the poor. His favorite mottos.
Rest in Peace Fr. G. I am grateful to have had you in my life. Thanks for the memories.
We love you. Andrea, Sharifa and Katia
Andrea JeanBaptiste <ajeanbaptiste42@aol.com>
Houston, TX USA - Thursday, September 11, 2003 7:50 AM CDT
May eternal peace be yours Fr. Greg, and may your family know God's consolation and love!
Sister Jeanette Zielinski, OSF
Sylvania, OH Lucas - Thursday, September 11, 2003 7:49 AM CDT
To the family and friends of Father Greg-
Know that Fr. Greg and each of you has been in our thoughts and prayers throughout these months. What a wonderful, gifted person Greg was...and what a wonderful legacy he has left. The Staff and Students of Nativity BVM School/Biloxi, MS. Sister Mary Jo Mike (a Presentation grad)
Sister Mary Jo Mike <Smaryjm@aol.com>
Biloxi, MS USA - Thursday, September 11, 2003 6:39 AM CDT
Many have said their goodbyes and shared their love for Greg in touching words and beautiful testimonials on these pages, but I can't help feeling that his story is just beginning; that he has lovingly laid the foundation for us to participate actively in his life's work. I was looking at a photo of Greg taken in June at the back of the church where he stopped to clap and sing with the young children who greeted and accompanied him during the recessional. Though he was in great physical pain that day, he still smiled and shared a special communion with these children. If we can each set aside time from our busy lives to actively participate in the community that Greg has begun, his loving spirit will grow and flourish among us and his work will continue.
Our love to Beth, Maureen, Tim, Laura and the Tolaas family.
Tim Montgomery and family
Minneapolis, MN - Thursday, September 11, 2003 1:16 AM CDT
To the Tolaas family,
Our family extends our deepest sympathy on the loss of the most loving and charismatic priest that we have ever known. It was such an honor to have known Fr. Greg in our life. He truly made a tremendous impact not only in the Minneapolis community, but also bringing the parish of St. Philip's to life. Fr. Greg, you always have been and forever will be in our hearts. We will never forget what an amazing,caring,and loving person you were. Thank you Heavenly Father for Father Gregory Tolaas. May you rest in peace.
Richard ,Maria. Erik & Alex Balko , Alex & Maria Kapczynski <richabal@cs.com>
Rockford, MN USA - Thursday, September 11, 2003 1:12 AM CDT
As a St. Thomas neighbor, I came to love Greg's Sunday evening masses. What a rare gift he had - to make us all feel loved and challenged at the same time. In the past few years he seems to have really mastered the art of comforting the afflicted, and afflicting the comfortable...
I've been checking the site since before Christmas (my employer has lost some significant time here) and I was so looking forward to reading about his return to his home. It's hard to believe that such a bright spirit should suddenly be silent, especially when the world around us needs so much. But lord, what lessons he taught us! What a gift to have seen such passion, gratefulness, humor, energy, joy, and acceptance all bundled up in one person. He was open to all that was good and just and joyful. May his memory inspire us all to use our own particular gifts to illuminate our worlds, just as he did.
To the family and friends who cared for him so lovingly: you must be so, so sad. My heart goes out to you. Know that you sent him off well-loved. I can somehow picture Greg as heaven's greeter, showing everyone around and getting everyone situated, and you folks will get the biggest, most open-armed welcome you can imagine.
Another St. Paulite
- Thursday, September 11, 2003 0:31 AM CDT
My deepest sympahties to Greg's family and friends during this very sad time. Your courage and strength during this long road was so apparent as I read all of the entries on this site. I wish you courage and strength in the days ahead. I met Greg at UST when I was a student there, and his humanity and humbleness touched me deeply. I hadn't been to church in years before I met Greg and haven't been since I left UST, but I will never forget the gifts he gave me and how his words touched me during my years there. He was a treasure, a gift, and I will never forget him. We are all better people for having known him, and I wish him the rest and comfort he so needed.
A former UST student
- Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:51 PM CDT
To Greg Tolaas's Family:
What an incredible family you must be! - to have given birth and raised such an incredible human being. My thoughts and prayers are w/you at this difficult time. I met Greg at UST where I worked for 7 yrs. and I feel I'm a better person having known him and having experienced knowing him firsthand. You raised an incredible son. You are in my prayers during this difficult time. Thank you for bringing Greg into this world and having raised such an incredible human being...who touched so many lives.
Katy Wait <ktcavanaugh@msn.com>
Mpls , MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:14 PM CDT
To Greg Tolaas's Family:
What an incredible family you must be! - to have given birth and raised such an incredible human being. My thoughts and prayers are w/you at this difficult time. I met Greg at UST where I worked for 7 yrs. and I feel I'm a better person having known him and having experienced knowing him firsthand. You raised an incredible son. You are in my prayers during this difficult time. Thank you for bringing Greg into this world and having raised such an incredible human being...who touched so many lives.
Katy Wait <ktcavanaugh@msn.com>
Mpls , MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:14 PM CDT
To Greg Tolaas's Family:
What an incredible family you must be! - to have given birth and raised such an incredible human being. My thoughts and prayers are w/you at this difficult time. I met Greg at UST where I worked for 7 yrs. and I feel I'm a better person having known him and having experienced knowing him firsthand. You raised an incredible son. You are in my prayers during this difficult time. Thank you for bringing Greg into this world and having raised such an incredible human being...who touched so many lives.
Katy Wait <ktcavanaugh@msn.com>
Mpls , MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:13 PM CDT
I had many great years with Fr. Greg at SJV. I graduated in 1992, and greg will be dearly missed. Ad miorem Dei gloriam, Charles R. Kazmer
Charles R. Kazmer <crkaz1@yahoo.com>
johnson creek , WI JEFFERSON - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 10:47 PM CDT
Dear Beth, Maureen, Tim, Laura, Jan, Fr. Dale & All: Thank you for posting the times and locations for the visitation, Mass of Christian burial and interment. I will make every effort to attend the Mass on Friday. Please know that you all are in my continual thoughts and prayers. My heart remains heavy because of our immeasurable loss but I know all is well with Greg who is safe and secure in the loving arms of our Lord. Peace and Blessings from your Anglican/Episcopal brother, + Ron
Ron Hall <tofer@charter.net>
Eau Claire, WI - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 10:43 PM CDT
There is no more beautiful setting than the Basilica to celebrate Father Greg's life. I expect it'll be filled to the brim. And, that is simply no measure of Father Greg's reach.
While my family can not be present, as much as we wish we could, please count us among the group beyond the Basilica's capacity...perhaps a continual doubling of the count may eventually get you to the number of people who've been touched by Father Greg's spirit. Perhaps not. What a huge crowd we would make!
Our prayers continue.
Bridget (McGraw) Peller <peller6@mchsi.com>
Hutchinson, MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 10:27 PM CDT
To Greg's family -- no mention of memorials has been made in your messages. Caring Bridge certainly deserves donations as does his work at St. Phillips. And I assume Cystic Fibrosis research. Do you have personal wishes for memorials. It's certainly your choice.
A friend
- Wednesday, September 10, 2003 10:11 PM CDT
I am pastor here at St. Thomas More. Greg and I first met at the CYC in the late 70s in St. Paul. I attended St. Paul Seminary. In 1994 we were roommates in Israel through the CTU program. We were both on Sabbatical. There has been only a few contacts since. I greatly admired him and will pray for him and his family. Fr. Mike
Michael Wensing
Brookings, SD USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 9:25 PM CDT
A grateful friend (4:02 p.m. Tuesday, Sept. 9th) suggests that the beautiful people who have so cherished this website for our dear Father Greg could possibly take a moment to pause and make a contribution to CaringBridge.
www.caringbridge.org indicates that their September-October 2003 funding campaign is on ~~ their goal is $75,000 to bring them thru 2003 and into 2004.
CaringBridge was indeed a gift from God as we all walked with Greg and his loved ones during these trying times. As suggested, how lovely it would be to honor Greg with a contribution to this beautiful website that serves so many in their time of need.
CaringBridge Nonprofit Organization
4607 Beacon Hill, Suite 200
Eagan, MN 55122-2702
Another Very Grateful Friend
Minneapolis, MN - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 8:09 PM CDT
I just came home from having been away for a few days and was so sorry to hear of Greg's death. I only met him once, but that meeting was enough to tell me he was an icon of God's love. How I wish I were living in Minneapolis so as to attend the celebration of his life.......I will be with you in spirit. Thanks so much for sharing so intimately his journey of life and death. I was inspired and challenged to live the life of love Greg did each time I went to the web site. May his legacy of Gospel Love live on in all of us! My thoughts and prayers are very much with all of you!
Sue Fortier, OSB <sf977587@aol.com>
Duluth, MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 7:37 PM CDT
Sending my love, Susan
Susan Lucey
St Paul, MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 7:25 PM CDT
Greg...you are the real thing, the genuine article....a
diamond in the rough. I am sad....and will miss not having a chance to sing together again. I thank God our paths crossed in this life! To Greg's family and friends....thank-you for keeping us all informed throughout these months...know you are loved and supported and have the prayers of many, many, many!!
a friend
- Wednesday, September 10, 2003 5:49 PM CDT
Dear Beth and Jan,
Thank you so much for sharing Greg's story with us. I appreciated your skillful writing as you so faithfully communicated both the facts and the emotions of each day. It was truly a gift for all of us to stay informed.
Ruth Gaylord <ragaylord@hotmail.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 4:31 PM CDT
Dearest Greg,
You were a shining star back when you were a senior and president of my Hill-Murray Concert Choir. I remember when you sang "Prepare Ye the Way" from Godspell for the Christmas Concert. Your 18-year-old tenor voice was beautiful beyond your age and full of passion for the meaning of the text. You were called. You had charisma. And when you entered the seminary (no stumbling block was too big), more than anything, I was so excited because you would get to meet one special Dale Korogi and I knew you were destined to be friends.
From student to friend/employer/pastor/spiritual guide, you have always been there for me. You didn't always say the easy thing but you always shared the truth as you saw it and challenged me to live my life fully. You taught me to pay attention, to err on the side of love, and to act with the conviction that God's love for me was total and beyond measure.
Your spirit will be alive with us as we continue to build the kingdom at St. Philip's. You always amazed me with your ability to look straight into the hearts of your parishoners on Sunday. If my week had been a little "so-so" I knew I could count on you to get me squirming in my seat and praising the Lord with renewed heart on Sunday.
My heart is so sad that you are gone from this earth. But I suspect and even anticipate that even greater things may come about through you now. Breathe easy, my friend. Thank you. I love you.
Ruth Gaylord
Minneapolis, MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 4:14 PM CDT
To the Dear Tolaas Family & Jeanne & Jack Larson & Family,
Ever since I have heard of Father Greg's transplant surgery in July while I was on my home visit, it kept me going daily to the Internet to read and keep up with the wonderful information and updates of Father Greg's daily progress.
Thanks to you Beth & Jan for the beautiful job of sharing Father Greg's daily progress to the world on the Internet. God
bless and love you for your thoughtfulness of others.
Father Greg has been in our prayers,here at our Motherhouse of the Felician SistersChicago Province. The Sisters
have remembered Father in their prayers ang will continueto do so. I personally wish to extend my deepest sympathy
to the Tolaas Family and also to their Dear, Dear Aunt Jeanne Larson and her family.
May God's Blessings, His love & peace be your comfort not only in this time of sorrow and loss of a loved one but to be always with you all,each day of your lives. This sympathy note is also from my immediate family the Podobinski's.
I do know & understand how Father Greg has struggled & suffered fromhis birth with the disease of cystic fibrosis, but now Our Dear Lord has shown Father His mercy, compassion & love. He hascalled Father Greg to Himself,greeting him I'm sure with outstretched arms saying " Come, Welcome Father Greg, my good & faithful servant, for a job well done."
"You may enter into My Heavenly Kingdom."
May Jesus grant him His peace & eternal rest. God Bless!
Love & Prayers,
Your Cousin,
Sister Mary Peter, Felician Sister
Chicago , Illinois
SM PETER
CHICAGO, IL USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 3:00 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas family and all who love Father Greg,
I first heard of Father Greg through my niece who attended St. Thomas in the early 90's. Because of her glowing comments, I encouraged my daughter to attend the freshmen retreat that Greg was leading when she started St. Thomas in 1996. She came away from that experience a changed person. She still often refers to some of the talks he gave on that retreat. After the retreat she joined his support group for the entire year. What a blessing! His wisdom and humor were inspirations to both of us. (She loved sharing his stories with me.) I also had the fortune to visit with Greg at St. Thomas and to attend masses there and at St. Philip's. I always came away inspired.
My daughter and I have both shed our share of tears these last few days. We had prayed so often for his miraculous recovery and had talked about how exciting it would be to have him back. Yet, we know in our hearts that he IS fully recovered and that he suffers no more. Surely heaven rejoiced as he arrived.
I truly do not know of anyone who has impacted so many lives in his short 47 years. His faith,compassion and wisdom were such an inspiration to me and to thousands of others. I thank God for giving him to our world to make it a better place. How blessed we all are to have had this saint in our midst. May his spirit live on in all of us as we try to live as he did.
Susan Weberg <sweberg@ahastars.org>
Bloomington, MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 2:36 PM CDT
I was so sorry to hear of Greg's passing, although I know he is with Our Lord. I knew Greg's family from Presentation of the B.V.M. where our family went to school. I also knew Mary & Greg from high school (Hill-Murray). He is a blessing in heaven as he was on earth! He is also an example of perseverance and Love...Thank You God!
Katherine A. Cook
St. Paul , Mn USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 1:53 PM CDT
Dear Friends Known and Unknown,
If this isn't too irreverent a comment at such a time : I can see Fr. Greg pausing in his tour of the Golden Streets to do a little dance step with his loved ones and friends. It is very probably a cha-cha. Thank you, Beth. That was a wonderful description. May his love continue to sustain you all until you dance it together again.
A Voice from the Sidelines
St. Paul, MN - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 1:41 PM CDT
I am profoundly sad at the news of Greg's death. I have had people praying for him, as I have, hoping against hope. Greg leaves us as a bright shining light that will not go out - he shines in the memory each of us have of him. I revisited the pictures of the 30 day retreat I shared with him. I have a very fine picture of him - a kind of portrait that will be ever dear to me because he is. I am so grateful for him. Dear family and especially Beth, I am so grateful for the message board and I hold you in prayer as you grieve the loss of your brother. Thank you.
Sr. Elizabeth Willems, S.S.N.D. <ewill74623@aol.com>
New Orleans, LA USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 1:16 PM CDT
Father Greg always gave me hope. His life was a beautiful example of how one should live. My foundest memory of him is when I was a R.A. at UST in 1995. He told us(resident advisors and others) to look at the huge Oak tree in the middle of the resident's court yard (Just outside Brady and Murray Hall). We reflected on the beauty of the tree and how it represented God's love. I have never forgotten his stories of his upbringing and the lessons he taugt. My life as well as other's lives are richer because of him. I thank God for him and all the love he has given to the world!
-UST, -class of 1996
Roy Sutherland <rsutherland1@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis,, MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 12:55 AM CDT
Goodbye Greg and Rest, our brother. You have been a brother to many, even those who heard you speak just once. We thank God that you followed your calling and in so doing touched and changed many lives. We will remember you through all that you have done and we will be inspired to continue. Through your struggle, you have taught us to never give up and to walk in the Light of God with joy and hope. We Thank God profoundly as well for your loving family and caregivers, they too have taught us what it means to love and care for someone, tirelessly, graciously and with unending hope.
- One voice like many
- Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:56 AM CDT
I never met Fr.Greg, but knew of him through our church and your wonderful daily journal. I am sorry he left this earth before we had a chance to meet, but I have faith in God that we will meet elsewhere at a different time! Until then...my sympathies to his family, church members, caregivers and all those whose lives he touched. God Bless!
Carol Driscoll
St. Richards - Richfield, MN
Carol Driscoll <carol@hmcragg.com>
Bloomington, MN USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:54 AM CDT
Dear Beth and family......Please, know that you have our heart felt sympathy and LOVE. He was so much a part of our lives, just like family. Love and Peace, From John and Rosie Mundahl and Barb Korman
Rosemary Mundahl
Maple Grove, Mn Hennepin - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:53 AM CDT
The world is certainly a less colorful place today. Greg touched far more lives than he will ever know, and we all in our own way will feel the loss for a long, long time. Greg had the special ability to take any situation, no matter how tragic it may appear, and find that tiny glimmer of hope hiding under the surface. I feel so blessed to have crossed paths with him in this life, and will continue to look to him for guidance in the future. God Bless You, Greg.
Melissa Korogi
Stillwater, MN - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:40 AM CDT
dear Tolaas family, friends at St. Philip, Dale, and Jim: Among the memories of Greg that crowd out other thoughts these days is a personal one of mine. I will never forget him at the Martin Luther King Jr. breakfast held in Minenapolis this past January. He joined Jim and I and other friends from the College for the celebration. After we finished eating (it was a good day; he enjoyed breakfast) and singing (yes, he was loud and vigorous) we lost him--he'd taken off into the crowd to find Senator Coleman and Governor Pawlenty to give them a taste of Tolaas wisdom. He told me later that he'd reminded the Senator to be a man of peace, and that the Governor should heed the needs of all persons, not just his key constituencies. Typical Greg: advocating for the voiceless, challenging the powerful, serving as a model for us all.
I suspect he is now striding the streets of heaven, breathing deeply and challenging the communion of saints to pray even harder for us--that we might continue the bold work of God in the world.
And so we carry on. Prayers, love, and peace for you all.
Anne Weyandt <aweyandt@ank.etc.mn.us>
Oakdale, N USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 11:23 AM CDT
Dear Mo,Beth,Tim and Laura, Along with the MANY others, my heart goes out to all of you. Your family is an example of courage, how to live life, and support one and other. I find myself thankful to have known Greg and all of you. Can't wait to see you all! Love Kathleen
Kathleen Dorgan
Cottage Grove , Mn Washington - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 10:56 AM CDT
i was a caregiver for anna hawkins and can ony think of the joy and blessings the caregivers recieved by taking care of her grandson.how they must delight in each others company now and we can talk with them more fully then ever before.with prayers for strength.heidi
heidi smith <heidilpn@hotmail.com>
river falls, wi - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 10:55 AM CDT
Dearest Beth, Maureen, Tim and Laura,
My heart is aching for each of you and for all of us, and for Greg - even though, as Grandma would say, he is in a better place. OK, but still...
Today I focus my prayers and gratitude on the family of Greg's beautiful, generous donor. May they know how grateful we are for their perfect gift of hope and trust, and may their example of kindness be an inspiration. They will remain in my prayers forever.
Love (and brace yourselves for all the hugs), Christie
Christie Hawkins
- Wednesday, September 10, 2003 10:15 AM CDT
My name is Peter Prusina and I am a graduate of St. Thomas (1975). I was greatly saddened in receiving the news of the passing of Fr. Tolaas. I have had the pleasure and honor of seeing Fr. Greg on only a few occassions. These normally occurred when I was visiting my daughter at UST. Fr. Greg was a gifted and passionate priest who touched my life during those breif encounters. He was a brilliant homilist, whose messages and teachings still stir within me after all these years. His passing is a great loss for the Church, St Thomas and for the many, many people he has touched. Please know that he has been and will continue to be in my prayers. I also pray for you, his family and freinds that you may be comforted in this time of sorrow.
May God bless you and keep you always
Pete Prusina
Peter Prusina
Cary, IL USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 9:27 AM CDT
Dear Beth, and all those who loved and cared for Father Greg,
I met your dear brother and friend through Father Dale many years ago when we were all young priests -- and in my trips out to Minneapolis, and some memorable days out here in New Jersey (and New York City!) when Dale and Greg vacationed -- I feel so blessed to have known such a gifted and courageous man, a dear brother priest, and friend. My parishioners have all been praying for Greg, and it will be so difficult to tell them on Sunday that the Lord has brought him home.
Caring Bridge has been just that -- and that we have all felt so near to each other, so connected throughout this long journey, is no small miracle in itself.
My heart is broken, and this in spite of knowing that the Lord is true to his word, and that we can trust his promises to Greg. With our prayers to accompany him on his last pilgrimage, he is doing just what Jesus asked: "Come to me, all you who find life burdensome, and I will give you rest."
I send along my own poor prayers for all of you. And I will join you at the Lord's Table, these many miles away, all of us gathered to give thanks for the many blessings Greg received in this life, thanks for the many blessings we received from the Lord through Greg, and gratitude, most of all, for what Jesus has done for us all in his death and resurrection.
May the Lord keep you close to his Sacred Heart in these difficult, difficult days.
With much love and many, many prayers,
Paul
Father Paul Holmes <holmespa@shu.edu>
South Orange, NJ USA - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 7:51 AM CDT
North Minneapolis and the World have lost a great friend. Greg has touched so many lives and we believe the work he so lovingly preformed at St Phillip was the great gift GOD had given him. He will be missed, but we celebrate his life. I know all the beautiful angels are surrounding him, along with his family that has gone before him. Thank you Tolaas family for sharing your brother with us, all of you are a reflection of GOD's love, your parents did everything right!!!
Lee and Maria O'Daniel
Mpls, MN - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 7:31 AM CDT
Dear Beth and the rest of Greg's family
This is a WORLD loss and everyone will miss him. Thank the Lord he dosen't have to suffer
anymore. Father Grenier in Above Rocks, St. Mary's Mission, Jamaica will be saying morning mass
for Father Greg today Sept. 10th.
Love Louise Reiman
Louise Reiman
Above Rocks, St. Mary's Mission, St. Catherine Jamaica - Wednesday, September 10, 2003 6:09 AM CDT
I was fortunate to know Greg and share many interesting thoughts and dreams when we were younger. Even then, he had many insights into dealing with his illness and a zest for life despite any health problems. I never imagined that I would face a serious and chronic illness in my life but I have. his words then and now in the journal have helped me immensely. I reread the entries in the months of waiting for the transplant. It was as if he was still here ministering to those of us with health concerns to hang on, face it with courage, and not be afraid to complain a little to help you cope. and yes have a sense of humor. thanks Greg for not being afraid to share the journey complete with struggles and times of joy with so many of us.
a friend
- Wednesday, September 10, 2003 1:05 AM CDT
My prayers go out to Greg's family, friends, parish members, fellow priests and religious and to all that knew him. The loss of such a dear person is very hard to understand sometimes. I was lucky to know him just a bit and will always remember him with gratitude for the many challenging questions and thoughts he threw out--that were meant to get me and others going, to wake us up to the wonder of life. His life has raised us all. His courage was a wonder.
Cynthia O'Halloran <pumpkin54@msn.com>
Saint Paul`, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 10:25 PM CDT
I hesitated to write previously because I felt I lacked the eloquence of others. I am truly sorry that I did not write more often. Another life lesson, I guess; never hesitate. My deepest sympathies for the loss of Fr. Greg. I am one of many who never 'knew' him but knew of him and had the pure pleasure of listening to him at Transfiguration (thanks, Fr Jim) and they are moments I will always treasure. What a great gift he was (still is, will always be) to all. Thank you also, to Jan and Beth for your detailed and moving journal entries that kept all of us abreast of the goings on. I'm not sure if it's appropriate here or not, but I also want to say thank you to everyone who has ever written anything in the guestbook-you have helped me, as well as others, I'm sure, in many different ways.
Peace and blessings,
Aimee
N. St. Paul, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:51 PM CDT
My deepest sympathy to the Tolaas family. Greg was a dear friend to my sister (Colleen Lannon) before she died of CF in 1989 at the age of 27. Fr. Greg helped our family at that difficult time. Colleen had been the first "adult poster representative" for the CF Foundation, a role which gave her the opportunity to sing the National Anthem at a Twins game, the year before her death. When we were planning Colleen's funeral mass, which Fr. Greg agreed to lead for us, we asked him if we should get permission from the parish priest to play the video of her singing at the Twins game (playing a video at a funeral was pretty unheard of back then). Fr. Greg's response was "Well, there are times when it is better to beg forgiveness than to ask permission". We played the video which was very moving for everyone. He went on to give the most beautiful and inspiring homily at her funeral. To this day we have people tell us that Colleen's funeral was the most beautiful celebration of life they had ever attended. I know Colleen was one of many welcoming Greg home...and they are all breathing deeply and in peace. He is another angel (or dare I say saint?) pulling for those (like my brother Patrick Lannon) who are among us battling the disease with courage and grace. Thank you for sharing your journey. With love and sympathy, MaryKay Lannon Palmer
MaryKay Lannon Palmer <mkaylp@aol.com>
White Bear Lake, MN US - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:21 PM CDT
The passing of Father Tolaas is very sad; however, he touch the lives of many giving them hope and inspiration. I would hope his foundation and the work he did will continue and that the efforts of those whom he touched will be continued.
Bruce Colliander <Headbellringer>
St. Joseph, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:20 PM CDT
As an alum of St. Thomas, I had the great pleasure of knowing Father Greg on campus and off. I credit him with bringing me back to the church in a time when I was confused and disenchanted with the teachings. He brought me back because he was human. I remember planning my weekend to make the 6:45pm in the hopes that he was saying the mass and could not wait to hear his sermon! I followed him to St. Phillip's and was fortunate enough to see the contributions he made to the community. He lead by example and taught the kids to love and respect themselves, each other and God. His legacy reaches far beyond anyones dreams. He will always be a part of me.
God bless all of you who were a part of his life, in the beginning and the end. I appreciate you all.
A friend
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:18 PM CDT
I was tracked down yesterday deep in the Canadian Rockies with the very sad news about Fr. Greg. I finally was able to reach a spot that had Web access and read Beth's note from Sunday. My prayers go out the all of Greg's family and friends.
I first met Greg 3 1/2 years ago, joined St Phillip's Parish and have been motivated and inspired by him ever since.
In June we had dinner at the St Paul Grill and we talked about songs that inspired us and the one I chose was the Impossible Dream from Man from LaMancha. The words in that song describe him so well.
To Dream the impossible dream............
To fight the unbeatable foe.
to bear, with unbearable sorrow...
to dare where the brave dare not go....
This was his quest, to folow that star..
no matter how hopless, no matter how far...
to be willing to March into hell for a heavingly cause......
You are much admired and respected Greg-God bless you.
to right the unrightable wrongs....
Steve Schulz <stephenJSchulz@AOl.com>
outside Lake Moriane, Alberta, Canada, - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:15 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family and Parishners- I've been doing my own weeping and reading the beautiful messages of praise of Fr. Greg. My elderly Aunt once told me about God's garden of roses...He picks all kinds- some buds(babies),some fully blossomed,Fr. Greg, some old wilted and on and on. Though I have only met him twice, I feel I know him personally after following the journal and praying so hard for his recovery. Grieve you must! My love and thoughts- prayers that you can find another Fr. Greg or similar for St. Phllips. Lovingly Dee
Dee Taylor
Worthington, Mn. - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:08 PM CDT
I've left a message here before but this message is specifically for all of the caregivers and staff who took care of Greg these past months. Your dedication and epertise helped get Greg through many hurdles and setbacks. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for your part in helping to give Greg this wonderful opportunity of transplant and of healing. Although it didn't end the way we would have liked, thank you so very much
In sympathy
A Friend
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 7:23 PM CDT
Dear Beth, Tim, Laura, Maureen, Jack, Jean, Jan, Dale, Jim, Judy, SPC Staff, SPC Family, the Hawthorne Neighborhood, and friends of Father Greg.
There is a hole in our hearts right now. Right now there is a hole in the world.
And the only thing to fill that hole--to make us whole--is to give love to one another, friend and neighbor, as Father Greg taught us to do.
In deepest sympathy. In greater celebration for a Beautiful Life.
Love and Peace to my St. Philip's family. Wishing I could hug each and every one of you.
Holly Redding <hredding99@yahoo.com>
Norton, MA USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 6:57 PM CDT
We waited for a miracle - and Greg received the miracle of unending healing.
We lived through a miracle - a community of prayer and concern gathered at St. Philip's and in hospital settings where we would never have been otherwise.
Jan and Beth,will there ever be words to thank you for such perseverance in journal-keeping? Your courage made the community possible.
In the early hours of this morning I woke up suddenly, filled with a sensation of "sweetness" (which is not at all a usual state at that hour!). Greg was there, vested in a white alb, at the edge of a throng streaming toward a brilliant gate. He was radiant, smiling, waving to us to come and join him. On the other side of life, he and many others are waiting for us.
As another valiant priest once said, from the depths of another long and crisis-ridden trial, "Heaven is going to be a great party!"
There is an old tradition that those who have been through much in this life will bear the triumphant marks of their suffering in the next. They will also bear the jewels of the love and care of which they were the object. Greg's glory must be blinding.
With sympathy...prayers...admiration...gratitude.
Friend of a Friend
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 6:35 PM CDT
To the Tolaas family,
My deepest sympathy to you. Greg and I met during the time when he was on hiatus from the seminary; I was working with the college seminarians at St. John Vianney, and he came back for a visit. From that chance meeting a friendship grew (I don't think Greg let many chance meetings slide by without making another friend). Though we saw each other infrequently over the years, we always talked from the heart, and his deep-rooted hopefulness helped me get through some tough patches in my own life. I loved him for his brashness, his warmth, his humor, and his idealism. Your loss is immeasurable, but I hope you can find some comfort in knowing that he has gained everything. You are all in my prayers.
Lucy Arimond
Lucy Arimond <lucy.arimond@nativitybloomington.org>
Bloomington, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 6:07 PM CDT
I feel honored to have known Father Greg. I met him when I transferred to St. Thomas my sophomore year in the Fall of 1992. During this year I went through RCIA where I spent many Wednesday evenings learning about faith and Catholicism from Father Greg. He was an inspiration to me then and still is today. A few weeks ago I was going through papers and found a sheet of paper listing three readings he suggested I read after the death of a close friend. They are comforting to me now and I hope they will be to you too: Psalm 23, Psalm 139, and John's Gospel, Ch. 17. My thoughts and prayers are with his family and friends during this difficult time.
Siobhan Bogler <bogler@comcast.net>
Belleville, MI USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 5:34 PM CDT
I'm another person who never met Father Greg personally, but was impacted by his presence greatly. I have been following this website for over a year and was drawn back again and again to the powerfully gentle, inspiring, and uplifting journal entries Father Greg would write. His words touched me often after a long day of teaching the young children of St. Paul. I will so miss that. I can't imagine not checking in every day. But, even now, I hear the echoes of his words and I'm challenged to be more, be strong, be loving to those around me. That will be Greg's legacy - for those of us here to continue the journey. Thank you for allowing me to share his story.
Monica Fitzgerald
Maplewood, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 5:17 PM CDT
Beth, my name is Barb Peterson, I talked to you one day in the hospital on the way to the 6th floor, my husband had a double lung transplant a month after Greg. We spent a few moments talking about life in the hospital and how it felt to have someone there. Please know that Kip and I are praying for all of your family as you go through these difficult days. We both followed Greg's website as his wait was very similar to Kip's. We both are so very sorry that Greg's body could just not fight anymore. Although we have never met Greg he has had an impact on us and our journey through transplant. Please know that our thoughts and prayers continue to be with all of you.
Blessings, Barb
Barb Peterson <petersonkip@aol.com>
lakeville, mn dakota - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 4:49 PM CDT
Tolaas Family,
Our thoughts and prayers go out to you.
Chris,Linda,Lauren and Eric Thayer
Oakdale, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 4:32 PM CDT
Beth, Maureen, Tim and Laura, Aunt Jean and Uncle Jack,and all the Tolaas relatives,
We send our love and sympathy to a most amazing family. You have suffered so many painful losses of family members and you are so strong and courageous. Greg will never really be gone as he is such a part of all of you . Your dedication and caring for each other is so evident. May God bless and comfort all of you.
Sincerely, Jack and Ann Conzemius and family: John and Lisa, Nick and Julie, Pat and Adrienne and Katie
Ann and Jack Conzemius <aconz@msn.com>
Afton, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 4:22 PM CDT
And now, a pause for a brief commercial. (If it is not too offensive or inappropriate...)
How about everyone of you beautiful people taking a moment to pause, and send some $$$ to the CaringBridge, to say a concrete THANK YOU for this incredible, helpful, awesome website? Please see the main page for instructions.(Wouldn't it be so like Greg to write this?)
And now, back to our regularly scheduled entries...
A grateful friend.
MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 4:02 PM CDT
Oh beautiful angel in heaven, i did not meet you on earth but know that all of us who prayed and cried for you for the past two months know that we have an angel interceding on our behalf in heaven. God must be saying Greg you have eternity to tell me of your family and friends on earth you need not try to do it in a few days. For the family of Greg, friends, caregivers, doctors, nurses you were all in the presence of greatness and the face of God on earth. To live this world with such love what a victory. We will get to see him again and I, for the first time.
Marcelline
Castries, St. Lucia, W.I. - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 3:46 PM CDT
To Greg's family and friends: I didn't know him well, but appreciated the few times I spoke with him. He was a wonderful presence to the students at Visitation and made the liturgy alive for them. He will be missed. Marilou Eldred, President, Saint Mary's College, Notre Dame, IN>
Marilou Eldred <eldred@saintmarys.edu>
South Bend, IN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 3:44 PM CDT
To the Tolaas family and friends who kept us all abreast of Greg's progress each day, we thank you - it was our way of being able to touch Greg through you. We are praying for all of you to Greg to keep your strength up through all you have to face.
Bill & Maribeth Driscoll
New Richmond, WI USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 3:36 PM CDT
I only saw Father Greg once, at Mass at St. Thomas. I was so impressed that I lingered to shake his hand. I went away that day feeling as if I had touched the hand of a saint. There is no doubt in my mind that he has now joined the other saints in his new life. His suffering is no more. My sympathy to those near to him who will miss him.
Ann
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 3:36 PM CDT
Maureen, Beth, Tim, Laura
We are so sad! What a huge loss for us all. You are in our thoughts and prayers and have our sincerest sympathy.
Love, Maria Lee Timmy Maddi and Anthony
maria abrahamson <brownpuppy@att.net>
white bear lake , mn usa - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 3:20 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family, if I was to choose one word to describe Greg it would be "PROPHETIC". Each time I heard him preach,or share his life's story, I was reminded of the question one of Christ's disciples asked on the road to Emmaus as he experienced the powerful presence of our Lord: " did not our hearts burn within us?" With you, our hearts greive more than burn this day, yet we are confident that Greg's powerful life example will inspire many of us to live more like Greg - selflessly,lovingly,heroically,with a heart for the poor and hurting.
Bob, Kathy, Annie, Katie, Teresa, David and Maria Bernu <bob@northlandusa.com>
Medina, Mn USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 3:13 PM CDT
My sincere sympathy to all who loved and knew Greg. I never had the chance to meet him, however, I have come to know of him through my good friend Jim Smith. I know this is a difficult time for all of you, and my heart and prayers go out to you. Unfortunately, I will be unable to attend either of the events on thursday or friday, as I am a flight attendant and will be out of town. I know that Jim is delivering the eulogy, and I am sad I will not be there in person to support him. He means the world to me, so please keep a loving eye on him in my absence. I have every confidence he will shine, when speaking of Greg. Again, my prayers are with you all, and I wish Greg peace, love, and a pleasant journey home.
Love,
Craig Swygman
Craig Swygman <cswygman@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 3:13 PM CDT
Father Greg married my husband and almost 7 years ago at St. Thomas. I have for ever been grateful for his beautiful sermon that day (and at all his masses). He asked the congregation to wrap us in prayer to help us face difficult times. I wish that you are all wrapped in prayer now.
Beth Whelan <bethwhelan@yahoo.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 2:48 PM CDT
I only know of Greg through my friend Maureen. From the stories she has told of him I know he was a wonderful man. Someone truly to be admired. One who will be deeply missed. I offer my deepest sympathies to Maureen and her family.
Orville Williamschen
Lakeville, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 2:46 PM CDT
We knew Greg briefly and truly loved and respected him for his closeness to God and the beauty that he brought all his friends. My sister knew him well and we have heard many good things from her. He will be in our prayers.
Paul and Marie Pitre (Ruth Gaylord's sister & brother-in-law)
Markesan, WI Green Lake, WI - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 2:46 PM CDT
I am stunned by the news of Greg's death and agree with one writer who says we weren't prepared for this but Greg was. Just when I think words cannot express the sadness and the joy, I read the entries here and find eloquence and comfort. As I search for meaning in this passing, I realize that perhaps the purpose of these months was to bring us together in prayer and united love and respect for Greg. This website has truly been sacred ground. I hope this space will continue in the upcoming months, that we might find it a place for consolation and remininiscence. I was Greg's teaching partner at Nativity for that wonderful year with first graders and am delighted to hear from some of you. Look where he's taken that magic carpet now!
Carole Koch <cjkoch@stthomas.edu>
White Bear Lake, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 2:44 PM CDT
Thank you Father Greg for "touching" me in a spirtual way that I have never experienced before. Everything about him was inspiring - his Masses, the homilies, and the wonderful feeling he was able to instill in you while attending a Communal Penance. I feel very fortunate in experiencing Father Greg in my lifetime.
Mary LaDuke <Mariduke2@juno.com>
Minneapolis, Mn USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 2:26 PM CDT
Father Greg married us almost 20 years ago at St. Richard's Church. As we waited for my husband's annulment to go through, Greg was patient, kind and supported us with never ending understanding. He shared our frustration of waiting to hear from Rome and was not only the person who would marry us but he became our friend for years to come. He will truly be missed, but he made his mark on so many people's lives that his spirit will live on forever.I have a book entitled "God Calling". The entry on Sept.7th was titled "Everlasting Arms" In part it reads, "Man, in his trouble and difficulty, needs nothing so much as a refuge. A place where none and nothing can touch him. God is our refuge and nothing can make you afraid. Everlasting arms...so untiring..so safe..so sure.." How appropriate for the reading that day. I wanted to share it with you. Sincerely, Darlene Hafner
Darlene Hafner <dmhafner@yahoo.com>
Bloomington, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 2:11 PM CDT
I may never know another soul as heroic as that of Greg Tolaas.
Here is a man for whom simply living was a daily challenge, and yet had more life to give than many of us would dare to.
Here is a man who did what he wasn't supposed to, who baffled his physicians, who delighted in making laughter, who left behind comfort for challenge; who challenged himself, his friends, at times the very laws of physics, all in the name of God and life and joy.
Here is a man who barely had the breath and yet could speak like a poet, preach like aprophet. A man who thanked God he could walk, but preferred to run.
And now he runs straight to God's own heart, and I'll look for him there.
Kevin Murphy <kwmurphy@mn.rr.com>
Bloomington, MN 55437 - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 1:18 PM CDT
To all those Father Greg has touched,
It is truly amazing to see the number of lives Greg has touched. I feel great honor and pride to have known Father Greg, he was definitely a remarkable human being. His presence will be deeply missed.
Our thoughts and prayers got out to the Tolaas family and all the lives that Greg has touched and blessed.
Mike and Natasha Snyder <mnsnyder@peoplepc.com>
Cottage Grove, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 12:45 AM CDT
It was my hope that Greg would become "guru" priest to seminarians to broaden understanding of priest and priesthood as he seemed to. I ask now for that guidance through his prayer in the presence of our Living God.
S. Kerry O'Reilly
Minneapolis, - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 12:39 AM CDT
I was in the first grade class at Nativity when Fr. Greg taught for one year. Although he wasn't my homeroom teacher he made a significant impact on my life...later he said mass at our high school graduation mass. How ironic that he would be a part of my beginning of school and the end. He will be dearly missed by all but he will be a significant contribution to heaven.
Jennifer (Olin) Wilhelmy <mmmwilhelmy@aol.com>
Little Canada, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 12:36 AM CDT
To Family and Friends of Father Greg’s,
I met Father Greg about 30 years ago at the home of some friends and neighbors. Later I was to learn he was at Nativity of Our Lord where he was teaching the first graders. My first grade daughter was in awe of Father Greg and Father’s “magic carpet”. Later when I was with Catholic Digest we ran a story on Father Greg. It seemed as if everyone knew Father Greg. Father Greg you touched so very many lives. Thank you for touching ours. Father you will be missed but never forgotten. Prayers are with your family.
Marge France <franceair2@yahoo.com>
St. Paul, MN Ramsey - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 12:33 AM CDT
I am at a total loss for words. Greg was one those people that I always assumed would always be there-I know that he will still be with us - no soul that amazing ever goes away completely. I feel honored and blessed to have known him and to witness the joy and grace that he shared with everyone whom he touched. Truly a giant among men and a hero to me personally-to witness his life and the way he so bravely lived it gives me much strength and hope for which I will treasure always. I hope the thoughts and prayers of all provide some element of comfort in this truly tragic moment in all of our lives.
Dennis Lickteig <DennisLickteig@msn.com>
Concord, CA USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 12:27 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Fr.Greg has been (and always will be) an inspiration to me. He was an extraordinary person and I feel blessed to have known him.
~~~~~
Some people come into our lives and quickly go.
Some people move our souls to dance.
They awaken us to understand with the passing whisper of their wisdom.
Some people make the sky more beautiful to gaze upon.
They stay in our lives for a while and we are never ever the same.
A friend
St. Paul, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 12:16 AM CDT
Dear family and closest friends of Greg,
We grieve with your over the lost of your dear brother and close friend. Although we were away from computer and phone for the weekend a friend called from South Dakota to share the news of Greg's death. Earlier that morning the group we were with prayed for "whatever Greg needs" this day. When we heard the time of Greg's death we recalled seeing an Eagle passing overhead about that same time...we liked to think that it was Greg's spirit freed and soaring over and around us. Thank you for sharing Greg's journey with all of us in such an intimate way these last several months. What a legacy Greg has left to all of us to not only live life to the fullest in greatfulness and gratitude but also to serve one another with a compassionate heart. You remain in our hearts and prayers during this time of mourning and celebration of Greg's life.
Wayne and Phyllis Olson <polson@lssmn.org>
Richfield, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 12:06 AM CDT
Dear Mo, Beth, Tim, and Laura,
Our hearts are aching, but we know our prayers weren't ignored. As we prayed for Greg and his healing, God listened but in his all knowing wisdom, came up with a better plan for Greg...eternal rest and peace with the Lord and his Bessed Mother. Our love, prayers and hugs are yours any time of the day.
Mike, Jan, and Cate Carver
North St. Paul, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:58 AM CDT
My name is Jolene France and I grew up in St. Paul MN, and attended Nativity of Our Lord. Father Greg was one of my 1st grade teachers. I'm now 31 years old and was informed by my Mother of Father Greg's illness. The first thing that came to mind was "the magic carpet". Father Greg had a emerald green carpet in his classroom at Nativity. When it was time to get the attention of 20-30 6 and 7 year old, which I'm sure was a challenge, all Father Greg had to say was "It's time to sit on the magic carpet". He had all our attention, all of us children stopped talking and listened to what he had to say. Sometimes it was story time, sometimes we were going to an event or on a fieldtrip and this was his opportunity to review things with us. He kept us "in line" without having to be strict. I attened Cretin-Derham Hall Highschool and occassionally would run into Father Greg at one function or another. My sympathies go out to the Tolaas family and all the people that Father Greg touched, you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Father Greg, you will always be remembered fondly and you will be missed....
Jolene France
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:53 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family & Friends:
Please accept my most heartfelt sympathies on the loss of your Brother, & Dear Friend Greg. We all lost a Hero on Sunday Afternoon. I know Father Greg thru Transfiguration parish, and remember him for his wonderful homilies. I have been following the updates and saying prayers daily since early July. Thank you for sharing with us his daily challenges and triumphs. His faith will live on in many of us. I will only need to remember Father Greg's daily battles, to put my own life into perspective. Saturday nite at Tranny, we sang the David Haas song, You are Mine...it continued to run thru my head all night Sunday and Monday after reading of Father Greg's Death. I will remember Father Greg every time we sing...
Do not be afraid I am with you, I have CALLED you each by Name, Come and follow me, I will bring you home, I love you and you are Mine.
Father Greg you are Home, but your legacy will continue here on earth.
Joyce Jacobsen (tranny ) <booshadow@msn.com>
Oakdale , Mn Washington - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:31 AM CDT
Tolaas family,
My prayers are with you all at this time of loss. Our loss is Heaven's gain! I praise God for Greg and his life and Christian example here on this earth. Know and believe that our world is that much better for Greg's constant and tireless minsitry to others. I am sure your brother Greg would be the first to say that through the years the love, companionship and encouragement you all provided made his ministry that much more powerful! I will try and make the visitation Thursday and am praying for you all as you remember and celebrate Fr. Greg's life, minstry and mission. Know and believe that he is resting in the arms of our Savior and Lord, our God and that there is no more pain, sorrow or tears...all is good in God's love and peace.
Steve Gallo <Gallofamily@usfamily.net>
Mahtomedi, mn Washington - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:20 AM CDT
We know heaven will be brighter with Greg's presence. Unchangeable plans will keep us from being physically present for the visitation and burial mass, but everyone in the Tolaas family and the St. Philip family will be in our hearts and prayers over the next few days.
Jim and Mary Cavanaugh
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:14 AM CDT
My heartfelt sympathy to all of you. Greg was such a wonderful inspiration to many. I haven't seen Greg in ages but I have fond memories of high school years and our youth group at Presentation. The lives he's touched are such a tribute to how he lived his life to the fullest. I feel blessed to have been touched by his life and his many talents!! You are all in my prayers and thoughts. May your wonderful memories bring you peace and smiles!
Maureen McGee <maureen.mcgee@fvcc.roseville.k12.mn.us>
St. Paul, MN Ramsey - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:14 AM CDT
dear ones of st.philip --- greg's caregivers, family, friends and all others who knew greg in any way and i'm sure there are SO many. thank you all for your ways of caring and reaching out to greg and others. this is a sad time. but it is also one of rejoicing and hope...rejoicing that greg is now seeing that beautiful face of god that led him on in this life and into the other side. peace to all of us. sr. suzanne
sr. suzanne homeyer, vhm
minneapolis , mn 55411 - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:08 AM CDT
My sympathies to Maureen, Tim and Beth. Although remembering Greg and all of you sympathy is probably not the word. I grew up with you on Stanford and Cleveland. I remember Greg even then as a witness to all I believe to this day is the greatness of the Catholic Church. Greg will be missed by us all. I will be praying for all of you in this time,but know that Greg is in heaven and finally free of the many illnesses. I thank your family and Greg for the strong faith influence you had on me.
Lori Fonfara Engel <ltengel@earthlink.net>
Roseville, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:08 AM CDT
I read about Father Greg in the Minneapolis paper and have been following his and your journey through the website. I have been touched by his and your faith and the ability to so beautifully express it. I smiled when I saw Kelly and recognized that as our connection, since we have always had Springers. My sympathy goes out to all of you, family, friends and parishioners. I wish I would have had a chance to meet him personally, but he still touched my life.
liz hoff <lizibet@702com.net>
Breckenridge, mn usa - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:08 AM CDT
Dear Maureen, Beth, Tim, and all members of the Tolaas family, as well as St. Phillips' Parish Family. My sympathies on Greg's death to this world. But what wonder and suspense as to his happiness now with God and all in heaven, especially his Mother, Father, Sisters, Grandparents, etc. Thank you so much for your daily messages. It was like seeing and listening in to the sufferings of a living saint, a saint peacefully resigned to his destiny. Prayed Mother Teresa's little prayer for him whenever I thought of him daily. Maybe one day we will be praying to him. Sincerely, Joan
Joan Seifert <rivergal@fallsnet.com>
Little Falls, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 11:06 AM CDT
Greg,
I'm so glad that Peg and I had the chance to know you for so many years. We watched one-another mature in so many ways and I still see your smile, feel your hug, and I hear your smart remarks about my days in the military.
Thought's of the joy you must be experiencing with your mom, dad, grandma, Mary, and Patty help me to realize that I will someday again enjoy your music, humor, and company. Like so many others you always made me feel like I was someone special.
I will miss you "Greg." My heart and prayers go out to Tim, Beth, Maureen, and Laura.
Bernie Flicek <Flee2552@aol.com>
St.Paul, MN Ramsey - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 10:52 AM CDT
In the middle of preparing dinner for my family yesterday afternoon, I heard the terrible, terrible, news and was immediately filled with such great and overwhelming sadness. I could not stop crying, and I am not one of you who have been fortunate enough to know Greg for many years or all of his life. I have probably spent a total of six or eight hours with him as one of his many caregivers over the past few months, but the first time I met him I knew he was one of very few incredibly special people God sends to us as a blessing on earth. It is only now, that I find out the various ways his life has touched and changed others. So, as I wiped my tears and watched my children play joyously and innocently in the backyard, I understood that the beauty and truth that lives in them, is truly the spirit of Father Greg and what he brought to all of us who were blessed with his presence, even if for a short time. Thank God for you Father Greg, our lives are richer for knowing you.
anonymous caregiver
MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 10:44 AM CDT
it has been such an honor to spend some time everyday with you, greg's friends, with your candid andhonest journal entries about how he really was doing-and this overwhelming love which escorted him more fully into God's very big heart. Though i have not seen greg is several years, my tears at his loss and his life of determination and suffering always awakened in me what a full life could look like. Such a big personality. I hope yo will continue to write about the wake and funeral and how you are these days, and the days following. thank-you. i will be as close as i can be with you from chicago
jennifer corbett
chicago, il - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 10:31 AM CDT
Thank you Greg, for your presence in my life. Your wonderful homilies, the way you live your life, the words you spoke, challenged me to live a life of the Gospel. You truly lived Jesus, without mentioning His name. Your leadership was that of servant. For that you will be missed.
You were my hero. I pray that I can be as successful in life as you have been. Your success was not measured by money, possessions or worldly goods but by the lives you touched and the lives you brought to the heart and love of Jesus. In the end, this is true success. I pray we all learn that lesson of life by your marvelous example. Your legacy lives on. Your smile lives on. Your words of comfort lives on. Your compassion for the less forunate lives on. Your love for all of God's people lives on. And your grace in the face of pain lives on. I am grateful to God for placing you in our midst on this journey called life. We have been touched by you and we will never be the same.
May you rest in peace in the arms of your God whom you proclaimed as a lover for ALL of Humankind. May your spirit remain with us, to challenge us to live a life true to the Gospel. Peace to you my friend.
Stanley H. Brown <stanleyb@mpls.k12.mn.us>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 10:28 AM CDT
Prayers and Love to all of those so dear to Greg. "You Light Up My Life..You give me strength to carry on" This has been keeping me going as I go about life since Greg entered my life several years ago when he visited Tranny for the week end Masses. His message to us was one of Love, Compassion and Humor. I was fortunate to attend Mass later at St. Philips. When I greeted him after Mass, his response was "Thank You Darlin" along with a neat peck on the cheek. How many more of those peck he must have given! I shed tears of sorrow at Gregs passing but also tears of joy at his being free of pain and the suffering he endured , all for us! If we believe that in Heaven, there are many mansions, I'm sure Greg has "hit em all" by now. My Prayers to all of you, his family and those close to him. Elaine T.
Elaine A. Throener <eathroener@msn.com>
Faribault, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 10:06 AM CDT
Father Greg -- what an ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL soul. I am honored to have known him ~ and my thoughts and prayers are with the Tolaas family.
lynn merkling <merkling@carlsonsoldo.com>
White Bear Lake, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 10:04 AM CDT
God bless Greg! I am forever thankful that he played a role in my life and in the lives of so many. The world was a much better place with him in it. I can only pray that all of us who have been inspired by him can carry on his work.
Chuck Tombarge, UST '95 grad <tombarge@earthlink.net>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 9:54 AM CDT
This quotation seems most appropriate for such a loving and loved man as Father Greg.
"And when he shall die take him and cut him out in little stars. And he will make the face of heaven so fine that all the world will be in love with night."
Sheila Dols (as Ascenion parishoner)
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 9:54 AM CDT
What an inspiration Fr. Greg was to all those who came in contact with him. I will remember him as a perfect example of living positively, in the moment.
Jill Klein Geronime
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 9:52 AM CDT
Dear Beth, Tim, Laura, Maureen, Jack, Jean, Jan, Dale, Jim and Judy,
We lost our Superhero on Sunday, but I guess his work on this earth was complete. It was time for him to hang up his cape. He sure did his fair share of fighting crime and injustice during his 47 years here. Now if we all step up to the plate and do just a little bit more, we will honor him and his memory. He was bigger than life itself. I was not prepared for this, but I know he was, which gives me a lot of comfort. I love you all and thank you for being his faithful sidekicks. Let's all hang out in the peace garden soon, so we can toast Greg with a Christian Brothers. He would appreciate that.
Love, Patsy
Patsy Ryan <pipespatsy@aol.com>
Lakeville, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 9:42 AM CDT
I am Ruth Gaylords sister in LeCenter,Mn. I knew Fr. Greg through my beautiful sister. I feel your loss also but I know we all have a St. Greg in heaven. God Bless You All. Joyce Traxler
Joyce Traxler <jjoytrax@frontiernet.net>
LeCenter LeCenter, , MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 9:35 AM CDT
Saint Gregory...the great...
I have spent much time in these last days looking for you, Father Greg. I re-read your letters (I saved them all). I look at the pictures of you in my living room. I try to recall the exact words of your homilies. And I am overwhelmed by your spirit. You could not have packed one more ounce of life into your 47 years! I read the messages on these pages and marvel at the number of lives you touched... amazing, in life. Amazing, in death.
The night before Greg left, I was passing through our church when I decided to backtrack, long enough to say a quick prayer before the Tabernacle. But I found I had no words. So I sat in silence listening to my own quiet sobs. The church was dark and empty except for me and the flicker of vigil lights. But when I looked up, I saw something -- a vision? an optical illusion? the movement of an angel? -- I know not what. But I knew I was not alone and I knew my tears were for Greg. And I know that a child would trust what she saw. Comfort. Our God does not abandon us...
I want to take a moment to thank everyone who has written a prayer in this guestbook. You have strengthened ME and I will be forever grateful.
Just a few days ago, Beth wrote about miracles -- "What a moment it will be." And indeed what a moment it is. We prayed him Home.
He changed the world...and he still found time for me. I will never forget the day he wanted to show off his new Summit Avenue house... how he effortlessly lifted me out of my wheelchair and carried me across his threshold. I remember how we laughed at the irony that day... love has so many faces and laughter is surely one of them...
A special thank you to Father Greg's family for your extraordinary grace. Your faith is tremendous. And thank you for being there to hold Father Greg's hand for the thousands of us who wanted to.
I hold you in the highest esteem.
God's peace, Megan
Megan McGraw <meganmcg@hutchtel.net>
Hutchinson, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 9:33 AM CDT
My deepest sympathy to family, friends, and the parish of St. Philip's upon the death of Fr. Greg. I know from my association with members of the parish how much he was loved by family and friends. He was a great supporter of our mission in San Lucas Toliman, Guatemala and a good friend to Fr. Greg Schaffer and the people there. I will keep all of you in my prayers. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time but yet a joyous time knowing he is with our God.
Kathy Huebert, Administrative Assistant, San Lucas Mission Office <khuebert@dnu.org>
New Ulm, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 9:32 AM CDT
I did not have the pleasure of meeting Fr. Greg in this life, but I do so look forward to meeting him in Heaven. Reading of his life has shown a great example of how to live to serve God. I offer my condolences to those who knew him and are now seperated from him for a time; and celebrate with you the knowledge of where he is now. May God bless you and give you peace.
Mike Mays <Mike.Mays@orst.edu>
Corvallis, OR USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 9:19 AM CDT
In sharing the news of Greg's passing with a friend who also knew him, she responded, "Such a powerful spirit could no longer be contained in a shattered body and so it just had to break free." I think that's a fitting illustration for his departure. Greg and I shared many family stories together since we became friends in Guatemala and so my heart and thoughts and prayers go out to all of the Tolaases, the Larsons, and to my friends Jan and Jim, and to Dale and to Judy. Thank you all for you constant loving care of Greg, especially these last two months and for keeping us informed of all his progress. May you find strength in his memory.
With deepest sympathy and warmest memories,
Kay Yanisch <kyanisch@americas.org>
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:59 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas family,
I am so sorry to hear the loss of your brother, priest, and friend. I continue to pray for all of you during this difficult time. I am fortunate and honored to know Greg and all of you. He was a great christian that we all should be so very proud of. I am sure he is smiling and singing with everyone in heaven. He surely earned his mansion in the sky. May God bless you all.
All my love,
Lynette (Lais)DuFresne
Cottage Grove, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:58 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family and Others,
I heard the news of Greg's death early yesterday morning via KARE TV. I am so sorry. My day was colored with thoughts and memories of Greg. We met at the CYC when he was about 18. What a gift he was to my life. His voice in song raised my spirits. Greg did love tremendously. I will remember him fondly. I will cherish memories shared with him before and during his priesthood.
To all of the Tolaases: you are brave, loving people. God bless you now and forever. To Maureen and Beth, a hug over the wires. Take care of yourselves. You have taken good care of Greg! To Dale Korogi, I will never forget our time in Omaha for the ordination of our Omaha friends.You have been a faithful friend through good and hard times. Jan Kormann, take care. I am thinking of all of you. Patrice and Mary, my consolation. Your hearts must hurt these days. Peace to each of you!
My Love and Sympathy,
Mary Connelly, CSJ <mtccsj@aol.com>
St. Paul , MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:53 AM CDT
I just found out and my heart is breaking, and I don't understand. How so very lucky for any of us who knew him however little or much. The impact he made was truly amazing just by his being. My prayers go out to his family, parish.........and Kelly......
Barbara Fenton (from Tranny) <Skatersmom12@aol.com>
Woodbury, Mn USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:39 AM CDT
I have not written before but I have visited the site regularly.I've been praying for healing for Greg during this time and Sun. it came in a fulness of life. What a loss all of you must be feeling and at the same time a gratefulness for the gift of his life and presence among you. My prayers now continue for all of you as you grieve and live these days.
Mary Rivers
Bloomington, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:28 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family,
My heart is heavy with grief at the passing of Fr. Greg. Another star has been added to the heavens. Greg always had a smile in the face of sadness to help everyone through their difficult times. He seemed to add sense and purpose when nothing else mattered. His direction and leadership regarding what really matters in life made us all take a step back and look at the big picture. CF takes your energy, stamina, even your spirit at times and it was difficult some days to get back on the right track. Little everyday problems,daily tasks and setbacks become minor when CF is staring you in the face daily. Fr. Greg handled it, not only for himself but every CF kid he knew, along with countless others with problems. Your family must be so proud of him. One of the best was taken from us and now we have to cope without him. The lives he touched are many and I will never forget what he did for our family and our daughter Michelle. He was at her side after she died at the age of 18. He spoke at many visitations and held many funeral masses for his CF friends and family. Shellie wanted him there and he was. As Fr.Greg passed from his life here on earth, I am sure all of his CF kids along with his wonderful family welcomed him to his eternal reward with GOD. Dear Greg, you are in my heart and prayers and we all miss you so. Give Shellie a hug from us and enjoy what you so deserved, freedom from all pain and suffering. Love and prayers for your family. The Todds (Bill, Jeanne,Cindy, Patty and Billy.
Jeanne Todd <jeanne.todd@commerce.state.mn.us>
Maplewood, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:22 AM CDT
Even though I never met Fr. Greg, I am one of the many who has been touched deeply by him and by those who love him. This website became a daily gathering for an incredible community gathered in love, faith and prayer. My prayers will continue to be with Fr. Greg who can now breath deeply and with the friends and family left behind who will always carry Greg in their hearts.
Nancy Hutterer
Savage, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 8:19 AM CDT
My prayers continue for the Greg and his family at this time. God has given him many graces and blessings in his life.
I was Patti's first grade teacher and I know the pain of the family for these many years as well as their blessings they have given to others.
Sister Kathleen Skog <srkathleen@alpha.net>
Brenham, Tx. Washington - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 7:56 AM CDT
Greg was an inspiration from the first day I saw him sing at SJV. His quality of voice, song and spirit seemed to be one. I know now that to be true. Thanks Greg for being a beacon of hope in the oftentimes foggy, stormy life in the Church. Your invitation to return gave me one more chance. For this I will hold you close and let you go.
Mark Makowski <mmakowski@jgic.com>
Minneaoplis, MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 7:54 AM CDT
Fr. Tolass became my friend even though I never met him. He will continue to be an inspiration to me FOREVER. My sympathy to his loved ones/
A new and everlasting friend.
MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 7:51 AM CDT
My Dear Greg,
You have added so much to my life. You have pushed me to look at so many things in a different light, to be a better Christian, a better person. It is so hard to imagine not seeing you, hearing your voice, your laughter. But I will continue to strive to be the person you told me I could be with God's help and love. When I see the people at St. Philip's, I will see your face. When I hear the kids in the neighborhood, I will hear your laughter, and when I feel life is becoming to hard to manage, I will remember the great strength and courage that you showed all of us in your life and I will know things will be o.k. You gave me many gifts Greg, but the greatest gift was showing me through your actions and your words, that God loves me just as I am. I love you so much Greg and will miss you so deeply, you made this world a better place. Until we meet again my friend.........Pax et bonum
Luchesio <StePatGris@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 7:21 AM CDT
I woke early this morning with the surest sense that Dale and Greg were downstairs at the piano, singing show tunes. I quickly realized, of course, that it was a memory--a night a while back when they sat on the piano bench and sang together as they'd done for decades. Dale, playing a lavish intro, and Greg eager to join in, cajoling his dear friend to get on with it. "I'm a singer! I have to sing!" he joked. I hope he's singing now, his breath free and easy, his spirit filled with joy.
Margaret
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 6:43 AM CDT
If we're lucky, once in our lives God brings someone into our life to show us how to live - as Jesus did so long ago when he walked this earth. Greg was that someone in my life.
What Would Jesus Do? What Would Greg Do? What WILL You Do?
When we enter this world everyone rejoices and we cry. When we leave this world we rejoice and everyone else cries.
God bless one and all.
Jo
MN - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 6:22 AM CDT
Greg Tolaas - what a wonderful gift to have "journeyed" with you awhile! What a powerful witness to the meaning and value of life you were, each and every day of your seemingly too brief life! What a legacy of faith, hope, and love, especially in the face of adversity, you have left us. Thank you for "walking the mile and bearing the load" with honor and dignity. Thank you for showing the way to so many troubled souls. Thank you for fun and joy and laughter and oh so much more! You will be missed, but certainly not forgotten.
I think you (Greg) would not expect me to close without a word from the poor little man of Assisi, Francis. These words from his well known Canticle of Brother Sun seem appropriate: " ... Praised be You, my Lord, through those who give pardon for Your love and bear infirmity and tribulation. Blessed are those who endure in peace, for by You, Most High, they shall be crowned. Praised be You, my Lord, through our Sister Bodily Death, from whom no living man can escape. Woe to those who die in mortal sin. Blessed are those whom death will find in Your most holy will, for the second death shall do them no harm. Praise and bless my Lord and give Him thanks and serve Him with great humility."
May the angels lead you into paradise, and to eternal peace!
With gratitude for your life, and in love,
Kay Pelletier (The Saint Paul Seminary and the University of St. Thomas) <kaypsfo@bigfoot.com>
Bloomington, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 2:56 AM CDT
To the many friends and family of Fr. Greg.
I am saddened to have heard the news of the passing of this great man, but am comforted to think that God is smiling for welcoming him home. Fr. Greg influenced my faith and personal formation and am thankful to have had the opportunity to witness all that he is. His spirit will never die and lives on in all of the lives he has touched.
May you find peace and comfort. You are all in my prayers tonight.
An admirer.
- Tuesday, September 9, 2003 1:45 AM CDT
I met Father Greg only once but I have been reading the entries here on the web site and I was getting to know him more and more by what everyone wrote. Saturday at Mass our Parish prayed for him and today WCCO,TV 5:00 news gave a beautiful tribute to Father Greg, I feel like I've know him forever. What a couragous, compassionite, loving man, he touched so many lives in so many different ways. He will be sadly missed by his family and friends and we all know he is in a wonderful, better place. Gods blesings to all of you and I send you my LOVE and prayers.
Claudette
Claudette Philbrook-Bougie <cphilbrook@aol.com>
Little Canada, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 1:35 AM CDT
Beth, Maureen, Tim & Laura
My heart broke the moment I heard of Greg's passing. He has meant so much to all of us. I will always be indebted to him for walking with me on a spiritual journey. I would also like to tell you how much I appreciate the times we've all spent together, and the opportunity to get to know you as a family.
These are such incredibly hard times. It seems that the world is never going to be the same. Greg has changed it forever. I am thankful for all those that are willing to take up the flag, and continue this campaign, moving us all a bit closer to the realization of Greg's dreams for humanity. I so clearly remember Greg saying that he wanted to be remembered as "A Man That Loved Christ" Could it be any more obvious???
Please know that Carolyn and I are available to you for anything you may need. We love you, and are praying for and with you.
Michael and Carolyn Dyrdahl <michael.n.dyrdahl@us.army.mil>
St. Paul, MN USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 1:19 AM CDT
Dear Beth, Maureen, Tim and Laura,
Words cannot express how saddened we are about the loss of your brother Greg. He will always have a special place in our hearts. We were blessed to have him touch our lives. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
In Deepest Sympathy,
Sue and Mike Petrich and family
Sue Petrich <smpetrich@aol.com>
Glenview, IL USA - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 0:51 AM CDT
Dear Greg
Thank you for your wit and humor shared across the high school lunch room table. I'm glad to have met you.
Janine LaScotte class of "74
Janine Jungbauer <lascotte56@aol.com>
St. Paul, Mn. - Tuesday, September 9, 2003 0:35 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family,
We are so sorry to hear of Greg's death. Our sympathy goes out to you and all who loved this very brave man. May he rejoice in the breath of life in his eternal home and bask in the glory of the Lord. May God's peace and love wash over your hearts and carry you through your journey. Our prayers continue for your family.
Sincerely,
The Wazlawik Family
Jenny Wazlawik
River Falls, WI - Monday, September 8, 2003 11:57 PM CDT
Six years ago, our five-year-old daughter Caitlin passed away. Her brain tumor, while an unwelcome guest into our family's plans, gave us a nudge to appreciate the simplest that life has to offer. Several days after her funeral, I found myself dong the mundane chores of life...painting the laundry room, filling the gas tank, folding the laundry, grocery-shopping. I knew that people all around us were going about their daily lives, too. It didn't exactly seem right, but that is just what we all did. Occasionally I'd be asked "How do you face each day?" I believe I always responded with "There really isn't any choice in the matter...I just do".
In the middle of last night, I finally got it. I don't have to "just do". "Just" is the wrong word. From now on, I will go on with the recognition of my privilege of having known two angels, each too briefly, and with the opportunity to go on, daily, with a heart of kindness towards all.
Thank you, Father Greg, for this revelation.
Bridget (McGraw) Peller
Hutchinson, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 11:25 PM CDT
We had a taste of Camelot. Camelot!
Now I will pray, pray, pray until I find joy and not sorrow. God Bless You, Father Greg. God bless your courageous family. Help us become more like you!
A friend
Minneapolis, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 11:00 PM CDT
Dear Beth, Tim, Laura, & Maureen,
Thank you so much for the love you shared with us through Greg. i know you will continue to carry Greg's love to us through your lives and each of us will do a little extra to love one another, the miracle continues to grow.
Mike Donahue & family <mdonahue@charter11.net>
Stoughton, wi usa - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:54 PM CDT
I have read many entries on this site where people have expressed being touched by Fr. Greg though they never knew or met him in person. They came to know him through a friend or a parishoner or a family member. They came to know him in letters on this website and in the words of others all over who were too somehow touched by the grace and spirit and heart of Greg Tolaas.
I feel very lucky to have known him, and to have memories of conversations with him while a student at St. Thomas.
Several years ago he extended his hand and heart out to me, a relative stranger at the time. He helped comfort me without meaning to. He saw into me without judgement. Gave me a laugh and a smile and a welcoming heart without asking for anything in return, except that I extend that to someone else down the line. And he never once forgot my name. He always remembered who I was, years later he knew. In a note I gave to him prior to graduation in 1997 I quoted a passage from a book. He helped me understand what it meant. It seems only fitting to share the quote once again.
"You don't get to choose. If you decide to open yourself up to life, then you must be there for all of it... So much of what goes on in life we try not to experience. You get so good at denying that you lose track of any deeper levels of living... But it's a relief not to have to fake it. All we have left now is love... Letting go this dream of existence: as husband, father, brother, son, teacher, snow shoveler, gardener. The trick is to learn to release these illusions without fear or regret. To live each day as a gift... Suppose before we are born we choose this life. Suppose it is a working out of our own acceptance. Our understanding that caring and suffering cannot be separated. All separation is an illusion. It is connectedness that makes us whole. "
[Judith Guest, "Errands"]
Thank you Fr. Greg for all of the lessons, for all of the laughs, for all of the smiles and for all of the love.
It is nearly impossible to express how much he touched us -- those who met him personally and those who met him through someone else or who met him right here on this site. But we are better, all of us, for having known this man. Do not be afraid he told me once. Do not be afraid to love.
God bless you Fr Greg. I promise I won't be afraid.
Kara Murphy <kmurphy@gabberts.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:53 PM CDT
What a joy it must have been for Greg to have such a wonderful family and such dear devoted friends by his side through all of his trials!
You all have an amazing Guardian Angel to watch over you now.... Rest in Peace Greg!
Mary Jo McCollow <timjomcc@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:12 PM CDT
Greg taught me to breathe,
and to be grateful for each breath.
He taught me to give my time
when I felt I had no time to give.
He taught me to love strangers,
and to know God's love more deeply.
He inspired me with his faith,
and he made me laugh with his irreverence.
Today I thought, "Who will teach me now?",
and Greg answered, "Who will you teach now?"
Adam Gordon
Saint Paul, - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:09 PM CDT
I'm not Catholic, but I thought of Greg as a friend. Someone open to anyone regardless of their faith.
Rob
- Monday, September 8, 2003 10:03 PM CDT
What a sad day for everyone--even those who did not know Fr. Greg. But through the beautiful entries that Beth added almost everyday, we got to know his struggles and his faith. I felt I knew him somewhat before his battle, through my sister's (Sr. Mary Jude) conversations. But I got to know the real person in these entries. Thank you Beth for doing such a wonderful job in sharing your brother with everyone. The world was a better place with him in it; Heaven will be a better place with him in it. Prayers go out to all his family, friends and his parishioners.
Dorothy Anderson <dotcom33@juno.com>
St Louis, MO USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:27 PM CDT
Father Greg was truly a credit to our priesthood. He made everyone who met him feel important. I'm thrilled to be able to call him friend. May he now rest in peace.
Ms. Pat Berres
Edina, Mn USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:11 PM CDT
Dearest family and beloved parish ands friends of our Beloved Greg, six years ago just before Greg came to St.Phillip's he came to our little monastery in North Minneapolis and asked if we had a bottle of wine to drink a toast to his new assignement! he was so happy to finally have an inner city parish...how we have loved to see that parish come alive under his compassionate, visionary leadership....our grief is great....the loss we feel must pale in the light of the loss those of you who were so close are experiencing....We add our hidden and simple prayerful presence as you struggle through these days....May Greg intercede for us all.
Sister Mary Frances, VISITATION, MPLS. <maryfranreis@aol.com>
MINNEAPOLIS, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:10 PM CDT
What a blessing and an inspiration it was to know Fr. Greg, and how nice it was to run into him off and on after graduating from St. Thomas. To our good friends Tim and Laura, we can only continue to offer our thoughts and prayers to such great people. We share in your loss of the gift of Greg, but take comfort in the thought of him taking deep, unassisted breaths of fresh air in Heaven.
Jim, Mary, and Shannon Heymans
Maplewood, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:06 PM CDT
Even though I know that Greg is walking the streets of heaven whole and healthy, its hard to believe that this struggle has come to an end. My deepest and heartfelt sympathies to his family, his friends, his congregation and all those who had the pleasure of knowing him. To all the cyber-prayers my prayers are with you also. When I think back on these months, not only will I remember the courageous, faithful, person with the strongest will and ability to fight back from things that would knock others completely down and out; but I will also think about how all of us came together via the internet to storm the gates of heaven on Greg's behalf. Perhaps that is one of the lessons that Greg was meant to teach all of us. The power of prayer- especially when thousands come together in prayer for the same request. May we all keep the memories and lessons we've learned in the pages of this journal and guestbook in our hearts and live our lives each day - just a little bit more like Greg would have done. To all of the Tolaas family. You're brother was the most amazing man and he touched many lives. May his spirit guard you and guide you during this most difficult time. I am sure that Greg was so proud to have each of you as family members - as you were proud and blessed to have hime as your brother. Know that we will continue his works and we will continue to Pray you Through. God Bless all.
Friend
New Hope, - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:57 PM CDT
Even though I know that Greg is walking the streets of heaven whole and healthy, its hard to believe that this struggle has come to an end. My deepest and heartfelt sympathies to his family, his friends, his congregation and all those who had the pleasure of knowing him. To all the cyber-prayers my prayers are with you also. When I think back on these months, not only will I remember the courageous, faithful, person with the strongest will and ability to fight back from things that would knock others completely down and out; but I will also think about how all of us came together via the internet to storm the gates of heaven on Greg's behalf. Perhaps that is one of the lessons that Greg was meant to teach all of us. The power of prayer- especially when thousands come together in prayer for the same request. May we all keep the memories and lessons we've learned in the pages of this journal and guestbook in our hearts and live our lives each day - just a little bit more like Greg would have done. To all of the Tolaas family. You're brother was the most amazing man and he touched many lives. May his spirit guard you and guide you during this most difficult time. I am sure that Greg was so proud to have each of you as family members - as you were proud and blessed to have hime as your brother. Know that we will continue his works and we will continue to Pray you Through. God Bless all.
Friend
New Hope, - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:57 PM CDT
We send you our thoughts and prayers during this time of loss for Father Gregg. We met him at John and Christie's wedding with his two broken arms which didn't stop him from "doing his thing." He did it well. Our prayers are with his family and friends.
Jill and Dale Turnier (sister of John Saurer) <turnier@access4less.net>
Heathrow, FL USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:55 PM CDT
What a gift Father Greg was to us. He captured my attention and my heart with his passion and faith. May he rejoice in his eternal reward.
Teresa Thein Meschini <theinmeschini@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:52 PM CDT
Our hearts feel very sad for all of you that were priveledged to have known and loved Greg....I hope that the beauty of the life he lived will sustain all of you during your loss. Know that many people are praying for all of you.
Jackie and Ray Kauth <jackiekauth@hotmail.com>
New Brighton, MN Anoka - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:42 PM CDT
Greg was one of those people who I connected with over the years...college and then on trip to guatemala where i ended up on the same plane as he was on to visit friends in houston, and then on and off again every few years. He was a bright smile and a sign of hope in a church that i struggled with and worked in and loved. he always brought a smile, and a gentle, faithful presence. my sorrow is with you who are his family and friends. his joy and faith will continue to spread. he made our world a better place.
i am comforted only to know that he is at peace and watching over us.
thank you greg. i will miss you.
Margaret Gustafson <farchant@aol.com>
St. Paul, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:30 PM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family: I am so very sorry to hear of Father Greg's death. My heartfelt prayers are with all of you during this incredibly difficult time.
Linda Pirri <l.pirri@worldnet.att.net>
St. Paul, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:28 PM CDT
In so many ways Big & Small Gregs Life Changed our world and left it a better place, and touched too many hearts to EVER be forgotten.
May you find Comfort in knowing how many people Share your sadness.
If there is ANYTHING you need Please Ask.
Thought, Love & Prayers
Anne
anne miler <amargaretm@comcast.net>
burnsville, mn - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:08 PM CDT
Family of Fr Greg, we are so sorry to hear about Fr Greg, we will continue to keep you in our prayers.
Maggie and Jack Oliver (sister-in-law of Mike Hawkins) <nana@nvc.net>
Groton, SD USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:04 PM CDT
On Sunday morning I dropped into a mailbox a card to Father Greg with a message of hope. Then on Monday morning I clicked onto the Web site and was astounded to read of Father Greg's deah. I and the Anderson family are so saddened and extend our sincere condolences to the Tolaas family and all who knew and loved Father Greg.
Rolf Anderson
Minneapolis, MN U.S.A. - Monday, September 8, 2003 6:26 PM CDT
How do you say goodbye to someone who meant so much to you? Everyone reading this knows its not easy. Fr. Greg has meant SO many things to SO many people. I've never seen someone love so much. He loved everyone, no matter your story, no matter your past.
One of the funniest things I will miss about Father is the look he would give his altar servers when they did something wrong. If you got that look from him, you better move fast and fix the problem, but you knew you'd be forgiven as soon as mass was over. I thought I never wanted to see that look again, but now I would love it.
It's hard to let Fr. Greg go, but knowing he's where he belongs makes it feel so much better. I know the first thing he did when he got to Heaven was take a deep breath and took it all in.
My love and prayers are with Beth, Jim, Maureen, and the rest of Greg's "family". I also pray for St. Phillip's and the neighborhood in Greg's absence.
Love and prayers,
Zita
Osseo, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 6:11 PM CDT
Dear Maureen, Tim, Laura, and Beth,
Our Love, Prayers and sympathy to you all in
this great loss.
Rosemary and family
Rosemary Vanda and family
Mesa, , AZ USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 5:43 PM CDT
Greg: The wind was knocked out of me when I heard the news. Although my tears stream - there is peace knowing you are free and able to praise the Lord with full gusto!
A word that comes to mind when I think of you is "stalwart" - resolute, big, strong and sturdy in your faith. I'll never forget you old friend. You are a precious gem that has added a great richness to my life. Thank you! Love you!
Marguerite Lamers <mlamers@churchofstpatrick.com>
West St Paul, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 5:36 PM CDT
Such a sad day for everyone who needs Father Greg. He is one of the most amazing people that I have met, and feel sad that I can not enjoy future times with him.
But such a great day to know that finally Father Greg is at peace without pain. He no longer has to fight for strength and life.
I feel SO blessed to have been able to know him.
BSM graduate & past member of St. Philips
Washington, DC USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 5:33 PM CDT
To The Tolaas Family and all of those close to Greg,
Our heartfelt sympathy goes out to you. It is a very sad time for many of us. Greg was a shining star who truly allowed God's light to flow through him to all he touched. He was a living example of God's love and will be missed everyday by many! We consider ourselves blessed to have known him and it was a honor for us to have him officiate and celebrate our marriage four years ago. Greg was couragous to the very end and it is a comfort knowing he is finally at peace with our Lord.
Jan and Beth, Many thanks to you for your endless work at keeping all of us informed through the daily journals.
Diane, Patrick and Anna Howard
Richfield, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 5:33 PM CDT
I was so sad to hear the news of Father Greg's death. What a wonderful man. Although he would not know even my name, he was a special man to me and my children. I was a student at the University of St. Thomas and attended mass weekly just to hear Fr. Greg's homily. He was such an illuminating man and I am so sorry for your loss!
I will be waiting to hear the news of funeral arrangements. I am a stay-at-home mom of a 1 and 2 year old, but plan on dropping by briefly with my girls. Thanks-
Jennifer Andrews-Gonzaga
Woodbury, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 5:32 PM CDT
Greg was guided by self-chosen principles of justice, human dignity and values. He obeyed these higher ideals. His highest ideal was that of respect for all people. He operated above the laws of society and believed in no possible compromise of these ideals and values.
I get a glimpse of God when I see Greg.
Steve English <whisperconference@yahoo.com>
Saint Paul, MN U.S.A. - Monday, September 8, 2003 5:17 PM CDT
So many hearts broke yesterday. Please know that our congregation keeps all of you in prayer. Linda Loving - The House of Hope Presbyterian Church, St. Paul
LInda C. Loving
St. Paul, mn usa - Monday, September 8, 2003 5:09 PM CDT
Our prayers our with Greg's family and his St. Phillps family.
Dave and Betsy Engstrom <DDEngstrom@aol.com>
Afton, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 5:02 PM CDT
Even though I have never met Greg, I felt sad hearing the news of his transition on the news last night. We have prayed for him many times at St. Stephen's. My prayers to his biological family and to all his family of friends and supporters.
Jim Hansen <Jim98bikin@aol.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 4:44 PM CDT
Family and Friends,
My husband and I first met Greg when he came to St. Thomas as the Director of Campus Ministry (1990). At that time we were students and we knew him as priest; presiding at masses, and guiding us through retreats. In 1991 we were new college graduates and we approached Greg asking him to celebrate our marriage with us at that time we knew him as counselor; guiding us through marriage prep and our wedding day of 10/19/91. In 1993 we knew Greg as supervisor; supervising Mike and I as UST chaplains and Mike as Coordinator of VIA/VISION. In 1997 we knew Greg as both friend and priest; celebrating our daughter Mikayla's baptism. Today we are proud to call him friend.
We are so proud of him and all that he has accomplished in his journey. In our minds we have snapshots of Greg from the last 14 years of our friendship. One in particular that Mike reminded me of today was his laugh, a deep heartfelt laugh.
We will always remember Greg, his laugh and his love of life. We feel so fortunate that he was present with us for so many special and significant times in our lives. Though it is hard to put into words our love and gratitude for him, please know that he will be forever in our hearts and memory.
Peace to you, his family and friends as you continue your individual journeys. Know that you are held daily in our thoughts and prayer.
Theresa, Mike, and Mikayla Klein
St. Paul, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 4:35 PM CDT
Dear Beth, Jan adn Dale,
Greg and all of you fought a great fight, one that leaned on our rock- God, and called on us, a broad community of believers and followers, to come together in prayerful support of Greg, of you, St. Philips and the North Side.
I thank you for keeping me informed all along on this journey, a journey of hope, of faith and of love. Greg leaves behind an extraordinary vision, many warm and wonderful people, a hope for the future of many with CF, and a community that knows what it is like to be lead by a leader who lives with God in the present. Thanks again.
clarence shallbetter <cshallbetter@saintolaf.org>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 4:30 PM CDT
its looks like he is in peace.no more pain
THE CHRUCH WILL NEVER BE THE SAME
KATIA JEANBAPTISTE
HOUSTON, TX USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 4:21 PM CDT
My deep prayers go out to Greg's family, dear friends, and his world wide prayer chain. He will be so missed. His charm and sparkle are now free of all pain and illness. Let us rejoice in Greg's healing, peaceful and energectic presence in heaven!
*****
- Monday, September 8, 2003 4:14 PM CDT
We did not know Greg well, but are close friends of his friend, Fr. Dale Korogi. In the few occasions we were priveleged to be with Greg, we were honored by his goodness, his sense of caring and loving nature. He was truly one of the Lord's angels on this earth.
Richard Fahel and Jeff Haug <ragfahel@yahoo.com>
St Paul, - Monday, September 8, 2003 4:04 PM CDT
Dear Beth and Jan,
I read with great great sadness our final passage
of our daily ritual on Gregory's progress. I made
copies to put into my sons' memory books and will someday
in my writings share his walk through life with them.
I have raised my sons to walk with the people, to help
when help is needed and to attack each day as though
it is our last....
I'd like to thank the two of you for your beautiful
writings each day you took fingers to keyboard and
let your hearts guide your beautiful messages. While all of us would have loved to have seen him one more time I
am grateful that your words alone met my one last
request. From the day I started reading I felt like
I was in the room with him.
It has been 8 hours since I have learned the news and it has not quite sunk in. He was bigger than life and it is hard to believe he is not here with us .... but very happy he has been met by 'Mom, dad, Patti Jo and Mary'.....he missed them so.
My deepest sympathy goes to both of you and the
entire Tolaas family. For Beth, the devoted sister
who came each day to support him in his fight to
live and to share in those upbeat moments when
a good day came by.
Thank you for being the wonderful sister and friend...
and thank you again for helping us through this very
scary process. I will be thinking and remembering
all of you often. Bless you all.
Ann Boulay <ann_boulay@yahoo.com>
- Monday, September 8, 2003 4:03 PM CDT
To the Tolaas family and friends, especially Jim:
We didn't know Fr. Greg personally, but were gifted by his presence while we were members of Transfiguration. I feel privilaged that you allowed us to be a small part of the roller coaster ride, with your wonderful journal entries. The entries in the guestbook show what an impact this wonderful man had on those he touched. I was shocked and full of sorrow, yet relieved and comforted when I heard of Fr. Greg's passing right before I was to deliver my lecture this morning. I now understand why I was drawn to the prayer I had selected yesterday to open the class with. It contained the line "Bless us this day with your peace and help us to share that peace with all we meet this day." May we all be at peace and rejoice!
Tony & Darcie Sees <tdsees@valyou.net>
Menno, SD Yankton - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:59 PM CDT
Father Greg so deeply touched our lives. When he spoke, he brought God's message to us in a compelling and unbelievable way. He would give homilies to 600, and yet speak individually to all 600.
We are deeply saddened by the loss of Greg, and throughout today thoughts of certain moments with him or homilies he'd given have been running through our minds.
We are saddened at the loss of our spiritual leader, and our hearts go out to Greg's family and his incredible team at St. Philips.
Yesterday, this world lost a living example of unconditional love and fealess tenacity. Today, the world just isn't the same.
May you rest in peace, dear friend.
Tom and Mary McGill <tommarymcgill@hotmail.com>
St. Paul, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:32 PM CDT
Thank you Greg's family and friends for sharing with us the journey Greg had these past months. Our prayers now are for you, his St. Philips family and all friends. Greg's memory will be an inspiration to all of us to Live Jesus.
Pat and Karin Mascia <www.KarinMascia@earthlink.net>
Roseville, Mn USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:29 PM CDT
Dear Family and Friends of Father Greg, I'm so sorry to hear of Father Greg's passing. I know how wonderful he was because of Ginny Kelley and Family. I'm glad I was able to meet him and know how kind and special he was to Ginny and her Family. He was a very special person. My sympathies to all. Love, Barb Bisbee
Barbara Bisbee <Busybiz@aol.com>
Mt. Prospect, IL USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:24 PM CDT
MANY people are mourning the loss of a truly remarkable person - the world was a better place with Fr. Greg in it. He performed the ceremony at our wedding 3 years ago tomorrow, my husband grew up knowing him, he became a part of the Korogi family and made a lasting impression on my family the Wilkie's. I had more people come up to me after our wedding telling me how wonderful Greg's homily was. To this day we still receive compliments on the beautiful words he spoke that day. I will forever be amazed by how many lives he has touched and what a wonderful and genuine person he was. I feel blessed to have known him and I feel stronger knowing I can now turn to him with my prayers. The Tolaas family is in our thoughts and prayers. Thank you for sharing Greg's journey with us each day. It was comforting to hear your words each day not knowing if/when we could see Greg again. He will forever be missed!!!! Always with love, Katie Korogi
Katie Korogi <katekaluza@hotmail.com>
Coon Rapids, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:22 PM CDT
this morning my heart is heavy and my eyes fill often with tears. how i and others will miss Greg. i can't begin to know what it is to no longer have a brother that i so loved. my prayers and thoughts continue to go out to the Tolaas family. what a gift and inspiration this man,Greg, has been to so many of us. he will never be forgotten. God's peace to all.
peg flicek
maplewood, mn usa - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:19 PM CDT
Dear ones:
Thanks be to God for Fr. Greg's priesthood --- it has been a blessing to a number too numerous to count.
Thanks be to God for the Communion of Saints --- from where Fr. Greg continues to LIVE.
Thanks be to God for your faithfulness --- in the hours, days and months you served us who prayed and watched.
With prayers for your healing and peace,
Cy Laurent <cdlaurent@qwest.net>
Eden Prairie, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:13 PM CDT
I was so sad to see and hear the news on Father Greg today out here in Seattle. He was a neighbor and friend while growing up, and I was always delighted to follow his life and marvelous career as a parish priest. I know he had a love of people and his ministry always reflected that. Greg represented everything that is good, decent, kind, and loving. My deepest condolences to all of the Tolaas family and to the parishioners of St. Philip's church. We have lost a really great man!
Larry Corrigan <larry.corrigan@metrokc.gov>
Seattle, WA USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 2:59 PM CDT
I am so sorry to hear of Father Greg's passing. He was a marvelous person. I attended a retreat at the Gainey Center in Owatonna (Univ. of St. Thomas retreat center) and he was the spiritual director. Both my husband and I shared some spirtual stories with him and he was very inspiring. He was truly loved by everyone at St Thomas.
Carole Bagley
Stillwater, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 2:59 PM CDT
today is the first day I have looked at Greg's web page and guest book, it is the day after he died. I want all who never knew Greg to know just how wonderful,kind,loveable,funny,down to earth,person he was, and how much so many people, like myself, loved him. Today is a very sad day for me. One of my favorite people has died, and my heart is very heavy.But not for Greg. For I believe as he did that today he is truely whole!!! And he rejoices with God our Father in person! So, despite my sadness, I must rejoice for Greg for he is now in God's presence and now knows the answers to so many questions.So, I am also very happy for Greg who has achieved the ultimate in life: eternal life with God. Mary Jo McCracken
Mary Jo McCracken <mccrac015@umn.edu>
Mpls, mn usa - Monday, September 8, 2003 2:36 PM CDT
Reading over many of these entries brought to mind a quotation I have stenciled on a wall at home and I thought it fitting to share.
"Think where man's glory most begins and ends, and say my glory was I had such friends". William Butler Yeats
Greg...you had SUCH friends.
Colleen Millechek
Oakdale, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 2:27 PM CDT
One last passage to Greg's guestbook...
You know, I have CF and had my double-lung transplant over 9 years ago, and I have been so blessed and so fortunate that my transplant journey has gone as well as it has, but sad to say as time goes by, people (including myself) begin to take things for granted. I had gotten to a point of taking elevators instead of stairs out of pure laziness. After these months of daily reading the journal entries and then learning of Greg's passing, but more so learning of his endurance, strength, grace, and courage, I have been so inspired and reminded of how very, very lucky I am. I started taking the stairs again this morning for Greg and I will continue to do so, and each time I do, I will think of Greg and thank him and also thank our dear Lord Jesus Christ for His wonderful gifts to me...may I never take them for granted again.
My prayers go out to the whole Tolaas family and will continue to do so.
God Bless all of you!
Sandy Johnson (Driste-Seline) <SLSELINE@aol.com>
- Monday, September 8, 2003 2:09 PM CDT
Dear Family, friends, and fellow parishoners at CSP,
In the spirit of remembering Greg, how was it that at all of his homilies I felt he was personally speaking to me? I will miss his effort to help the poor, the elderly, and mostly the fact that he urged us to include everyone from every race, religion, etc. Greg, you were such an inspiration to many, more than you could ever possibly know.
Con carino, hasta lluego amigo!
Leslie Laack y familia <leslielaack@attbi.com>
Crystal, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 1:53 PM CDT
To the family and friends of Greg,
Life is not measured by days or weeks or even years but rather in moments of our lives. I only knew Greg for a brief few moments in my life, and he had as large an impact on me as anyone I have ever known. I praise and thank God evey day I can for the moments I had with Greg. From the first time I heard him speak at the CF "Breath of Life Gala" almost 3 years ago and the next day at the family conferance for CF. Greg helped me find my way back to God. As a lot of people have, I drifted to far from him and to help me find my way back, God blessed me with my own son who has CF. Greg helped me see that CF if not a curse or a burden but rather a challenge in our lives to make us stronger and grow in our faith. I have never known anyone who's faith was stronger than Greg's.
Last year we honered Greg at the Gala for all he has done for those in the CF community and for all he has done for anyone he touched. We will miss him so at this years Gala, his wit, his charm and most of all his wisdom.
I now know that miracles do happen, for God gave me the chance to know Greg, but for only a few moments, what a miracle that is!
God bless you all!!
Lou Mertz Co-Chair Breath of Life Gala for CF <loum@ix.netcom.com>
St. Michael, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 1:44 PM CDT
To the Tolaas family:
May your memories of Greg, live forever in your heart!
Linda Hemmesch <LMHemmesch1@MMM.com>
Oakdale, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 1:42 PM CDT
I remember the first time Father Greg came to Benilde-St.Margaret's years ago to say mass for the entire student body. As a young, eager student, he inspired me in a way I cannot explain in words. However watching him light up at mass at St. Philip's and listening to his beautiful voice and kind words, now as an adult who admired him, I felt it was the most beautiful sight in the world, that I can describe. Thank you Father Greg, for touching my life and the lives of many. You are a true angel of God. Peace be with you.
ANDREA SCANLON <alscan99@smumn.edu>
Golden Valley , MN Hennipen - Monday, September 8, 2003 1:40 PM CDT
Our loss is heaven's gain!
Can't you picture Jesus saying, "Come all you who labor and are burdened...I will give you rest."
Greg rests in the arms of the Lord who gave him life and now receives him in death.
May you, his family, know the peace and love of God which Greg portrayed in his life. Rejoice in his legacy!
Sister Mary Gwendolin <smgosf@netzero.net>
Columbia Heights, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 1:38 PM CDT
As I check this website daily, I am terribly saddened by the news of Father Greg's passing. With tears in my eyes, I pray Greg is finally at peace. He is a special man and will always be a part of our lives.
Anne (Sevenich) Goldstein UST '89
- Monday, September 8, 2003 1:14 PM CDT
"But the just man, though he die early, shall be at rest. For the age that is honorable comes not with the passing of time, nor can it be measured in terms of years. Rather, understanding is the hoary crown for men, and an unsullied life, the attainment of old age."
In peace, let us take our brother to his place of rest.
Fr. Mark McKercher <Frkerch@yahoo.com>
West Point, NE USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 1:13 PM CDT
My second year at UST Fr. Greg had left, I remember thinking I wish he wouldn't because he always spoke directly to me and my concerns, I knew he had a calling to go somewhere else although. I am sorry I didn't find this site until it was too late. He is greatly missed.
Roxanne McCune <rrmccune@stthomas.edu>
North Branch, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 1:12 PM CDT
He fought the good fight! He lived for this moment--to be without pain or artificial supports! He ran the race and is victorious!
God bless all of you who were so supportive during this time, we were with you in prayer!
May God give him eternal activity!
Sister Myra <srmyra@rosarycare.org>
Toledo, OH USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 12:58 AM CDT
I was so very sad to hear the news of Greg's passing. After years of floating from one church to another, Greg's warmth, compassion and ministry at St. Philip's were such a warm welcome. Each Sunday, I looked forward to being at church and welcomed by his smile! Many a Sunday, Beth and I would simultaniously run into church at the last minute..jokingly Greg would suggest from time to time that I set my alarm clock a bit earlier! These are the memories I'm holding onto- I know he's embraced by God and at peace. I am one of the lucky ones, someone who had the opportunity to know him and learn from his ministry and the way he loved life. I am greiving his passing today but loving life as he has taught us. On the way home today, I plan to stop at the Mother Cabrini shrine outside of Denver and spend special time in prayer for Greg, your family and the entire St. Philip's community. God Bless you and love you during this very sad time. Patrice Henning
Patrice Henning <patrice.henning@pjc.com>
Evergreen, CO USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 12:56 AM CDT
Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of his faithful ones. Ps. 116:15
The angels and his pasted loved ones rejoiced upon Greg's entrance into Heaven. It is a blessing to have known such a man. Greg will me missed and remembered so very well.
With love and blessings,
Frances Wiatros and Jo Ann Lizakowski and our families <chadliz@msn.com>
Oakdale, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 12:35 AM CDT
My heartfelt condolences to the Tolaas family, dear friends, parishners of St. Phillips, Kelley the dog, and this global community gathered to track Greg's progress. It is amazing that one single life can touch so many in such a short span of time. Perhaps that was God's plan all along, to show us all what dedication to God & man can achieve if talents are shared. It was evident how much this one man was loved, by those near & far.
Sherol Dubiel
Champlin, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 12:35 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas family,
Sorrow and Joy. I know when we loose someone we are so lonely for them yet so happy for them to see God. I continue to pray for your family.
Sincerely, Anne Denneen (A friend of Lori Arnolds)
Anne Marie Deneen <deneenanne@msn.com>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 12:28 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas family and friends,
I have felt an aching in my heart all morning. Part of me wants to rejoice that the pain and suffering is over, but the selfish part just wishes we had a little more time to spend with Greg. To experience his witty sense of humor, to hear his song, to have a glass of wine or simply just to sit and talk.
To Greg: I talked to Josie this morning, got a hug, and all I could say was "He wast the best!" Thank you for your love, your fight and for teaching us all to look deeper to see who we really are. Until we meet again.
Love,
Jed
Jed Hastings
St Paul, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 12:13 AM CDT
"smiling through the tears is no easier than walking tall through the rubble; but once you've smiled even when no one smiles back- you have met the world half-way."
Smile for Greg!!
a friend
- Monday, September 8, 2003 12:00 AM CDT
Dear family and close friends of Greg, in a world where one can often feel saddened by the lack of love and tenderness for one another, this graciously shared experience of profound love for one of our brothers in the shared human family,has been a gift of immense proportion. I am deeply sorry for your loss. while Greg's life takes on a new magnitude as he feels the embrace of God in heaven, may the love that has been poured out on this website also find ways to grow and extend to those in our paths. Greg's life and your deep love and faithfulness to him is a gift to have been a part of. My prayers will continue on for each of you. I thank you.
See! I will not forget you...I have carved you on the palm of my hand. Isaiah 49:15
Blessings,
Anne Marie Bartlett <ambartlett@hotmail.com>
- Monday, September 8, 2003 11:57 AM CDT
My deepest and sincerest sympathy to the Tolaas family; Greg's dear friends, Jan, Judy, Jim, Dale, Jack and Jean and to all of us who were privileged to know and love Greg during his life. He touched us with his love, his faith, his wisdom, his unending energy, his determination, his wonderful sense of humor, his life. Even though I know he is in a better place with no pain and suffering, I will always have an empty place in my life and my heart that will never be filled. I am proud and honored to have known Greg and to have been one of his friends. I will miss him terribly, forever. I have tried to imagine, over the years, how life would be without Greg. Now it's a reality and I still can't imagine how this is going to work. I wish I could think of something profound to say, but all I can do is express my sadness and grief. Peace and love to all of you...
Josie
- Monday, September 8, 2003 11:51 AM CDT
Today, at Benilde-St. Margaret's School, as 30 freshman entered my classroom, all excited and ready as only 14 year olds can be on a Monday morning, I found it difficult to share in their enthusiasm. Five minutes before the 8:00 a.m. class, I heard the news of Greg's death. My heart is heavy and I am deeply saddened. At least once a year, Greg would share his charisma, stories, embodied prayer, and honesty at mass with the BSM students, and in turn, BSM students would share their gifts with the children of St. Philip's Kids' Club. Greg will forever be remembered and loved by our BSM community. He challenged the students, faculty and staff, often with such fervor and conviction that we couldn't help but feel soulfully set afire. We WANTED to put our faith in action! Over 1100 people, the majority being the sometimes indifferent and apathetic teens, were transformed by Greg's presence and message. Not bad, Greg!
And so, we celebrate your life, Greg. We thank you for touching our lives and for being a champion for those considered outcasts. At last, you are free from pain and suffering, and are enjoying eternal life with God. No doubt, we will still experience the miracle of your spirit-- I know that you will continue to be our friend and advocate. That's what the Communion of Saints is all about.
My love embraces all family and close friends of Greg. Thank you for sharing Greg with us.
Peace and God's blessings,
May Lane-Bernardo, theology teacher <mlbernardo@bsm.pvt.k12.mn.us>
St. Louis Park, MN United States - Monday, September 8, 2003 11:37 AM CDT
Dear Maureen, Beth, Tim and Laura,
You are all so close to us in our thoughts and prayers now. In your grief, I know that you take solace in the fact that Greg is no longer fighting this disease and is now with those whom you so dearly love. What an honor it was to know such an extraordinary person, who lived each day in the service of others in spite of the difficulties he faced every day of his life. God has asked so much of your family, but has blessed you so abundantly as well. I believe that through his words and actions, Greg reflected the face of Christ to everyone he touched. What a gift to hold those memories in your hearts. And what a gift each of you were to him. He was brave and valiant in part because of the love each of you extended to him. As you pass through these difficult days, know that we are holding each of you close. We love you very much.
Jean and Dick Martens and family <jmartens@peoplepc.com>
Maplewood, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 11:19 AM CDT
Bittersweet -- Greg no longer has to suffer [like my Mom did with her emphysema] and he is face to face with our Lord. But he will be missed by SO, SO many. As I was celebrating my early retirement from 3M yesterday afternoon, little did I realize Greg was leaving us. My prayer has been that God would show me why I am fortunate enough to retire at 57 and I had planned all along that I would spend more time helping to raise money for this nasty disease -- Cystic Fibrosis [or 65 Roses as the little kids call it]. Little did I realize that he would show me so graphically how important that should be. My focus [and I'm hoping yours, too] will be helping to find a cure so that the families of Emma, AJ, Jake, Abby, Alex, Alexis, Annika, Avalon, Breanna, Carlee, Christian, Christopher, Cole, Cooper, Daniel, Derek, Dylan, Emily, Eric, Fritz, Haven, Iain, Jackie, Jamie, Jared, Jennifer, Kate, Mackenzie, Maddy, Maranda, Mikkel, Natalie, Nicole, Olivia, Rachel, Randy, Rebekah, Sabrina, Samuel, Shannon, Trey, Zachary will not have to endure what the Tolaas family has endured in the past few months. Thank you for sharing your brother with us. He fought the good fight.
Mary Mosbey -- Emma's grandma <marymosbey@hotmail.com>
Lake Elmo, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 11:10 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas family and friends, it is with deep sadness that I read your journal entry last night. God has given Father Greg the ultimate healing, our prayers are for you, who have been so faithful to him, and loved and walked this journey with him God bless you.
Mary Ackerman/parish of St. William
Fridley, MN Anoka - Monday, September 8, 2003 11:05 AM CDT
I had the pleasure and honor of meeting Greg more than ten years ago when he married one of my dearest and lifelong friends to his lovely bride. Their names are John and Michelle LeBlanc.............I met Greg again last Spring at St. Phillips. What an incredible man and family. You will be missed, more than you ever know....take care....and may your works continue by those still here.
Steve Ricard
Steve Ricard
Benson, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:49 AM CDT
I knew Father Greg when he was a college student singing at the Catholic Youth Center. I have followed his astounding life since then. And have prayed for his health and mission since then. He was truly one in a million. Your pain is finally over. May the angels sing in glory as they reunit you with your family in heaven.
Julie Balamut <jjbalamut@stkate.edu>
St. Paul, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:45 AM CDT
I heard the news of Greg's passing in an e-mail message I opened this morning from an acquaintance who lives out of town. I was so startled by the news that I got chills. I am deeply saddened for all of Greg's family and friends. I know the overwhelming grief and suffering you are experiencing. Our prayers are with you. I am also so very grateful that God has taken Greg from this horrendous suffering. As we watched my father dying from cancer several years ago, we prayed for the miracle that would cure him or the mercy that would relieve him of his pain. God's mercy and love were great as he took my father in His arms, hugged him and welcomed him to the joy life everlasting! I can almost see Greg doing hand springs as he rushed forward yesterday to embrace the light of his life - our God and Father.
We have all been so blessed by the presence of Greg in our lives. How gracious of God to allow him to be with us for so long. Now may God's overwhelming love be felt in our hearts as we endure Greg's physical absence knowing that the power of his love and wisdom and joy are forever with us.
Ivy Cavegn and Vince Lechman <icavegn@usinternet.com>
St. Paul, MN Ramsey - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:42 AM CDT
gregs life and love continue in all of us who knew him. i will hold tight to his goodness, always. it was truely a privilege to have known greg. to gregs family, i am so sorry that you have had to deal with this dreadful disease, but now, find comfort in knowing that greg has found true peace. love francie crowley
francie crowley <mfc5010@aol.com>
concord, ma - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:39 AM CDT
Dear Beloved Family and Friends of Greg,
"Perhaps they are not the stars, but rather openings in heaven where the radiance of God shines through to
let us know that our loved ones are happy".
May you be consoled in knowing that your dear Greg has been freed from all of the physical difficulties he suffered with for so long with such courage, and that he is now in the loving arms of our Risen Lord, where his magnificent spirit and great love has found its Home and Source.
May you be comforted in remembering the gift you were blessed with in Greg, a glimpse of God's love and compassion visible in your midst, and a gifted and faithful servant of the Giver of all life and love.
May you be sustained by the realization that many hold Greg and you in tender love, share your grief in his physical absence, and will walk with you through this difficult time.
May the grace of our loving God, who knows our grief and sorrow, shares our joy, and calls us always to Himself
be with you in a special way as you continue this journey of faith, especially over the next days and weeks.
Peace be with you.
As Greg now knows the fullness of life and joy in the loving embrace of our Risen Lord, may you know comfort and consolation in the healing love of our Compassionate God.
Jackie W. <jw@benedictctr.org>
St. Paul, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:33 AM CDT
My heart is heavy with sadness upon hearing that Greg has passed over and yet also full of gratitude for Greg's life among us. His witness to God's love has been and continues to be inspiring.
Chris Sorensen Woodside <csorensenwoodside@faribaultcatholics.com>
Faribault, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:29 AM CDT
My thoughts and prayers are with all of the family and friends of Greg Tolaas.
Susie Cox <scox@dungarvin.com>
Denver, Co USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:18 AM CDT
God bless all of you for your constant care and love for Greg. I'm so sad he's left us but so glad he's at peace. What a wonderful life he led, what a wonderful example and gift to all of us. Thank you for sharing with us daily; another gift from Greg.
Barb Lammers McGivern, UST '90 <barbara.mcgivern@westgroup.com>
eagan, mn usa - Monday, September 8, 2003 10:15 AM CDT
God saw him geting tired and a cure was not to be, so He put HIs arms around him and whispered, "Come with Me." With tearful hearts we watched him slowly fade away. Although we loved him dearly, we could not make him stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hard working hands to rest. God broke our hearts to prove to us He only takes the BEST....from my Father's funeral memorial.
J. Collodora
Fridley, MN Anoka - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:49 AM CDT
Dear Family, Friends, and all at St. Philip's,
Our deepest sympathy to all. We, as all do feel very lucky for having known Fr. Greg and the lessons that he taught us. From his first mass at St. Philip's to his work and compassion with "his" parish and neighborhood. As an altar server for years with Fr. Greg, I feel personally blessed to have gotten to be and pray with Fr. Greg and those moments will never be forgotten.
There should never truly be a goodbye to an individual such as Fr. Greg, only a THANK YOU. Fr. Greg will be deeply missed in all of our hearts.
Tony and Trisha Skajewski <askajewski@juno.com>
Belle Plaine, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:38 AM CDT
May God's blessings of Peace and Love be with each of you at this most trying time. Know that even though Greg is not with you in the physical form he will forever be with you in spirit. I have been blessed by your daily struggles even though I have never met any of you and am greatful for your Love that you shared with us. You are in my prayers, may the peace you have given to me bless each of you.
Tina Carmichael
Indianapolis, IN - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:26 AM CDT
Dear Tolaas Family:
My deepest sympathy and love to all of you. I've been a friend of Greg's for 30 years. Greg is probably the most amazing person I have ever known. My heart aches deeply to hear of his passing and I will never, ever forget him.
Sandy O'Connor Stake <sandy.stake@stpaul.com>
Hastings, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:26 AM CDT
My thoughts, prayers, and tears are with you. I can't help but thank Fr. Greg for bringing me closer to church and to God. Rest well with the angels.
Anthony Gardin (UST '99) <agardin@comcast.net>
Wheeling, IL 60090 - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:24 AM CDT
I Am So Glad For Having Known You.
Rest In Peace My Friend...
Walter J. Woodson <woodson@qwest.net>
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:21 AM CDT
I never met Greg - only heard about him through the stories of his relatives in Chicago. His courage and faith have inspired me and many others. I give thanks to God for the gift of his life and ministry to this world.
The Rev. George D. Smith <george@christchurchwinnetka.org>
Oak Park, IL U.S.A. - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:20 AM CDT
I am very sorry to learn of Fr. Greg's passing and praying he has received his Heavenly reward. He was an inspiration to us of how to live with difficult times with strong faith.
May Almighty God Bless you and console you in this time.
Fr. Greg and you are in my prayers.
Darrel Salchert
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:19 AM CDT
Family and Friends of Greg, I was saddened by the news of Greg's passing however encouraged with the uplifting words in his journal. My sympathies to all of you and the prayers will continue as you go through these difficult times. Greg has touched many including myself and his words of encouragement to me are deep in my heart. May the Lord comfort you, embrace you and may His Grace, Mercy and Peace be with you all.
Kelly Schmidt
Minneapolis, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:13 AM CDT
I am so saddened by the news of Greg's death.In the too-short visits I was blessed to have with him over these past years, (mainly through our mutual friends,the Sisters of the Visitation) I experienced him as one of God's unique and illuminating gifts. He inspired me, cheered me,and made me feel better about life in the church- and just life in general!
Bro. Mickey O'Neill McGrath, OSFS <beeestill@aol.com>
Washington, DC - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:12 AM CDT
"I have known the blessing of sharing time on earth with another..."
I have known the blessing of sharing time on earth with another, one whom I have loved deeply. I have been enriched by their life, and I have felt diminished by their death. I have lived it all: the laughter and the tears, the singing and the sighing, the darkness and the light. I have known how the world can change before your eyes when you lose the one you love so much. I have felt lonely and alone. Like so many others, I have been acquainted with grief. Like so many others, I have been taught the mysterious lessons of mourning.
I have learned that as I release my hold, something will always remain, that as I bid farewell, someone will always abide. I have learned that love does not end--not even with death; it continues to express itself in ways ever new. I have learned when I am most alone, the Spirit of God accompanies me, when I am most afraid, the Promise of God comforts me, when I am most fragile, the Hand of God upholds me. I have begun to see that, however much I did not wish for this loss, my time of losing can also be a time of gaining. For I can come to understand and appreciate life as I never have before. I can experience and cherish growth as I would not otherwise do. I can share what I have in ways that might not otherwise be possible. I am learning to see the ways in which I have been blessed by the God who has walked with me through the grief of winter and who accompanies me into the grace of summer's new life.
O Thou full of compassion, I commit and commend myself unto Thee, in whom I am, and live, and know. Be Thou the Goal of my pilgrimage, and my Rest by the way. Let my soul take refuge from the crowding turmoil of worldly thoughts beneath the shadow of Thy wings; let my heart, this sea of restless waves, find peace in Thee, O God. Amen.
...St. Augustine
My deepest sympathy to all the Tolaas family. Thank you for sharing Greg's journey with us. Your love for Greg was truly inspiring! May God bless you abundantly in the challenging days, weeks and months ahead. Our thoughts and prayers will be with each one of you.
The O'Neil family
Eden Prairie, - Monday, September 8, 2003 9:08 AM CDT
I was very sorry to learn of Greg's passing. I did not know Greg. I became aware of his situation through an e-mail sent by UST. I read about his progress and prayed for him. And I was inspired by his struggle and courage. I am sorry I will not be able to meet him, yet my life has been touched by his. My deepest sympathies to his family.
Rick Thonet <rthonet@yahoo.com>
St. Paul, MN USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:59 AM CDT
My prayers and sympathy are with all of Greg's wonderful family of brother, sisters and friends. All take care in this most sad of times.
Enid
Bloomington, - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:46 AM CDT
Jan and Beth, family and friends, my prayers will be with you as you celebrate Greg's wonderous life. Thank you immensely for updating this website with your beautiful words! Every time I checked in, I felt I was reading a prayer. The first time I met Fr. Greg was when he assisted at my sister's wedding (Rose and Tom Winkels) I remember feeling he was a special man, I could see as the years went by that he indeed was!
Thanks again for all you have done for those who cared for Fr. Greg!
Cheryl Dymit <CHDymit@aol.com>
Prior Lake, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:42 AM CDT
Dear Maureen, Tim, Laura, Beth, Dale, Jim, Jan and all family and friends,
Our deepest sympathy to all you. Greg has fought the fight and has finally come up victorious. We were hoping for a different outcome (selfishly, I guess), but rejoice with Greg, now, as he is welcomed to the banquet of life God has prepared for us.
Greg, rest in peace and inhale deeply and freely the breath of the Holy One with whom you now rest.
"Receive Greg's soul, and present him to God the most high."
Eric & Jeannie Dahlberg
Princeton , MN Mille Lacs - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:40 AM CDT
Our thoughts and prayers to the entire family and all those who have spent many hours by his bed side. We are deeply saddened that we, here on earth, will no longer be able to embrace Fr. Greg at mass, or to hear his powerful and moving words, but also rejoice in the life that Fr. Greg will now live, free from the earthly, physical burdens of his life. He touched so many and his life will live on through all he has touched. Thank you, Fr. Greg, for all you have done here on this earth. You truly are a saint who will never be forgotten. With love, admiration and repect.
Brent and Tara Collins
Minneapolis, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:37 AM CDT
My heartfelt sympathy to such a loving family. May you rejoice in your new life, Father Greg, and know that your gentle touch will continue in my life, and certainly that of my son, Josh Mogren. You have loved and mentored my family for at least twenty years as we also walked the path of cystic fibrosis. You celebrated my daughter Angela's funeral mass so beautifully, I am so grateful for your presence at that time, I hope you can give her a hug for me, I am sure she is waiting in a long line to greet you. I am also so proud that Josh was asked to be a speaker at the CFF Gala honoring you last year. Now, you have your great reward with the God you so love. Amen.
With love,
Christine Mogren-Meyer
Christine Mogren-Meyer <sparky2meyer@yahoo.com>
North St. Paul, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:28 AM CDT
Beth--
You and your family are so strong...I am so sorry for your loss. Your courage is an inspiration. Peace and blessings to you and yours--
with love, Bonnie Suzie and Hank Stone
Bonnie Stone
Stillwater, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:23 AM CDT
I was one who was hoping for a miraculous cure for Father Greg. I am deeply saddened,that we lost our wonderful pastor. I hope that we can continue on with everything that he has started. We know his suffering is over. He is with God.
Mary Rice <Bigmare1936@aol.com>
Mpls., Mn, USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:16 AM CDT
Dear Maureen, Tim and Laura, Beth, Jeanne and Jack
This is an astounding number of years from the day we heard of Greg's CF as an infant. He fought his whole life to stay well and gave the most valiant at the end. God will reward him for the wonderful life he lead from childhood on. Memories flood the mind with the things he said and did and the number of lives he touched. Take peace in the wonderful love and care you gave him and we will be praying and thinking of all of you in the days ahead. You are so close in our thoughts and prayers.
Love Joanne and all the Feyereisens
Joanne Feyereisen
St. Paul, MN Ramsey - Monday, September 8, 2003 8:12 AM CDT
No words come to mind at this time that can express how we feel. Fr. Greg has come to his reward...we WILL see you again.
Our family prays for yours.
In His name,
Stasiu, Suzanne, David, Robert, and Angelika Wiatros
S. Wiatros
St. Paul, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:59 AM CDT
We are relatively new members of St Philip, about a year, but have felt most welcomed and accepted. Yesterday at mass as we ‘prayed Greg home’ I felt a most powerful presence and absence. Greg’s physical absence, which is now certain. But his ‘presence’ must always continue as his legacy, his gift to this community. In his vision and actions, in how he lived his life and in how he died. I think he would be very sad if we did not carry this forward.
I will never forget how beautifully he sung the Eucharistic prayer at the Easter Vigil.
John Kadlec <jkadlec1@mn.rr.com>
Minneapolis, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:59 AM CDT
To the Family of Fr. Greg,
Our prayers, love and condolences at the loss of Father Greg.
The Maloney's
M Maloneu
Erin, WI St. Croix - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:51 AM CDT
Tolaas Family - I am so saddened to hear of your beloved brother Greg's death....I have been following along his journey these past months - and a wonderful brother, friend and priest has gone on to better things - pain and illness free. I met Greg once - at the Hill-Murray Distinguished Alum dinner a few years ago....he will be remembered by so many whose lives he touched in so many ways. My prayers and sympathy to all of you.
Sue Kainz - President - Hill-Murray Alumni Association. <skainz@gmcc.org>
Cottage Grove, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:50 AM CDT
I have been following along for months now. I am so saddened to hear of your (and all of ours) loss. Fr. Greg, I never met you, but I followed along and prayed for you. I now pray that you are at peace. You are such an inspiration. RIP.
An admirer
- Monday, September 8, 2003 7:33 AM CDT
I am shaken by the news of Greg's passing. Not saddened, because I had a chance to hear Greg as he approached this whole process almost two years ago. He knew the difficult path he chose and remained always optimistic about how this experience might be of help others.
The struggles of the past months have been difficult, to be sure. And selfishly we would have all hoped for a different outcome.
I have always admired the way Greg approahced his condition,his ever positive attitude and his ability to speak the Gospel clearly. Hearing him sing was itself an experience of prayer.
I will miss Greg, but at the same time I give thanks for the many ways he has demonstrated unselfish and generous love for the people of God. May the compassion of Christ be with you as you mourn the loss of your brother, friend, pastor.
Jon Shelley <frjon@stjudeofthelake.org>
Mahtomedi, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:09 AM CDT
After reading many of the entries from people who miss Greg so much,there is one who will miss Greg terribly who cannot write a note & that's Kelly. The minute I read of Greg's death, I thought of Greg's dog, Kelly. Our companion animals know instinctively when their special person has died. From the photo on the Website, it was very clear that Greg & Kelly had really bonded. Kelly is obviously a very special dog. I hope a very special person will open heart & home to Kelly.
Maureen O'Brien
Minneapolis, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:08 AM CDT
Dear God,
Thank you so much for Greg's life and the Christ like example he gave to us. We all need people in our lives whom we can draw from. There are those like Mary, Mother Threasa, Archbishop Ramero, Gandi, and many others but we also need people we know in our personal lives whom we can learn from.
Thank you GREG
Peace to You and your loving legacy.
Mike
PS. Thank you all whom allowed us to be a part of this chapter. This time has given me the opportunity to reconnect with so many wonderful people. May we continue to love.
Mike Ott & Family <mnmmaf@uol.com.br>
Joao Pessoa, Brazil - Monday, September 8, 2003 7:07 AM CDT
Well, Greg,
Hallelujah! You finally burst forth from our cocoon of prayer and spread your wings to fly! Might I say that your wings are magnificent, for like nearly everything else about you, they clearly reflect the light of God.
When I told her, Elizabeth cried a moment and then said, “Mom, I think we sent him too many angels. They were supposed to get him better, not take him to heaven.”
It appears there were a lot of misunderstood messages in our prayer, though ultimately, I think we all prayed the will of God upon you--and into our own lives. We did pray you home after all, for you never really belonged to us, to St. Philip’s or even to this world, but to God, alone. In praying you home, we prayed you into the perfect presence of God.
And, yet, you can never really leave us. Look what you have done to us! You have transformed us by your cocoon into a people united in prayer! You have bound us as one voice, a voice that cries out for Love to be manifest in the world, indeed to transform the world as love has transformed us, a voice that sings of the love of God.
Although I feel the freedom of your flight, I find myself crying rivers of grief when I think of you. Not FOR you. No, for you, I feel deepest joy and unbound freedom. This searing ache is my own heart tearing! I am angry that you have been taken from us so soon! Our conversation wasn’t done! There was a lot more you were going to tell me. Your last e-mail, indeed, almost all your e-mails say, “more later.” How will I continue to unwind each of the theological threads we began--without you? It's not just your wisdom I will miss, but also your keen sarcastic wit--and your laugh! How will I find my way THROUGH this present darkness without your light?
Yet, if there is one thing I heard from you--loud and clear--it is that our time on this earth is too short to worry about petty differences. Focus on loving one another. Do it concretely. Do it now. Love is the answer. Love is the ONLY answer. So I suppose I‘ll just have to throw myself deeper into the same source of light you found and keep walking in His love until I find myself at the gates of heaven.
Oh, and that party where you are going to serve, it’s the wedding feast of the Lamb, isn’t it? I knew there was no banquet hall in this world big enough to contian that party! In the face of eternity, it is just a blink away. I’ll see you there, brother. Save a dance for me.
Love,
Peg Helminski <PegHelminski@aol.com>
Woodbury, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 6:57 AM CDT
Dear Beth, Maureen, Tim, Laura, Dale, Jan and all those who loved Greg. I am holding you all in my heart and my prayers as you grieve for our beloved Greg. He gave so freely of himself to others, he taught us to live "outside the box," he always told us how much God loves us, he was an inspiration to all who knew him. He will be greatly missed, but I feel so blessed to have known him. May God put his arms around you and hold you close.
With love, prayers, and sympathy, Lee-Anne
Lee-Anne Kantorowicz
Crystal, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 6:20 AM CDT
To ALL of Greg's family,
My deepest and heartfelt sympathy! Greg touched all of our lives in a very special way. I have had the pleasure of knowing Greg for over 30 years and I have been richly blessed by his presence in my life in many ways! The words "He will be missed" do not even scratch the surface. He is now resting in the arms of Our Father.
I cry because Greg's life is over, but I also smile because his life happened.
May the angels lead you into paradise Greg!
Lynn Oestreich Nolan <lynndnolan@yahoo.com>
Woodbury, MN Washington - Monday, September 8, 2003 6:14 AM CDT
To Greg's blood family, friendship family, St. Philip's parish family, and brothers in the ordained priesthood,
Sincere sympathy to all of you and all of us (website community) at this very tender time. I had Greg as a student in the late 60's at Presentation of the BVM in Maplewood. It was the second semester of his 7th grade. He struck me then as having an unusual depth of character; yet he could also be a peer with his classmates. That continued depth of character evolved, and evolved, and evolved (no matter what particular journey he has been on) while never losing the human touch. Greg indeed was a priest's priest. His legacy is profound. And, it seems to me, we are all better persons for having known Greg.Deep gratitude to whoever wrote the Sunday 7 pm'ish entry.It was most uplifting. Deep gratitude again for all the entries written, that kept us so informed. Greg's spirit is with us all, a blessing and grace to be sure. Eternal rest and breath grant unto him, O Lord.
Peace,
Geraldine
Geraldine Nowak, OSF <gnowak@toast.net>
Toledo, OH - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:46 AM CDT
September 7, 2003...."It's a great day for Greg....and a sad day for the rest of us".... Took me a few hours of tears and prayers and now a sleepless night...Thanks for all your many miracles, Greg..and I know we will experience many, many more...I pray you will send your spirit down to bring healing and hope to all those needing your loving touch...and please...blow generously the Spirit's breath upon all of us now. Empower us to continue building up God's Kingdom here on earth as you so lovingly and graciously taught us how to do. And Greg..a prayer request: Will you take all our pain and all our sorrow and lay them at Jesus' feet for us? Thanks for all your love. May God abundantly bless all of Greg's family, friends and caregivers now with comfort and deep peace.
Rita Horwath <rita.horwath@comcast.net>
Woodbury, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 3:27 AM CDT
To Greg--goodbye my friend! For all you have given in God's name, I am grateful. With tears rolling from my eyes--I will miss your wonderful examples of unconditional love, your wonderful witness for all of us...your incredible sense of humor, you wonderful song...your spirit.
To Beth...and other family...what a wonderful example you have been to me in Greg's illness and passing. Incredible faith...incredible love...incredible resilience. May you be comforted in the love of family and friends...and may the angels (including Greg) give you great solace. May the peace of God bless us all.
Don Taylor
Golden Valley, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 2:39 AM CDT
What an exhausting journey. My heart aches. May Fr Greg's new found peace comfort those who feel left behind.
A friend from Tranny
Lake Elmo, MN - Monday, September 8, 2003 1:45 AM CDT
It's late but I was surfing the web and clicked on my favorites and was drawn to the caringbridge link. I check as often as I have the time and pray for good news about Greg. Today was a sad day, but as a Christian know that we should be happy for Greg as he is in a better place and has served the Lord on earth in a way many of us can only hope to. He was truly a living example of what it means to be a servant of the Lord. May God Bless his family and may God recieve him into the House of the Lord with open arms. He has touched so many more lives than he possibly knows through his illness and through this wonderful website and technology that connects so many people from around the globe. May Greg rest in peace and look down upon us all.
The Riley's
- Monday, September 8, 2003 0:46 AM CDT
Dearest Beth, Maureen, Tim, Laura, Jan, Fr. Dale & All: My tears flowed like a river when I read the news of dear Greg's passing. It has taken me nearly an hour to compose myself enough to type this. One of the first thoughts I had was yes we did indeed pray him home, sadly for us all not to St. Philips parish but to an even more wonderful place to be with our Lord. I had the great privilege to attend Mass at St. Philips yesterday at 4:30 and to pray the first day of the Novena of Healing Prayer for Greg. I could feel his spirit present in the church and the congregation. Our God did indeed heal Greg with a healing beyond compare! For all of us left in this life there is much sorrow and pain at his passing and yet we all know because of our faith that he is safe, secure and at peace with our Lord and for that we do indeed rejoice! Fr. Greg was through and through a dedicated, loving, kind and compassionate priest who showed by his actions what the priesthood is to be about. Praise God!! My deepest sympathy to you all at this very difficult time. You will all be in my prayers and will be held up in prayer daily in prayer at Christ Church Anglican/Episcopal Cathedral here in Eau Claire as well as by our prayer chain. Our prayers will NOT cease!
The almighty and merciful Lord, Father, Son and Holy Spirit bless you and keep you.
Ron Hall - Christ Church Cathedral
Eau Claire, WI - Monday, September 8, 2003 0:10 AM CDT
For all these many days we have prayed for our brother Greg, his doctors and caregivers, his family, parish, his friends as well as the donors family. We have all been drawn closer to our God through this difficult time. We are blessed to be a part of this prayer community of believers. We are blessed to have known a man who loved God and all people so deeply, that he caused us to want to love that deeply.
Greg, you will be missed, but not forgotten.
And we continue to pray...
M. Adam and family
N St. Paul, - Monday, September 8, 2003 0:07 AM CDT
TO the family of Greg Tolaas: I am saddened to learn of the death of Greg. From reading the entries in the guestbook, he has continued to be the amazing person that he was when I met him in 30 years ago. Greg was one of the people who helped me deal with my grandmother's death in 1974. He helped me realize that I had a special person looking out for me in heaven. I am only sorry that I lost touch with him for so many years. I hope the fact that Greg is in heaven watching over you is some comfort at this time. May you be blessed in the days and weeks and months to come with the comfort and love of our Lord Jesus Christ.
Theresa Babler <tbabler@gorge.net>
Goldendale, WA USA - Monday, September 8, 2003 0:06 AM CDT
There is a new angel in Heaven. I am so sad, but know that Fr. Greg is pain free and in a beautiful place. I met him in high school and again at St. Thomas. He inspired me not to be afraid, face my problems head on, and to love. He helped me overcome anorexia and depression. He talked to me and prayed with me in some of the darkest days of my life. He taught me that love is the answer. He made a huge impact in my life. My prayers are with all his family and friends. He will never be forgotten. His legacy will live on in all of us that he inspired.
a friend
minneapolis, mn - Monday, September 8, 2003 0:05 AM CDT
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